Author tim505 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Share Posted October 29, 2014 yeah best of luck to you btw, hopefully things work out for us. for now i need to just stay strong and look forward Link to post Share on other sites
Colin John Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 Same here man, I'll definitely be back to update my situation in the future! Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 My advice. Feel free to do with it what you want. She's in a relationship. You can't value anything she SAYS higher than what she DOES. She is currently unavailable. Besides, if you were to start something with her while she's with someone else, you're creating a very poor foundation for a potential relationship with her. Also, and this is a big one I've learned recently: She has a child with someone else. There are many, many things that come with dating a single mom. I dated one while her daughter was 1 year old to almost 2 years old. - The father can always come back in the picture. - The father may currently be in the picture, and that's something you'll have to get used to and accept. - You're never #1 in a relationship with a single mother (which is how it should be) - She always has ties to another guy, whether she currently hates him or not. - She sacrifices a lot (hopefully) for the child, which means you will also sacrifice a lot. - If you get back together and things don't work out, you risk losing 2 people in the breakup, especially if you get attached to the little one. I'm not saying that single moms are un-dateable. Just that you need to know what comes with them. You're heart is overruling logic. However, you should think long and hard if this girl is what you really want, especially with the baggage that comes with her. Again, not saying baggage in a bad way, just that she comes with a lot more than someone who is not a single mother. You HAVE to understand that she's not the person you dated 5 years ago. She's now a mother. Also, let her come to you, as has been said before. Sounds like you're doing that already. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Share Posted October 29, 2014 Thanks for the reply man very good points. I understand she needs to come to me and I need to cut contact. I honestly don't mind that she has a kid. I met her 3 year old and I really liked her. I understand I would not be first in the relationship but I'm ready to accept that. I just hope that I will hear from her again someday. Link to post Share on other sites
Colin John Posted October 29, 2014 Share Posted October 29, 2014 I think you will man, stay positive and the right things will happen at the right moment. Good luck brother. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted October 29, 2014 Author Share Posted October 29, 2014 you too thanks bro Link to post Share on other sites
Colin John Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 No problem, we got ur back. Keep us updated! Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim505 Posted October 30, 2014 Author Share Posted October 30, 2014 will do thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
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