i can't win Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 New here, My husband and I have been married 20 years . He has an ex wife and they were married for 18 years, with 2 kids. We were childhood sweethearts, met him at 14 we went our separate ways because of my parents. i was married for 18 years, but didn't really love him, liked him a lot. i had an affair on my first husband with my childhood sweetheart,in our first year of marriage, didn't last long, but I still loved him. His wife found out and they moved away, no more contact for 17 years. I found out he was getting a divorce and contacted him. I divorced my husband, and we have been together ever since. They had a very bad divorce, she kept the kids away from him and the typical bad divorce stuff. He moved back here where i live. Then she decided, the son age 14, was out of control and contacted my husband to come and get him. We did. i was the one to always to talk to her about son, because they could not get along. Now is where this really gets interesting, son, 30 now crushed his foot in a motorcycle accident , of course the Mother came to be with her son and so did my husband as it should be. During his hospital stay , husband and ex were there together, went out to eat and spent quite a bit of time together. I didn't like it much, but that is his son. A year later , I needed the no. to the phone company, I do paperless, and the business is gets bills. I never paid attention to the business bills. Low and behold he's been talking to her a lot, almost everyday, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day, for a long period of time 90 minutes, is the longest.These are just his calls, to her I don't know how much she calls him. Their were 13 calls to her in 15 days, so I looked at the caller I.D. they were six from her. Needless to say I brought this to his attention, wish I hadn't done that, been smart, till I could figure what to do. He lied, said he hadn't called her that much, blamed on his son, which had moved away. He says they just talk about what their kids are going through. Does he think I am that stupid. He says he's not talking to her anymore, LIE<LIE<LIE I know for a fact he is. Too many counter measures, put up security cameras, so he would know if I went to shop. I put 3 var in the shop and he found all of them. Now she is using spoofing to call him. I shouldn't be bothered by him talking to her, nothing going on. AM I crazy nothing going on, I am just silly. Yeah right. Now I am shamefully obsessed , to show him what a liar he really is, that I am not that stupid. I know it's silly, but I have to prove it. Now I don't know what else to do to catch him, he's slicker than I am. Gosh this is long, but what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Well he was willing to cheat on her to be with you right? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 i had an affair on my first husband with my childhood sweetheart' date='in our first year of marriage, didn't last long, but I still loved him. His wife found out and they moved away, no more contact for 17 years. I found out he was getting a divorce and contacted him. I divorced my husband, and we have been together ever since.[/quote'] If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you. Also, since you did not respect the other woman's marriage when you cheated with her husband, not only does she not respect your marriage, but she feels justified in cheating with your man. In fact she considers him her man that you temporarily stole from her. So yes it is not in your head, there is something up between them. The Karma bus really sucks sometimes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Yeah, after being married to him for 17 years she still considers him hers and she certainly has no respect whatsoever for your marriage because of how you got together. You can bet they are talking about more than their son if they are talking for 90 minute sessions and talking 3 times a day. Their son is grown why don't they talk to him instead of each other about him. I can't see a reason that they should talk at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author i can't win Posted October 13, 2014 Author Share Posted October 13, 2014 Well he was willing to cheat on her to be with you right? Years ago, I was only 18 at the time, didn't think about would happen, it just lasted a minute. I married my first husband at 16, to get away from home, didn't really love him as i should. Link to post Share on other sites
Author i can't win Posted October 13, 2014 Author Share Posted October 13, 2014 Years ago' date=' I was only 18 at the time, didn't think about would happen, it just lasted a minute. I married my first husband at 16, to get away from home, didn't really love him as i should.[/quote'] Also they had already filed for divorce, when I contacted him the second time. I wouldn't get in the middle of their marriage, again. Link to post Share on other sites
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