scatterd Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 Yes husband said he does not love me anymore which came along with the big D word. The weird thing is that he kept saying that I don't love him also.I told him I did love him and to quit putting words in my mouth. This was 3 days ago and I have cried everyday since. We have been married 21 years and had many plans going on for our future. I have to say I am quite hurt but I also am looking back on his attitude. He has been defensive, rude and brings anger and tension in our home. He says he does not get to say how he feels and he holds things in. I have tried to communicate with him but all as he has done is get mad and stomp out the room. It has been so uncomfortable and frustrating. I guess he thinks saying f-you and this bothers me and that is not saying anything. But his words and actions cut deep. I am so confused he wanted to sit down and discuss how we were going to split things but when confronting him he said we will sell the house. I told him I do not know what to do that I feel if I sit I am waiting to get pranced on when I least expect it. He got mad and said I am not that kind of person. I said I can not help feeling like I am a sitting duck. I have an appointment with an attorney for Monday I am so confused. Am I doing the right thing? I am coming to terms with the Divorce. Does anybody have any suggestions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 You're one of the kindest people I've ever seen on these boards. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Letting go when you're not ready is difficult enough; it's worse after decades of being with someone. Lean on your friends and family. Start to detach. Have your attorney protect your interests as well as can be done. Hugs. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2014 Share Posted October 12, 2014 What a shi.thead! Really, this is his loss, though right now it doesn't feel like it. Sorry you're hurting. Hugs to you. He'd rather divorce than try to reconnect? Lean on your friends and family. Start to detach. Have your attorney protect your interests as well as can be done. Ask him to leave and stay somewhere else since he's being mean. And what BH said, rely on friends and family to help you through this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author scatterd Posted October 13, 2014 Author Share Posted October 13, 2014 Thanks for the comments so kind.I am seeing an Attorney today to find out my options. Husband wanted to wait until we have more money. Kind of weird how he brings up we when it comes to money. I told him I feel like a sitting duck. He said do you really think I would do that. To be honest I have no Idea about who he is or what he is capable of.I asked why he fell out of love with me, he said mostly it was our bad words. Hum, he was so defensive all the time it seemed like their was not enough words. I think its because My back herniated and all my disc are going out. I suffer from chronic pain which makes me useless to him. He is kind one second and stomping around the next minute. I feel like I am living with an elevator right now.To think after 21 years all as he thinks I deserve to know is that he fell out of love. I have to say I am numb right now and loosing respect in him everyday. He has become hateful towards my two girls we raised and all he shows care for is is the grandchildren and beer. I am wondering if someone else is in the picture again. If so she can have him.I worked hard for this marriage and put up with some things I probably should not have but I took my vows seriously. Please pray that The best comes out of this for me.This is so confusing I don't feel like I am dealing with the same man I fell in love with.Maybe he has been taken over by an alien. That would probably be easier then this. Just kidding anyway thanks for the support. mwahh Link to post Share on other sites
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