ChessPieceFace Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 (edited) I Love My Husband, But Here's Why I Want to Cheat*|* Nauseating. Anyone know if it's possible to tell if a woman will be like this before you marry her? Edited October 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed personal indentifying url and name Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 CPF, at least she's being honest, that's all I can say. Being married doesn't stop you being tempted, but acting on the temptation is what causes the problems. I wouldn't pay too much attention to this blog as I suspect that the un-named medical condition she suffered from may have contributed to her rather radical viewpoint. Link to post Share on other sites
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 Wow, I wasn't expecting that at all. She says her desire to cheat is based on a fear of losing her identity, she didn't blame any of it on the other guy, and when she was in a tempting situation she told her husband. I don't know, she sounds kinda admirable to me. While I have learned I don't want to date people who are prone to self-sabotage, I do want to date people who are aware of their mental hang-ups (we all have them!) and trying to improve. I read "I love my husband but want to cheat on him sometimes" the same way I'd read "I'm not suicidal but sometimes think about jumping off high places when I'm standing there". It's a dark impulse and it's not uncommon. I think the fact that she's aware of it makes her less vulnerable in the future. Maybe I'm completely wrong... Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 This marriage will surely end up well. If she is feeling this way after two years no way this marriage will make it through the long haul. Why don't people like this just skip the commitment pretense and just mess around honestly? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2014 Share Posted October 12, 2014 Marriage is a crap shoot. The only thing you can do is choose wisely and learn to keep things fresh. Never forget that you are lovers. Never stop buying her flowers, giving her affection, telling her how beautiful she looks, letting her pick out the bedding, etc. As they say happy wife, happy life. If she loves to cook for you, you have a keeper. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted October 12, 2014 Share Posted October 12, 2014 Nope, you can't figure out if a woman is 2 years away (or less time) from becoming a woman like that blogger after she's made her vows. I just wonder why they marry? Link to post Share on other sites
Justaguy30 Posted October 13, 2014 Share Posted October 13, 2014 There is no way to tell but if you pay attention to the things she says you will likely find the answers. If she says things jokingly about sleeping with other people or anything really take it seriously because she is trying to warn you. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted October 13, 2014 Share Posted October 13, 2014 I googled the article. Honestly, it sounds like she's just being dramatic. She had an urge, omg. She resisted, like an adult, and refocused on her husband. Rinse and repeat for 50 years and you have a beautiful marriage story. If she's expecting to never have a thought or and urge, her expectations for herself and marriage are probably unrealistic. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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