fatehighschool Posted October 13, 2014 Share Posted October 13, 2014 Hi I am new to this and at a moment of desperation. My ex and I reconnected after 21 years together (we dated in highschool but he moved interstate), 21 years later we reconnected and have been together for 6 years. We have had our ups and downs but we have always worked through it because we both believed we are meant to be, we are soul mates, how often does someone get an opportunity to come back to their first true love. He even kept my school photo all those years. We broke up for a short period 5 weeks last year because we were arguing and had lost sight of what was important with children and working. Things were fine up until around June this year where he started to withdraw again and in August he threatened to leave as he wasn't happy and it came out of no-where, he left, it has been 9 weeks since he has been gone. WE own a house together and I am still in the house with my daughter. We truly are magnetic to each other and when we see one another the love is still there but he is resistant and does not want to work at it, I know I am nearly 40 and I should know to move on but this is a man that brought so much love and happiness to me until recently, we truly have so much in common and I really don't know what to do, he hasn't pushed to sell the house and every time I ask him to meet up to divide assets and get the house ready to sell he doesn't come yet he is very adamant on not returning home to fix things. He said what is different this time. I have addressed my issues with the relationship and continue to do so but he is still resistant. I have just started the no contact and as hard as it is, I am going to do it for me. I would have thought after 9 weeks apart he would be pulling back to us. We were together for a long time and shared many special times together and had a bond that I thought was unbreakable. Any advice guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicholas123 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Hey there, fatehighschool, it sounds like a really tough one because you have been together for so long and have a lot of history together. Personally, I think you need him to open up and ask him why he thinks it's not working out. But if it is going to end, I'm sure you would at least want to know why. And then you will have no regrets because you will know why it happened the way to happened. Well, I hope that helps. Best of luck with it all. Nick. Link to post Share on other sites
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