hedyo Posted October 13, 2014 Share Posted October 13, 2014 I just wanted to share my story so far here, and I'm hoping that it will be encouraging to those struggling with NC. I dated my ex for about 6 months. He broke it off 2.5 months ago, saying that he wasn't in love with me. Despite being heartbroken, I did my best to take the news as gracefully as possible. I went into NC immediately, and decided to use the negative energy as fuel and make my life as good as possible. I've been working out, pursuing old hobbies and meeting new people. While I always missed my ex and hoped he would regret his decision, I decided that I had to be happy on my own. Well, this weekend I bumped into him by chance on the street. The situation felt so awkward that I ended up asking him for coffee, just because I couldn't think of anything else to say. He agreed, and we ended up talking for three hours. The time we spent together was a mix of awkward, sad, happy and intense. I remained calm, but I was honest about the fact that my feelings for him had not changed, and that I felt that we had perhaps given up too soon. He said that he was experiencing a lot of mixed emotions, but that seeing me felt a lot different than he had anticipated (in a good way). I told him to think about it, and we agreed to keep in touch. Even though I thought we'd had a good time together, I didn't know whether the "keeping in touch" was BS or not. But sure enough, the next day he contacts me to say that seeing me again rekindled feelings he didn't know he had. He admitted to having been emotionally unavailable during our time together, and asked that we keep communicating and see if we can work things out. To be honest, I don't know whether we will manage to get back together, but I do know that we would not have reached this point without a period of no contact. The confidence and independence that I've developed during the past months made him see me in a new light. Whatever happens, I'm glad that I allowed myself to heal and that I let things run their course. I don't know if I believe in fate, but I do think things have a way of working themselves out if you focus on yourself and let events unfold as they may. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
turk Posted October 13, 2014 Share Posted October 13, 2014 Thank you very much for your post. I ran into my ex for the first time in 6 months 2 days ago, and she texted me afterwards many times how nice it was to see me again. Whats meant to happen will and we can't force people to feel certain ways. I wish you luck on your journey to happiness, reconciliation or no. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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