love1336x Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Would you still want to be with your ex? Let's say after the break up, your ex starts to date someone very quickly. They date for about couple months, afterwards the rebound dumps your ex, and suddenly your ex is texting you, and wanting to reconnect again. I think about my current SO. During our relationship he was talking to a girl who I didn't like, and their relationship wasn't kosher. He would ask her for pictures, and they would hang out behind my back. Oh course we broke up, and during the break up. I stalked her twitter account. She had tons of pictures of them, no kissing. Just lots of photos of them hugging,smiling, having a great o time. She would write comments, “Oh this boy so special <3" About 2 months later. She start talking about another man, and start to take kissing photos with another dude. I DID texted my ex, with a simple hello, and the rest is history. I can't help but think... would he have taken me back if she was still single? She has totally dropped him as a friend. She does not like me. How can someone be your BEST FRIEND FOREVER, and then act like YOU never existed? I keep thinking about the past, how much I told him I didn’t want him talking to this girl. How I felt, and he simply ignored me. It burned me inside so badly. He would always tell me, she needs my help. She didn't even think twice when came to dropping him. The moment she found out we was dating again. She went up to him and said, "Really her again?" She walked away, and never said another word to him. Dramatic? We all work together, his mother comes into the store and talks to her. She told her, "So and so doesn't talk to me anymore. I miss him" My greatest fear is when she become single again. She will bark up his tree, and it's soo annoying. I am still giving this girl power when she's not even part of his life anymore.:o:o:o Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Wow, I wonder that too... as peeps are odd in their actions at times. You'll have to let go and trust your man. Since you referenced barking up the tree... If the Beyatch won't leave the tree, have him cut her loose and be done with it, if the time comes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author love1336x Posted October 14, 2014 Author Share Posted October 14, 2014 Wow, I wonder that too... as peeps are odd in their actions at times. You'll have to let go and trust your man. Since you referenced barking up the tree... If the Beyatch won't leave the tree, have him cut her loose and be done with it, if the time comes. That's the thing I asked him if she was to come around.... He told me, "Well I would talk to her again. Right now she's pissed, but babe I WILL not go out of my WAY to talk to her again." I didn't like that answer, but at least it was honest. So, I am hoping even if she does become single... She does not go back to bothering him. I think about it this way too. If she wanting to be more than friends, she would have done it. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 No. I'm the type of prize millions of people are going to lottery for, especially for those men who value certain moral standards. I'll never be 2nd place again, no matter how much that person means to me. And to be honest, the temptation will be there for your BF when she becomes single and needs an emotional tampon. I doubt he's strong enough to resist it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Not even during a zombie apocalypse. If I wasn't NUMBER ONE in the first place, why on earth would I think once I was pulled back out of the trash heap as " well, better than nothing" that things would get better ?!? EW, and he wouldn't even say that he WOULDN'T talk to her ? My H has cut off family members that disrespect me ! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 OP, if he's making you his 2nd choice, I think you should make him your LAST Choice. Greener pastures await OP, go graze somewhere else* 3 Link to post Share on other sites
tikay00 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Yeah, I just know I wouldn't be secure at all, or even trusting if I was the second choice. That's just way too much for my mind to handle. I'd never stop thinking about it, and sooner or later, I'd probably sabotage the relationship by acting cocky or doing things to show my GF that I'm other girls' #1. And that doesn't mean cheating, but online or in person flirting for the purpose to show my ex that I'm still #1. Or just saying things like, "haha, this chick was totally checking me out at the gym. She gave me a wink." Even if I was making it up. lol I sound like a pig, but hey, I have and ego, and I can admit it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Never. Never EVER! I have far too much self respect and self worth to EVER be anyone's second choice. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 I noticed I was the only one who saw the light at the other end of the tunnel on this one. Being that in some ways men make the wrong choice 1st, just like some women I have seen. Depending on how much he has learned from the current relationship, the longer he is with his second choice the more likely he will stay. Many 1st choices are acts of best benefit. Men will benefit more to their wants, and ignore their needs. Allowing for a man to change his path is just the same as allowing a woman to IMO. As many who post I screwed up threads, know they were not thinking clearly when making decisions. Younger men rarely think clearly when given choices with choosing women. For all the women who were me 1st... I would not request anything less, but sometimes in rare instances 1st, 2nd or show, is just a label. 1st in ones heart is all that matters to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author love1336x Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 No. I'm the type of prize millions of people are going to lottery for, especially for those men who value certain moral standards. I'll never be 2nd place again, no matter how much that person means to me. And to be honest, the temptation will be there for your BF when she becomes single and needs an emotional tampon. I doubt he's strong enough to resist it. Lmao!!! Tooo funny. Emotional tampon. Love it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author love1336x Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 OP, if he's making you his 2nd choice, I think you should make him your LAST Choice. Greener pastures await OP, go graze somewhere else* Well I feel him choosing me after she stop talking to him, doesn't make me 2nd place, however she does have a boyfriend. If he really wanting to stay in her life he would have said no in a sense. Ugh. So confusing and annoying. But I did make first contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author love1336x Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 Not even during a zombie apocalypse. If I wasn't NUMBER ONE in the first place, why on earth would I think once I was pulled back out of the trash heap as " well, better than nothing" that things would get better ?!? EW, and he wouldn't even say that he WOULDN'T talk to her ? My H has cut off family members that disrespect me ! Oh god. He would never cut off people in his life who disrespect me. But that's the way he is. He wouldn't do it for other people either. Link to post Share on other sites
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