adrian77 Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I'm almost 40 and only slept with 5 men. Is that weird? I've gone many years between men until I was married. I just can't do it unless I feel an emotional connection. Otherwise I just don't get anything from it. I've have friends who have slept with over 50. I think that is a lot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I think when you can't remember who they were or their name you may be getting a little too high. In all seriousness, it is really a personal call. What do you think? Honestly who is anyone to judge? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 This is so personal, and we're all different. I can't imagine wanting to get that intimate with a large number of men. I don't think I've even met 50 men in my life I've wanted to have sex with (I'm in my 40s). Other people feel differently, and can easily enjoy casual sex. It's not for me, but they aren't me. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 5 is okay, but 6 at once is just greedy. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 5 is okay, but 6 at once is just greedy. HA! I was going to say something like that earlier but I wanted women to have their say before booting my smart arse out the door. Hehehehehe!!! Well, I would think as many men as it takes to get completely satisfied. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 That is no-one else's business but yours.... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 It's too many when you are uncomfortable with your own # & your own behavior. I always say I slept with enough men to know what I'm doing & what I like but not so many that I question my own morals. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
leavesonautumn Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I'm going to agree with everyone else and say that it's personal and what you feel comfortable with. There will always be those people (even on this forum) who will think 2 or 3 men for a woman is too high. It's really no one else's business. I'm the same way though, I can't have a **** buddy or a ONS. Just will not work with me. In fact, the one time I tried when I was 19, I just left because I couldn't go through with it but I'm also the last person who would judge anyone on their choices in regards to sex partners. Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 I'm almost 40 and only slept with 5 men. Is that weird? I've gone many years between men until I was married. I just can't do it unless I feel an emotional connection. Otherwise I just don't get anything from it. I've have friends who have slept with over 50. I think that is a lot. I don't think it's weird. Only you can decide that -- it's not up to anyone else to judge you, and you are not obligated to perform to anybody's standard. And I apply that to the wide range of people I know, from the guy who married his high school sweetheart when they were 18 and thus has only ever been with the woman to whom he lost his virginity, to my California buddy who once eclipsed my lifetime partner total (20) in less than a month. Both of those guys are happy with their lives, and that's all that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 As long as you aren't doing anything that goes against your own values, the number isn't important. For some people, having even one ONS would be too much for them, and for others, the boundaries may be almost limitless. Link to post Share on other sites
love1336x Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 When you catch an std and cant tell who gave it to you. or when you dont know your baby daddy. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 or when you dont know your baby daddy That is what Maury Povich is for..innit? I'm almost 40 and only slept with 5 men. Is that weird? NO...it does not. It just means that you don't drop it every time like it's hot I've have friends who have slept with over 50. I think that is a lot. There is a name for people like that, but usually other ones are well paid for it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I have a female friend who I suspect is close to 100. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I think it's important to know "how/why" the person racked up those numbers... Were they part of the generation who were told that "women can be just like men and go screw around? Is it that they never married (cuz they came from a broken home and had/have issues with commitment) - therefore, instead of converting to priesthood, dated more than one person? Are they man/woman ho's? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I'd say no more than 1/4th your age. 5 @ 20 ~8 @ 30 10 @ 40 That goes for both guys and girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I'd say no more than 1/4th your age. 5 @ 20 ~8 @ 30 10 @ 40 That goes for both guys and girls. Wow! - that means some of my nonogenarian patients must be real hotties 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 When, if you had just as many d*cks sticking out of you as you had stuck in you that you'd look like a porcupine. That's when it is too many. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I'd say no more than 1/4th your age. 5 @ 20 ~8 @ 30 10 @ 40 That goes for both guys and girls. This sounds about right. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who's slept with 20+ guys. I just find it gross. I don't want to whind up being that guy who gets with a girl who was used by a bunch of guys in the past just for sex. I just ask myself would I want a woman like that to be the mother of my kids? Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 This sounds about right. I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who's slept with 20+ guys. I just find it gross. I don't want to whind up being that guy who gets with a girl who was used by a bunch of guys in the past just for sex. I just ask myself would I want a woman like that to be the mother of my kids? Seriously? Why does a high number for a female mean she was used? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 1/4 your age? Another formula puts it at 1/2 your age (on OKCupid). Personally, I think your age minus 15 is reasonable, for all ages and genders. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 1/4 your age? Another formula puts it at 1/2 your age (on OKCupid). Personally, I think your age minus 15 is reasonable, for all ages and genders. One for practice before your legal and one a year after that... I can live with that! It sounds terrible but I would have to sit down, concentrate and work out my number... Some exes I slept with some I didn't but I have never "counted" them... Link to post Share on other sites
Giggle Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 ? I'm horrible mother material. Who knew. Oh wait, I haven't got that high. I do like sex though, and don't foresee anybody wanting an actual LTR any time soon. I'm weird /and/ I've got 5 kids. Oh well, as somebody said in another thread, us promiscuous types don't like narrow-minded men either, so it's all good 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Kid_Charlemange Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Some stats on this from this topic from the CDC: NSFG - Listing N - Key Statistics from the National Survey of Family Growth One in particular surprised me. "Percentage of men and women who have had five or more opposite sex partners in the past 12 months" For men it was 3.9%, women 1.8%. That means that singles aren't nearly as promiscuous as I would have imagined. At my age, there aren't a lot of true singles, meaning unmarried and not in an LTR. In fact I can only think of four guys in my circle of friends who fall into this category, and one of them is recently separated. So I don't have much to compare stories with. But I would qualify as part of that 3.9% and I never thought of my situation as unusual. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 50 men is about indiscriminate sex by any age. This is the distinction between dating and sleeping around. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 I'm almost 40 and only slept with 5 men. Is that weird? I've gone many years between men until I was married. I just can't do it unless I feel an emotional connection. Otherwise I just don't get anything from it. I've have friends who have slept with over 50. I think that is a lot. I'm willing to wager that they also complain about not being able to "find a good man"? You're at an ideal number adrian77 for a lot of men (it's low for your age, a drop in the bucket compared to many, but it's not alone going to land you a relationship, look for men rearing to add to that number) for something serious. 50 is definitely too much for a whole lot of guys, that's a lot of people, but women know that if these men found out that their sweetie pie was rolling around with 50 different penises he'd probably reconsider whether he wanted to be with her or take her serious, or maybe even altogether immediately drop off the face of the earth...that's the reason for the whole backlash and the reason to keep it a secret. But if you want someone to accept you for "who you are" and you accept it and feel fine about it, then what's the point in hiding it? Some people definitely don't see casual sex as anything at all, I've met a lot of guys that wouldn't even need to make it to the face to decide whether they would actually sleep with it or not...if it had a squishy thing in between the legs, they're good to go. Most guys only have enough gas to stick to one or two vagina's at a time (don't have enough sticks to shake at the married guys cheating), but I've seen women rotate 3 or 4 men at a time, one is the guy is good in bed, the other takes her out and pays for everything, the "nice guy" makes her feel sweet and innocent and "special", and the other guys is possible "relationship material" so she hasn't slept with him yet of course. That's the world you live in! don't judge! Link to post Share on other sites
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