genuinelyloverly7 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 So, as a nearly 35 year old woman (who dates men her own age), if I use the word cute towards men I am seeing, it is to show I like a part of him, without being forward. As in, 'your beard is cute' translates to=I'd like to see it under my skirt; but I'm not going to reveal how easy I am on the first date! I don't think I'd ever say it to a guy who I just saw on the street. (Oh, your so cute!=a little condescending) But a man I'm not interested in (who approached me)? I'd probably use it as a way of being polite, and telling him that it isn't his looks, but he just isn't my style. As in, your quite cute, but I'm seeing someone else. It's about body language. For me at least. But now that I have heard so many men express distaste at the word's over usage, I will try to find another adjective to cover the concept. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 Mr. Nate, you rugged sex god you. Your flattery is going to get you everywhere. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 So, as a nearly 35 year old woman (who dates men her own age), if I use the word cute towards men I am seeing, it is to show I like a part of him, without being forward. As in, 'your beard is cute' translates to=I'd like to see it under my skirt; but I'm not going to reveal how easy I am on the first date! I don't think I'd ever say it to a guy who I just saw on the street. (Oh, your so cute!=a little condescending) But a man I'm not interested in (who approached me)? I'd probably use it as a way of being polite, and telling him that it isn't his looks, but he just isn't my style. As in, your quite cute, but I'm seeing someone else. It's about body language. For me at least. But now that I have heard so many men express distaste at the word's over usage, I will try to find another adjective to cover the concept. I see you've given this some thought I definitely don't think it's a bad thing, just that sometimes It's nice to add a little raw-ness in there. Just how I like it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 I'll trade you being called 'cute' for getting 'i'm busy, maybe some other time' 99% of the time. Yikes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 It's your age. will change as you get older. Hey now, 30's already creepin' closer. If I could start seeing at least some signs now, I'd be a happy man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 There is something weird about an adult calling another one 'cute'. Might be geography as Got It said but it's just weird. I get called beautiful occasionally and I always thank the person that says it even if he is a stranger because it is such a nice thing to say. Otherwise compliments from people my age tend not to be looks-based. That's what I'm sayin'. Where does the rite of passage from 'cute' into masculine stud muffin begin here? Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I'll take 'cute' over 'those bags under your eyes are more prominent today for some reason'. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 Yes I don't consider it necessarily as a compliment. I find it is usually because I did something fairly animated or was very earnest and find it a loving but condescending compliment. I have more doll like features so have always thought to be younger than my years. I am mid 30's and thought to be in my 20's. I am not complaining but it does get old especially in a work setting. You can be initially underestimated because of it. Probably why I am so dominant in my approach to things. To off set this piece. Puppies are cute, kittens are cute; I don't to be cute. Beautiful is okay, stunning is better, intelligent is even better, impressive would be the best compliment. Well, I do think you're stunning. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I usually get called cute or cutie when a woman finds me attractive. Sometimes I get called handsome too. I'm 28 but without a beard I could pass for being in the 19-22 age range. Not sure if that's a good thing or not. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I usually get called cute or cutie when a woman finds me attractive. Sometimes I get called handsome too. I'm 28 but without a beard I could pass for being in the 19-22 age range. Not sure if that's a good thing or not. It's not a bad thing. Do you know the actor James McAvoy? He's sex on legs, IMO and he looks rather young for his age. Nate, I call all kinds of things cute : skirts, pets, men, my lovely old mom . No offence intended. Fact is, you DO have a terrific smile. Then when those dreads dangle around your face, mmmfff! Cutie! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 (edited) It's not a bad thing. Do you know the actor James McAvoy? He's sex on legs, IMO and he looks rather young for his age. Nate, I call all kinds of things cute : skirts, pets, men, my lovely old mom . No offence intended. Fact is, you DO have a terrific smile. Then when those dreads dangle around your face, mmmfff! Cutie! lol girls usually do think I have a great smile. I look more mature with a beard, but I could still pass for being 3 to 5 years younger even with a beard. I also have hazel eyes. Edit: Didn't realize the second part was for the poster above me. But at least you know about my sexy good looks...... Edited October 6, 2014 by NJ123 Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Edit: Didn't realize the second part was for the poster above .. See! Cute! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 See! Cute! Well, now you know I'm cute so let's grab a drink. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Well, now you know I'm cute so let's grab a drink. I'm engaged. But that kind of confidence is refreshing on this board. They could use your example in the Dating forum! Go, NJ, go! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I'm engaged. But that kind of confidence is refreshing on this board. They could use your example in the Dating forum! Go, NJ, go! lol well I was just joking around since you live on the other side of the U.S. I live in New Jersey, which I guess is obvious from my user name. Link to post Share on other sites
genuinelyloverly7 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I see you've given this some thought I definitely don't think it's a bad thing, just that sometimes It's nice to add a little raw-ness in there. Just how I like it. I started to think about it when I read this post- DO I use 'cute' excessively? No; I feel like I rarely use it, when I can find a better or more expressive adjective. But like cussing, it slips out when your inundated with it for long periods of times. Man, wouldn't I love to add a little rawness to my life! I need to find a raw-minded community! But the men I find myself around on a day to day basis (Texas) interpret rawness as an immediate desire get them naked, or a tease if they lack self-confidence. Unless it is in a place where it can be taken in context- like a swingers club... where they are already naked (and the rules are generally already understood)! Haha... okay, really now. If I called a guy a stud muffin, he'd probably not even know what that is. I'm surprised you do, at 'nearly 30'. It's so 80's! I love it. But if by rawness you mean sexy spontaneity in their flirty conversation with you (and not just straight sexual innuendo), I think most women really only do that with someone they have decided to have sex with, or feel understand their personal boundaries. Ladies (and men with experience), what's your opinion on this? But in my final analysis, I think if women do this (use words like 'cute') it is because it ages them. As in, they think they seem younger, by using girlish words. You (and all men) should let women know it is sexy for a woman to be a grown woman in her mind! Not just as MILF's. When teenagers see body type as the only way to seem grown, intelligence is not going to get a real foothold as a standard of maturity. Not that this is a new issue... And I have to say, men have something to do with this. Well, them and the big business media/consumer nation we have created and acceded to, but let's just address men for now. You, men, young men especially, need to emphasize that you like intelligence in a woman, and in other ways than by checking out the hot librarian. I am NOT saying all, or even most men are like this, but as men are generally portrayed as liking a type- break that stereotype! Let people know that you like intelligence... and that includes choosing who you hang out with. If you like women who use a more adult language, go find some women of that type. I'm not saying to go date 'older' women, but more mature women. For both friends and consorts. Good luck, handsome, yet oh-so-manly and testosterone-producing LS'er. May you shave a thousand beards by dinner-time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 It's not a bad thing. Do you know the actor James McAvoy? He's sex on legs, IMO and he looks rather young for his age. Nate, I call all kinds of things cute : skirts, pets, men, my lovely old mom . No offence intended. Fact is, you DO have a terrific smile. Then when those dreads dangle around your face, mmmfff! Cutie! You always know what to say. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 (edited) I think "cute" coming from a girl can be given with a bit of deception. If she's saying that, she probably likes you and is trying to play it cool and not use a descriptor that'll inflate your ego and/or turn over all her cards. I'm fine with cute, it seems like a code word. However if she cracks and calls you "gorgeous," that's when you'll start feeling a little girly/objectified/uneasy about yourself. I've also learned some girls don't like being called "cute" (especially if they're short or youthful looking). They'd rather be "hot" or "sexy." Edited October 7, 2014 by normal person Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 As long as it is not used in reference to my penis...I have no issues with "cute" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 Well, I do think you're stunning. Thank you Nate. But I am waiting for impressive . . . . . . . . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrNate 2.0 Posted October 7, 2014 Author Share Posted October 7, 2014 Thank you Nate. But I am waiting for impressive . . . . . . . . Impressive it shall be. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 If I get called 'cute' or told I have a nice smile one more time..... Is it too much to ask to be called a 'rugged sex god' from time to time? Jeez. Objectify me a little. Of course I would LOVE to be called a 'bombshell' or 'sex goddess'... however, I'm alright with cute because, well I AM. Cute & Feisty all the time from friends and family. I have been approached one time in a bar and been told I'm beautiful. I married the guy. Maybe more men should do that if they want G/F's LOL* By the way OP, I LIKE 'cute' guys 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 When a woman finds me attractive it seems they always use the word cute or cutie. Sometimes they'd say I'm handsome. I'm 28 but without a beard I could pass for being 7 to probably even 10 years younger. I could probably say I'm 18 to people & a lot of them would believe me. Not sure if that's a good or bad thing though. But I've seen some people my age that look like their in their 40s already. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted October 8, 2014 Share Posted October 8, 2014 If I get called 'cute' or told I have a nice smile one more time..... Is it too much to ask to be called a 'rugged sex god' from time to time? Jeez. Objectify me a little. I feel you. I am 45 and women STILL call me cute... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 8, 2014 Share Posted October 8, 2014 I feel you. I am 45 and women STILL call me cute... Neither you nor mrNate post like your cuties* but anyone younger than 32 I think is automatically cute, cause that is too young for me to think otherwise. Yeesh:p 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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