Bellalavie8 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I've had a crush on this guy all throughout high school, and despite us being part of the same circle of friends and hanging out with the same people, neither one of us ever made the effort to talk to one another (this is part of the reason why my friends think he's shy). It wasn't until senior year that we had said a few words here and there to each other once in a blue moon. During the summer about a month before college, I was so desperate to have an actual conversation with him but yet SO shy, I decided to spam him on Instagram and to make it look like an accident I sent him a DM apologizing and saying that my friend took my phone and did it while I was gone. We ended up having a nice 2 hour conversation that looks to my friends that he likes me, because of the way he talked with me and how long he kept it going. 7 weeks later after no communication, I worked up the courage to message him through facebook. It was even better than the last, as we spoke for 7 hours and he seemed even more flirtatious. This already happened 3 days ago and I still haven't heard from him. He obviously has SOME kind of interest in me whether it's romantically or friendly, given how long we chatted and how he would talk to me. My friends are convinced he might be more shy than I am, but I don't see how he can be (anymore at least), again given how long we spoke in both conversations and how we would speak to me. I also made the first move twice, so he should know I'm interested as well. I'm too embarrassed to ask his closest friend what he's thinking because I don't wanna seem on top of him. But I simply cannot think of a reason that makes any sense as to why he won't talk to me, not even to start a friendship? Link to post Share on other sites
Davey L Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 Why not speak to him? I mean actually speak, whereby you are physically in his presence and you open your mouth and actually say actual words. That way you can gauge his reaction better and get a better impression as to whether he is interested. You can talk about anything, it doesn't matter. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 As you both begin college, especially at separate schools now is the worst time to try to forge any new relationship with somebody from high school. Let it go. Meet new people in your new school. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I've had a crush on this guy all throughout high school, and despite us being part of the same circle of friends and hanging out with the same people, neither one of us ever made the effort to talk to one another (this is part of the reason why my friends think he's shy). It wasn't until senior year that we had said a few words here and there to each other once in a blue moon. During the summer about a month before college, I was so desperate to have an actual conversation with him but yet SO shy, I decided to spam him on Instagram and to make it look like an accident I sent him a DM apologizing and saying that my friend took my phone and did it while I was gone. We ended up having a nice 2 hour conversation that looks to my friends that he likes me, because of the way he talked with me and how long he kept it going. 7 weeks later after no communication, I worked up the courage to message him through facebook. It was even better than the last, as we spoke for 7 hours and he seemed even more flirtatious. This already happened 3 days ago and I still haven't heard from him. He obviously has SOME kind of interest in me whether it's romantically or friendly, given how long we chatted and how he would talk to me. My friends are convinced he might be more shy than I am, but I don't see how he can be (anymore at least), again given how long we spoke in both conversations and how we would speak to me. I also made the first move twice, so he should know I'm interested as well. I'm too embarrassed to ask his closest friend what he's thinking because I don't wanna seem on top of him. But I simply cannot think of a reason that makes any sense as to why he won't talk to me, not even to start a friendship? I also made the first move twice, so he should know I'm interested as well. He knows you're interested so it's not about being afraid to talk to you. You've made the move and the ball is in his court. If he really wants to talk to you or have a friendship, he will, regardless of whether he's shy. Not only that, you're already frustrated. Imagine how frustrated you will be later. If he's that shy, communication will be difficult for some time. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 14, 2014 Share Posted October 14, 2014 I also made the first move twice, so he should know I'm interested as well. He knows you're interested so it's not about being afraid to talk to you. You've made the move and the ball is in his court. If he really wants to talk to you or have a friendship, he will, regardless of whether he's shy. Not only that, you're already frustrated. Imagine how frustrated you will be later. If he's that shy, communication will be difficult for some time. I agree. OP, if he wants to talk to you, he will. He knows how to reach you. And this poster is correct - if he's so painfully shy that he'd let 7 weeks slip by with zero conversation, it's not going to bode well for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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