The subtle signs that someone may have a crush on you

[Darren2013]

No matter how much effort a person puts into hiding their crush on someone there are some subtle clues that will leak out through body language and the eyes and certain behaviors no matter how much a person may verbally lie and deny liking you.

 

The following is a list I have come up with that are subtle clues that someone is crushing on you. This list applies to me as far as the subtle clues that leak out involuntary. If you know someone like me who exhibits these signs then there's a good chance they are crushing on you.

 

1. They make every effort to avoid looking at you but they will sneak looks at you when they think you do not see them. Your hope of catching them sneak a look at you is if you happen to be near a window and can see their reflection or you turn around halfway and catch them in your peripheral vision.

 

2. If they seem to act differently around you than others this is a good sign. They may give you alot more attention than others. If they are trying to hide something then they won't even give you the time of day. They will pretend you do not exist.

 

3. They laugh and smile at a distance for seemingly no reason at all and when someone points out that they are laughing at you they will deny it and explain it away for something else.

 

4. As their feelings progress for you they will become more self conscious around you. They will try too hard to be perfect around you. They may improve their appearance and the way they dress such as shaving and getting new clothes and making sure they are ironed without spot or wrinkle.

 

5. When they are around you all of a sudden the way they walk is out of the ordinary because they are so self conscious about you watching them.

 

6. They make every effort to avoid going to the same places at certain times that they know you will be there.

 

7. When you try to talk to them they have a blank look on their face and can barely get a word out of their mouth or they stutter on their words.

 

8. They have become clumsy around you lately and may even trip over something and not watch their step.

 

9. They never argue or disagree with you about anything even if they normally have a different opinion about something. They will always take your side on things.

 

10. When the person is crushing on you and trying to hide it and you two are gathered around mutual friends or coworkers the guy crushing on you may constantly talk around what he is really thinking in his head. The whole time he is thinking about you but talking about everything else under the sun and there is an elephant in the room kind of feeling that he is not acknowledging.

 

I may add more to this list as I study myself and see what other involuntary behaviors leak out of me over time. But if you met someone like me displaying several or all these signs then be suspect that they are crushing on you.

Edited October 7, 2014 by Darren2013

[Frank2thepoint]

Oh joy, yet another list on trying to decipher if a person likes you, rather than just talking to them directly and asking them out to find out if they do. Time for my sarcastic response. I apologize ahead of time for any offense.

 

 

1. They make every effort to avoid looking at you but they will sneak looks at you when they think you do not see them. Your hope of catching them sneak a look at you is if you happen to be near a window and can see their reflection or you turn around halfway and catch them in your peripheral vision.

 

You have a booger on your face. Probably right above your lips, or maybe in your eyebrow.

 

 

2. If they seem to act differently around you than others this is a good sign. They may give you alot more attention than others. If they are trying to hide something then they won't even give you the time of day. They will pretend you do not exist.

 

Maybe you are just a humorous person, that makes them laugh. They only see you as a source of entertainment, nothing else.

 

 

3. They laugh and smile at a distance for seemingly no reason at all and when someone points out that they are laughing at you they will deny it and explain it away for something else.

 

Refer back to number 1. You have a booger on your face.

 

 

4. As their feelings progress for you they will become more self conscious around you. They will try too hard to be perfect around you. They may improve their appearance and the way they dress such as shaving and getting new clothes and making sure they are ironed without spot or wrinkle.

 

The person feels insecure around you, and wants to prove they are equal or better than you. Quite superficial actually.

 

 

5. When they are around you all of a sudden the way they walk is out of the ordinary because they are so self conscious about you watching them.

 

The person may have a disability. You are being insensitive.

 

 

6. They make every effort to avoid going to the same places at certain times that they know you will be there.

 

The person is a stalker. Otherwise, it is pure coincidence. Most likely stalker.

 

 

7. When you try to talk to them they have a blank look on their face and can barely get a word out of their mouth or they stutter on their words.

 

They can't believe what comes out of your mouth. You probably made fun of the disabled person from number 5.

 

 

8. They have become clumsy around you lately and may even trip over something and not watch their step.

 

Oh wow, still going on with the "disability" bit?

 

 

9. They never argue or disagree with you about anything even if they normally have a different opinion about something. They will always take your side on things.

 

The person is looking for a favor. They are kissing your a*s, because they want you to do something for them.

 

 

10. When the person is crushing on you and trying to hide it and you two are gathered around mutual friends or coworkers the guy crushing on you may constantly talk around what he is really thinking in his head. The whole time he is thinking about you but talking about everything else under the sun and there is an elephant in the room kind of feeling that he is not acknowledging.

 

This sounds like a bunch of drunk people gathered around, making jokes.

[Darren2013]

All I am saying is that if you know someone who displays these signs then they are a twin version of myself crushing on you. I know what I am talking about because this is the way I act around someone I secretly like. The direct approach would not always work. If she asked me directly if I like her I would probably lie and tell her no. She would have to investigate other things besides what my lips say to get to the truth.

[Frank2thepoint]

If she asked me directly if I like her I would probably lie and tell her no.

 

Wow . It's great you are doing your part of making women post on LS about how she likes a boy, but the boy doesn't like her back. Real smooth.

[Darren2013]

That's where I come in and try to shed some light on the possibility that the guy may be hiding his interest for all kinds of reasons. She doesn't have to give up hope right away based on what comes out of his mouth.

 

 

Subtle clues involuntary leak out when someone tries to hide things. You may disagree but it won't be long before a female poster makes a thread and asks does this guy like me? I get to jump in with my 2 cents and depending on her story and how the guy is acting I will say if he is anything like me I would say there's hope.

Edited October 7, 2014 by Darren2013

[Redhead14]

That's where I come in and try to shed some light on the possibility that the guy may be hiding his interest for all kinds of reasons. She doesn't have to give up hope right away based on what comes out of his mouth.

 

 

Subtle clues involuntary leak out when someone tries to hide things. You may disagree but it won't be long before a female poster makes a thread and asks does this guy like me? I get to jump in with my 2 cents and depending on her story and how the guy is acting I will say if he is anything like me I would say there's hope.

 

It doesn't matter what subtle signs a man or a woman displays. It only matters when they come to you and make it clear to you.

 

Thinking about whether they like you based on subtle things is irrelevant because there isn't anything you can or should do about it. Live your life, have fun and let things happen naturally. When you start thinking about all these little things and you too are interested, you might do things that inadvertently turn them off without even realizing it.

[Gloria25]

It doesn't matter what subtle signs a man or a woman displays. It only matters when they come to you and make it clear to you.

 

Thinking about whether they like you based on subtle things is irrelevant because there isn't anything you can or should do about it. Live your life, have fun and let things happen naturally. When you start thinking about all these little things and you too are interested, you might do things that inadvertently turn them off without even realizing it.

 

Uh, I think the point of his thread is not that he's obsessing over those subtle things he listed, but that he's bringing awareness of those subtle things to others - just in case they are looking for signs that someone is into them...

 

The only thing that would stump me is someone denying their crushing on you when/if you approach them...But then again, I revert back to Redhead's post - which kinda says you shouldn't push things and just let them happen naturally... No one likes to be pressured into something, even if the interest is already there.

[MissBee]

I'm not one for clues that someone has a "crush" on me.

 

You like me and are gonna do something about it or not.

 

I just feel like if you're not in middle school or high school then it's kind of silly to be all coy and shy and sit around guessing if someone likes you. You post a lot about your "crush" on this woman at your work and for me it just seems tiresome for grown people to be sooooooo caught up with someone else but won't do anything about it. What's the point at the end of the day really? To just sit and stew in your secret crush?? Okay...

 

Sitting there trying to decipher clues is a waste of time IMO. What is the purpose of this? If even if she asks you deny it, why would she investigate? It's a waste IMO. As a giggly, boy-crazy teenager maybe you gain some satisfaction out of investigating with your friends and playing MASH to figure out who likes you and if you'll marry them...but as an adult woman, who has the time to sit around investigating SECRET clues. Oh please .

 

You like me, you act like you like me, and we do something about it or we don't. If I think a dude is into me yet he never does anything I eventually forget about him and move on. I don't sit around investigating his every flinch and twitch and worse if somehow I asked him and he denied it...why would I not drop the subject and move on? Why would I think 'He's lying...let me investigate!" It's pointless lol.

Edited October 8, 2014 by MissBee

[Darren2013]

I'm not one for clues that someone has a "crush" on me.

 

You like me and are gonna do something about it or not.

 

I just feel like if you're not in middle school or high school then it's kind of silly to be all coy and shy and sit around guessing if someone likes you. You post a lot about your "crush" on this woman at your work and for me it just seems tiresome for grown people to be sooooooo caught up with someone else but won't do anything about it. What's the point at the end of the day really? To just sit and stew in your secret crush?? Okay...

 

Sitting there trying to decipher clues is a waste of time IMO. What is the purpose of this? If even if she asks you deny it, why would she investigate? It's a waste IMO. As a giggly, boy-crazy teenager maybe you gain some satisfaction of investigating with your friends and playing MASH to figure out who likes you and if you'll marry them...but as an adult woman, who has the time to sit around investigating SECRET clues. Oh please .

 

You like me, you act like you like me, and we do something about it or we don't. If I think a dude is into me yet he never does anything I eventually forget about him and move on. I don't sit around investigating his every flinch and twitch and worse if somehow I asked him and he denied it...why would I not drop the subject and move on? Why would I think 'He's lying...let me investigate!" It's pointless lol.

 

 

Why would he deny his feelings for you? Depending on the circumstances maybe he is not sure it is a good idea to fall for you and he thinks that by verbally denying things he is keeping himself from falling any harder for you. A blatant denial is his way of saying "I have started to fall for you but I don't want to fall for you for various reasons". So this kind of denial is not necessarily a rejection of you but a defense mechanism to protect himself.

 

It is possible that he is afraid of falling so hard to such a degree that he can no longer see straight and be objective and think practically about the long term ramifications of things.

[MissBee]

Why would he deny his feelings for you? Depending on the circumstances maybe he is not sure it is a good idea to fall for you and he thinks that by verbally denying things he is keeping himself from falling any harder for you. A blatant denial is his way of saying "I have started to fall for you but I don't want to fall for you for various reasons". So this kind of denial is not necessarily a rejection of you but a defense mechanism to protect himself.

 

It is possible that he is afraid of falling so hard to such a degree that he can no longer see straight and be objective and think practically about the long term ramifications of things.

 

It doesn't matter is the point. If someone likes you but for WHATEVER reason won't or can't do anything about it, it is just as well if they did not, as their like or crush has no bearing on actual reality if it is something they just keep in their head or requires investigations, clues and so forth which still amount to nothing.

 

If you don't want to have feelings for me or you're afraid of whatever...what does ANY of it have to do with me? How would it provide me any solace? How does it make my life any better knowing it? It doesn't. You can continue with your secret crush and you can continue to not do anything about it and life will go on. And the point too as I said, if I asked a man if he liked me and he denied it or gave me the speech you just gave, I'd simply be like "Ohh ok" and would move on.What else is there to do? When you have a crush you either act on it or not. If you aren't gonna act on it then the person shouldn't bother to spend time deciphering your feelings. Feelings without action are pretty pointless. So for me if I knew some guy liked me but was so scared or denied it or whatever...it's a huge turn off and life is too short for that so I only focus on men who like me and want to see where things can go, not those who like me in secret or fearfully lol.

 

The point is: why would someone care about these clues and care to know if someone likes them who won't or can't do anything about it? It's better they NOT know unless the person has plans to do something about it.

Edited October 8, 2014 by MissBee

[Gloria25]

Why would he deny his feelings for you? Depending on the circumstances maybe he is not sure it is a good idea to fall for you and he thinks that by verbally denying things he is keeping himself from falling any harder for you. A blatant denial is his way of saying "I have started to fall for you but I don't want to fall for you for various reasons". So this kind of denial is not necessarily a rejection of you but a defense mechanism to protect himself.

 

It is possible that he is afraid of falling so hard to such a degree that he can no longer see straight and be objective and think practically about the long term ramifications of things.

 

I guess, for example, I kinda posted about this in another thread yesterday about a guy deploying...Even "if" he's into a chick, he might not want to start something cuz if he's deploying and will be facing danger - last thing he needs to worry about is whether or not he'll get a "Dear John" letter...

 

And, another example is kinda like a thread I was just looking at - where he might be with someone where it's not perfect, but not something he would risk throwing away over an attraction to another woman he barely knows.

 

But I agree with the other posters in the sense that, if a guy isn't making a move on you, after a while you'll probably move on...

[Darren2013]

I guess, for example, I kinda posted about this in another thread yesterday about a guy deploying...Even "if" he's into a chick, he might not want to start something cuz if he's deploying and will be facing danger - last thing he needs to worry about is whether or not he'll get a "Dear John" letter...

 

And, another example is kinda like a thread I was just looking at - where he might be with someone where it's not perfect, but not something he would risk throwing away over an attraction to another woman he barely knows.

 

But I agree with the other posters in the sense that, if a guy isn't making a move on you, after a while you'll probably move on...

 

 

Yeah usually that is the case unless I happen to run into that rare breed female twin version of myself. In that case we would be at a stalemate in this game and take 5000 years to really do anything.

[Darren2013]

Halloween is around the corner and I thinking of dressing up to draw attention from my crush. With our company workers will be permitted to wear costumes on the job that day.

 

I think I will come into work with 6-8 clothes pins attached to my face. One of my hobbies is to stick clothes pins all around my neck and face and to see how long I can tolerate the pressure. My record has been 4 minutes and 24 seconds so far.