HBIC Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 (edited) Just need to get this out now as my new guy and I can't talk until later on. ExMM contacted me about something legitimately work related and proceeded to ask if was going to tell his wife that he and I were in contact. I told him that his personal life was his business, that I was 100% out of that aspect of his life, and I have no desire whatsoever to further interact with his wife. Not long ago he made a feeble, drunken pass at me (which elicited no response from me), so clearly his head is still WAY WAY WAY up his you know what. I feel sad because this guy is so pathetic. I know I can't help him with the trainwreck of life choices he is making right now. I guess I'm in the from-a-distance compassionate stage. When I met this guy, he was not as big a dbag as he is now. Back then he had some wild semblance of boundaries. Now when I interact with him, I feel like I am talking with an alcoholic with a wildly broken moral compass. I used to love this man and now I am watching him self-destruct in slow motion. Oh well. Thanks LS for letting me get this out. I feel better:cool: Edited October 7, 2014 by HBIC Link to post Share on other sites
drr6 Posted October 7, 2014 Share Posted October 7, 2014 To be compassionate to someone you loved, who is spiralling down, you should give him the advice you are writing here instead. Without getting sucked back in. Seems doable. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelysweet2 Posted October 8, 2014 Share Posted October 8, 2014 To be compassionate to someone you loved, who is spiralling down, you should give him the advice you are writing here instead. Without getting sucked back in. Seems doable. Difficult to advise a MM, as he is knee high up in his own sh*t, mix that with their inherent selective hearing only for fluff BS and it always transgresses into a cycle of the same thing~nothing new or newly discovered. Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted October 8, 2014 Share Posted October 8, 2014 Vent away! Just do not get sucked back in. Stay strong and do whats right for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author HBIC Posted October 9, 2014 Author Share Posted October 9, 2014 Thank you for the support! I think it's best to just stand back and let this guy make his own choices. I can feel compassion for him as a human being without risking hurting myself by interacting with him more than I have to. Talking with him feels like such a drain of my energy. I want him completely out of my personal life, so I am going to refrain from getting involved in his. I think that even if I took the time to say something out of compassion, he wouldn't listen. Right now he is pretty hell bent on the path he is on. I can only control me. He is on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 Men never love so deeply as the woman who rejects him. He's probably very happy in his misery. Let him wallow in it. Link to post Share on other sites
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