mikev123 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 Hey guys, me and my ex-girlfriend have been broken up for nearly 6 weeks now. I've wanted her back ever since it happened (she broke up with me), but I went NC for my own sake as I read so much about it on here. After 4 weeks I got a simple text off her saying she hoped I was ok, so I replied thanking her and saying I hoped she was too. 5 days later, she messaged me on a dating site (which was a very big surprise, thought I wouldn't hear from her again after that). We had a brief catch up and then she just stopped replying. 2 days later she sent me another message about an in joke we used to share and then again stopped replying. I sent her a message a couple of days later and low and behold, she replied a couple of times and then stopped again. I decided to just forget about this and move on, but then on Saturday night one of her best friends sent me a message on fb (I removed her when we broke up and she has never sent me a message on here before) also just bringing up a joke we had the last time I saw her. I know she was out with my ex at the time Am I over thinking all this? Does it just mean nothing? I know my ex is a very stubborn person so even if she did want me back she would never say it. I don't know whether to just come out and ask so at least I know. If it's a no, I can completely remove her and start fresh. What do you guys think? It all just seems like she's nudging me to do something, but won't do it herself. My friends are very confused by all this. Link to post Share on other sites
zen2475 Posted October 6, 2014 Share Posted October 6, 2014 I'm sorry, but I think you are reading too much into it. Having been the dumper before, I can relate to what she is doing. Something in the relationship was not working for her, so she let you go. That doesn't necessarily mean her feelings are gone, and I would say she misses you. I think at this point since her contact has been sporadic, I would ask her wants she wants. If it's not an unequivocal "I'm sorry, I messed up, I want you back and let's work on it", then you need space to heal. Her contact is to make herself feel better and is selfish. The only way you can move past this relationship is full NC. And that means asking her not to contact you, and you not answering phone calls, texts, smoke signals, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikev123 Posted October 6, 2014 Author Share Posted October 6, 2014 Yeah that's what I was worried about. I was thinking of maybe giving it one more week, because tbh I'm doing okay and I'm talking to another girl right now. It's not like I have all my eggs in this basket. If I don't get anything substantial then I may just ask why did you message me on this site then. If there is nothing concrete, I guess I have to completely remove her from my life. Don't know if this helps, but she is a couple of years younger than me at 20 so I don't think she wants a committed relationship right now where as I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikev123 Posted October 7, 2014 Author Share Posted October 7, 2014 So I asked her why she matched with me on this dating website and she said 'I didn't think you would'. Guess that's that then yeah? Link to post Share on other sites
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