SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Ok so as some of you know, i ended a longtime friendship with a girl i was headover heels for for many years, a few months back. Short story, i was still in love with her, although we were only ever friends(much to my dismay). I did it for my well being, as it still drove me crazy eveytime she got a boyfriend. This is my only question. Her birthday is coming up in about a month or so. Would it be inapropriate to not wish her a happy birthday. I mean she knows i dont want anything to do with her anymore. And im afraid this might create an opening where things would get 'better' and our friendship would resume(which I REALLY dont want...er the just friends thing anyways ). Anyway, discuss. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 If you remember her b-day and call her to wish her a good day...it's hope!! I broke up with my ex 2 days before my b-day and it was also my anniversary and to tell you the truth I didn't want the agony of talking to him and having nothing to say to him if he did call...she knows you know her b-day and she expects you to call but for what?? It's done with...if anything maybe text message her on her phone or something...proper for all the past years and you don't need to talk and bring up conversation...you also get your point across which is to wish her a happy b-day Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 I agree with NSN... a text message is just saying "Hey Happy Birthday" You don't have the awkward conversation..she knows you remembered. and thats it. It's simple and gets the point across. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Author Share Posted March 8, 2005 Its strange, i've know her forever yet i get nervous just thinking about having to say something to her again...BAH!! Women and thier evil hotness. It is my cryptonite!!....er ....kryptonite....either is acceptable i guess. I think I will just turn gay.....although there is the whole not liking guys thing to overcome. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Nah. I would say don't call. I have a new policy where if I am starting to feel "those feelings" for someone I institute NC summarily, without discussion, and without further contemplation. Unhealthy interaction? Well we had this saying in massage school (I went to massage school last year but didn't even get licensed) - "If it hurts, DON'T DO IT" Kind of applies to real life, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Author Share Posted March 8, 2005 Hey otter, i know this is off topic, but i've always wanted to take courses in massage. How was it. Oh back to the topic, ya you are probably right. I've just gotten a clean break from all that, no sense opening up that can of worms again. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Originally posted by SuperFantastico Hey otter, i know this is off topic, but i've always wanted to take courses in massage. How was it. Oh back to the topic, ya you are probably right. I've just gotten a clean break from all that, no sense opening up that can of worms again. Word. You can still wish her a happy b-day. In your head. Massage was pretty cool. The thing I couldn't handle about it was the whole transferring energy - I would massage someone in clinic and be totally run down afterward. I couldn't handle massaging strangers on a regular basis. Other people seem to be ok, but my bestfriend Roxi does it and I noticed that on days when she has a lot of clients, she is spacy and not as sociable.....Also I dunno where you are from, but NY requires like 1000 hours of study to practice as an LMT. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperFantastico Posted March 8, 2005 Author Share Posted March 8, 2005 I think massaging old men would kinda creep me out. I can see where you would think there is a transferance of energy. Actually i always found it relaxing. Perhaps i was transferring my negative energy to them..........excellent......... Uh im up around the toronto canada area. As for becoming a professional massage person(i dont know how to spell massuse..... ) i'd probably only do it for a personal lesson. Then when i get me a woman, i can dazzle her with my fingers of fury...uh calming fury.... Then again, being able to put a woman to sleep every time i touch her would probably have way too many drawbacks......unless...... j/k Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 Not to hijack your thread, but it sucks because no one wants to massage YOU (I'm not as good as you are).... Link to post Share on other sites
Tracee0404 Posted March 8, 2005 Share Posted March 8, 2005 wow. If you didnt have a picture up, I would guess that I was that girl friend. I am in that same position. My bday is in about a month and while my friend and I currently aren't talking, I would just like to say that I hope he does call. It would mean a lot to me. But if he doesn't, I guess I understand why.... Link to post Share on other sites
greeneyedgirl23 Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 I know how it is to have strong feelings, and want to call so badly, but can't. I don't think you should call her, obviously you have feelings for her and are a caring person, but to your benifit you shouldn't call. I'm just saying that because I'm looking out for your feelings. What if she does start coming around again, and calling and trying to resume things with you? It has been hard for you to get over her (this far) and if she comes back into your life, those feelings very well may follow, and then its back to where you were. Be careful! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperFantastico Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 Ah i love you guys. Thanks for all the posts. I have decided to not call her. And no tracy it isnt you I figure as i said previously, that I have gotten out of this relationship(a strong word but fitting) cleanly this time. No anger was involved, no blame being thrown around. I just finally came to the conclusion that it wasnt what i wanted or needed anymore. So i am sticking to my guns. I have informed her of my decision, and through hell or high water i will stay the course(as bush would say). Otter, i have always enjoyed giving as much as recieving. Perhaps more. I'm sure you'll get yourself a guy who will give a sweet massage Ok folks, peace out Greeneyes, carful is my middle name.....no seriously....whats with my parents?! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by SuperFantastico Otter, i have always enjoyed giving as much as recieving. Perhaps more. I'm sure you'll get yourself a guy who will give a sweet massage Ok folks, peace out Oh yeah? Well give ME some. Hahaha, just kidding. My exbestfriend is going to a concert I'm going to and it KILLS me because I would rather, to be honest, just not go and not run in to him. I hate that he has to be such an a**h*** to me for no reason. a**h***. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuperFantastico Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 *starts to massage otter mentally.....oops massaging old man in sweden, damn internet connections* Just push him into the mosh pit ...er...unless you are going to some happy pop concert.......but you can start a mosh pit then throw him....bah screw it, just punch him in the throat LOL Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by SuperFantastico Just push him into the mosh pit ...er...unless you are going to some happy pop concert.......but you can start a mosh pit then throw him....bah screw it, just punch him in the throat LOL Feh. It's a Talib Kwali concert - hip hop and rap. What a big baby. He is a hippie who likes Phish and Simon and Garfunkel. Why is he going to a hip hop concert? Because he is a codependent lonely bastard. My friend Keith and I were talking last night and he was like, man after you guys stopped hanging out he glommed onto me like a wet noodle and now i Have to peel that bastard off of me. Codependent a**h***. Lonely, codependent freakish a**h***. He can rot. I dropped off a box of his stuff yesterday while he was at work in the evening because I didn't want to see him, and then he called Keith (of course) and was like, hey did you know otter was dropping this stuff off? I didn't even want the sweaters, but I wanted the book. Well I WANT MY 225 DOLLARS BACK FROM YOU a**h***. And all the other sh*t you have at your house that belongs to me. But whatever. I should have stolen the 20 lbs. bag of dogfood in his porch. Anyways it wasn't about me giving him his sh*t back, it was about me not wanting any of his sh*t in my house any more. Man this is like a bad breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
OCGirl Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 SuperFantastico !!!!!!!!! Grrrrr...don't make me spank you!! lol In the end, wish her a happy birthday! Be the better person here! I know how hard it is. You know I enedd mine, although mine was a little different with weirdo FWB being the one with the feelings but umm I actually have them too. I am just a witch with a b when it comes to that. Well, not really, just protective of my heart. I do really love him and it's hard not to jsut slap him and blurt it out but I am being the better person by ignoring his childish games and keeping the friendship alive. It's gonna bother you if you don't so go ahead. Take the chance rather than have it on your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
greeneyedgirl23 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 DONT DO IT!!!!! It will make it look like you are still chasing her. Don't give her the satisfaction, and don't give yourself the broken heart!!! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by OCGirl SuperFantastico !!!!!!!!! Grrrrr...don't make me spank you!! lol In the end, wish her a happy birthday! Be the better person here! I know how hard it is. You know I enedd mine, although mine was a little different with weirdo FWB being the one with the feelings but umm I actually have them too. I am just a witch with a b when it comes to that. Well, not really, just protective of my heart. I do really love him and it's hard not to jsut slap him and blurt it out but I am being the better person by ignoring his childish games and keeping the friendship alive. It's gonna bother you if you don't so go ahead. Take the chance rather than have it on your mind. Yeah. Um. Riiiiight. I'm going to have to disagree with you on that one. Being the bigger person means moving on with your life and not dwelling. NO longer friends? NO longer wishing happy birthday. I mean come on. Otherwise you look cray-zeeee. And Super? Keep massaging, dern it. I will tell you when you can stop. Haaaaaaahahaha. Link to post Share on other sites
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