people in low sex marriages how do you distract yourself

[A1135]

I am in a low sex marriage, you can read some of my other posts if you want some back story.

 

What I would like to know from others in the same situation is how do you cope when you get to the point that you really need sex but cant get it. I get to the point where I cant concentrate on anything, I am constantly day dreaming about sex and my neck hurts from whipping around to look at every attractive female. How do others cope, or distract yourself?

[tommyr]

How do others cope, or distract yourself?

Bad idea. Don't distract yourself. Rather, confront the situation head on. You can do it.

[Mr. Lucky]

How do others cope, or distract yourself?

I'm tempted to say something flip like "by crocheting pot holders for homeless left-handers" but...

 

...I agree with tommyr. This is the one problem I wouldn't want to hide from. Left unaddressed, it only gets worse. You'll go from low sex to no sex...

 

Mr. Lucky

[SawtoothMars]

I am in a low sex marriage, you can read some of my other posts if you want some back story.

What I would like to know from others in the same situation is how do you cope when you get to the point that you really need sex but cant get it. I get to the point where I cant concentrate on anything, I am constantly day dreaming about sex and my neck hurts from whipping around to look at every attractive female. How do others cope, or distract yourself?

 

Mistress or escorts... your choice.

 

My preference would be divorce lawyers. Some are very hot!

[oldshirt]

You can try distracting yourself by hitting the gym, updating your wardrobe and style, being immaculately clean and groomed at all times and start being more engaging and fun and maybe she'll start getting more attracted to you.

 

If that doesn't work you can distract yourself by consulting a lawyer and coming up with a divorce plan and distract yourself by living a new life.

[Discjockey80]

Self improvement is definaty a good idea within whatever constraints you operate under. Sometimes though the other person needs to change their attitude about sex and what it means to be married ( her)

[jackslife]

You can distract yourself but ultimately you will be unhappy until you are out of the relationship. A great sex life isn't just physical but emotional. It makes you feel desired, loved, wanted. So apart from the physical need a low/sexless marriage leaves an emotional void. I've had moments when I could have literally cried and screamed out loud with that pain.

 

Prostitutes have a place , but won't fill the emotional emptiness and in the long run leave you feeling soiled and still unfulfilled. Affairs seem like a good idea but create a new problem without resolving the old. Most of the problems people come to ls for for resolution have very simple solutions. The Problem will be new for the person asking but will happened to many other people before who may or may not choose the solution.

 

The solution is simple. Leave and find someone sexual and emotionally compatible or be unhappy the rest of your life.