It's an OW Round-up!!

[SixthSt.Girl]

I think that it was either erased or I just can't find it, but someone mentioned that potential OW's really haven't been treated well on here, so they don't think this thread will have much influence. I will say that that's correct, and also I am not naive and have witnessed several affairs that worked out several different ways - some of the OW came out of it very good and are now married to the MM and doing great, some left on their own, I honestly don't know one that was kicked to the curb by the MM. I'm sure it happens - and here it is so common because the jilted OWs come here for that reason, to talk about it and get help. But, anyway, I come here mostly to type out my own feelings and share because the few people in my life I will talk about personal things with haven't been through something like this. I only take advice from a few select people I trust because I have been burned and I'm not a people person as a result. I do have a communications degree, strangely enough, but it has not helped me to understand people any better.

 

It is one of the main reasons I would get into this kind of relationship - because I have been hurt by ex's before and I don't want to commit myself to a big relationship again. I don't want rings, kisses, flowers. I could and would not tolerate living with someone - just would drive me crazy because I need my alone time. There are times when I wanted a man emotionally, and when I "had" one, he wasn't there for me, so I toughed it out. It is emotionally tough to be 23 and single in this dangerous world, but I do it and don't need or want a man around - just sex, then he's got 10 minutes to leave, lol. I cry into a pillow when I'm upset. That's what I HAVE to do cause nobody's around, and I'm usually too private to share my feelings, anyway. I think I was meant to be a man. I work in customer service (two jobs) so that is pushing me toward excess concerning people contact. I would rather talk about my situation online, than talk with someone in person. I have a man now that I use purely for sex, and he uses me. I have no romantic feelings for him - we used to date but both don't want that anymore. I might just stick to that - it depends on how this thing with the MM goes. I posted a long paragraph about this MM, but I hit on a stupidass ad by mistake and the whole bleepin thing erased! I was sooo mad, and won't be typing that again, just will suffice that things are not going past the flirtation/playful touching stuff. We are both a lot busier now with our other jobs (we both work two jobs) so I think that will have an impact on what happens.

[BoatingBabe]

KMT, and the rest of you gals,

You have no idea how much this site has helped me in warding off a potential A with a MM...Today he was BEGGING for my cell #...I did not give it to him...but he instead went into my office and took my number off a list...However; i do not think he will use it because he did not get it from me. Tonight he was cold, cold because I believe he could not get my cell after he pleaded with me,, after he bought me dinner.

I am strong because of all the stories I have heard on here and all the advice I have gotten from all of you.

I only hope that my rejection today will let him know I do not intend to become an other woman...Today, when I refused to give him my number, he told me, you need to trust someone. Yes, I do..but a married man won't be the one I trust my heart with.

[newby]

yeah they say things like you need to trust someone, make it look like you got a problem, not the fact that they are married!!!

[mourningMM]

If someone pays for your dinner, it give them hope. Next time, split the check.

 

Eating with someone is an act of friendship...but with someone who is interested in more, if you want to be safe, go to Burger King by yourself.