Skeered Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 K got a weird thing going on...my life is sooo all over the place right now..but the most recent thing I'm dealing with is my soon to be ex. Up to this point (seperated 6 months) he and I have spoken only when we need too, usually conversations were short and too the point and that was it. Well yesterday I called him for a reason and ended up talkin to him for almost 2 hours. The conversation was very lite and easy, he said he really misses me and would love to have me back but knows that that's not what I want and he knows that I have been with someone. I have tried to keep my personal life after him kind of too myself but at one point he was spreading some pretty vicious rumors about me so I decided I would rather tell him exactly what's up with me rather than him makin up his own version of my life. Well in talkin to him yesterday he asked me about the guy that I had been with, I told him that we were remaing close friends but there was nothing more and all was good. He kinda started hinting to me that he wanted to take me on a date and so forth. Saying well since your single and jokin about it. I passed it off as a joke at first but then realized he was serious. I actually entertained the idea for a couple minutes because I am lonely, I was with this person for 10 years but all that hurt and deception that he layed in my life is still there and still hurts badly. But I do want to remain friends with him to a point mostly for my daughter but also because it just makes things easier. I guess my question is has anyone dealt with this and what to do with the feeling of confussion it leaves. I couldn't ever go back to him the hurts are too great but when your lonely and they want you back and you know that that person knows you probably better than anyone since you were with them so long...do you seperate the FRIENDSHIP ties to keep it only a "business-like" level? Totally stumped????? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted March 9, 2005 Share Posted March 9, 2005 You can be on friendly terms for your daughters sake, but it doesn't mean you are friends. It's over. You have moved on. Don't let yourself be dragged back. Cut your conversations short, don't feel you have to defend yourself or explain yourself. You don't. If someone wants to believe him that is their problem. Your friends and family who know and love you won't believe him and will know that his words are spoken out of bitterness or grief over the lost relationship. stick to your guns and when you are feeling vulnerable or lonley remember why you split and your resolution to have very limited contact with him and make yourself focus on something else. Don't let your heart lead your mind into confusion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Skeered Posted March 9, 2005 Author Share Posted March 9, 2005 Thank you Hokey...loneliness is a crazy thing how it can just make you take your guard down and almost forget all about what put you in that position to begin with ya know. Link to post Share on other sites
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