HappyLove Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Let me take a wild guess here.... you're a woman. Yup, I've dated guys with bum beater old cars but this car takes the cake NOPE! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 I knew a single dad once with two kids, he was a mechanic. He worked two jobs to support his kids, own a house, etc... his car was a **** bucket because he could fix it and he didn't have money. He was hard working, honest, and caring. He had character. He didn't have a beautiful car and a date with you, obviously. Does this guy have two kids Gaeta? Does he own his house? Link to post Share on other sites
Chemist Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Because some men can't deal with the expectations placed on them in society. Best to ignore... Hilarious since most women fight societies expectations of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
boilingpoint Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Because some men can't deal with the expectations placed on them in society. Best to ignore... Why should they? And expectations placed on them by WHO??? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 A shower takes 10 minutes. It's one thing to wear your work clothes a lot as builders perfectly reasonably do and another to look like a dirty slob. Makes my point even more so, this kind of thing has nothing to do with money. He takes showers. But then he is usually right back into his work clothes. So how did this guy dress for your date Gaeta? Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 you're missing the point that no amount of maintenance is going to stop rust. So he has to buy a new car. Maybe he is practical and is like, well this one still drives, why should I buy a new car? I knew a single dad once with two kids, he was a mechanic. He worked two jobs to support his kids, own a house, etc... his car was a **** bucket because he could fix it and he didn't have money. He was hard working, honest, and caring. He had character. He didn't have a beautiful car and a date with you, obviously. She wasn't worried about the look of the car just that it has significant faults that would make it dangerous... cracks across the window for example... Just minor safety issues like being able to see clearly where you are going... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 you're missing the point that no amount of maintenance is going to stop rust. So he has to buy a new car. Maybe he is practical and is like, well this one still drives, why should I buy a new car? I knew a single dad once with two kids, he was a mechanic. He worked two jobs to support his kids, own a house, etc... his car was a **** bucket because he could fix it and he didn't have money. He was hard working, honest, and caring. He had character. He didn't have a beautiful car and a date with you, obviously. Where do you live? Yes you can control rust on a car. You have it rust proof! it's $120 per year. When you have spots coming out you have them fixed right away! This man has no children, no sick mothers. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 Does this guy have two kids Gaeta? Does he own his house? No children. Lives in an apartment. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ltjg45 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 If this guy's car is as bad as the OP said it was, I rather have no car and catch the city bus than to drive in it. And let me tell you, Jacksonville has the worst bus system in the United States. I rather drive than go through that and even then, I rather walk than drive that piece of junk. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Hilarious since most women fight societies expectations of them. Actually, society is busy telling women how they can't do something all the time. Expectations are pretty low and that's part of the problem. Women only need to make the most of their looks and breed. Expectations beyond that are zero. Why should they? And expectations placed on them by WHO??? Their peers, male and female. You don't have to but you get left behind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 So how did this guy dress for your date Gaeta? Jeans & t-shirt Fake leather jacket..... I am ready for rocks being thrown at me lol This is the most entertaining thread I have had 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Chemist Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Lol, Michigan... where rust on a car is about as common as snow. The salt causes it to rust like mad. Oh, and windows with cracks don't just shatter. You're a paranoid android if you are worried about safety. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Jeans & t-shirt Fake leather jacket..... You know for sure it was a fugazi? Did you smell it? Other than that were his clothes dirty and ripped? Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Surely there's an element of comfort and safety in all this. If the windshield is cracked and the car is shaking and making odd noises, would anyone blame her for wanting to take a cab instead? C'mon. Let's also not pretend like appearances aren't a factor at all. Yes, peoples' personalities and values are equally, even more so, important. But would you go out with someone -- even if they were a great person on the inside -- who always looked like they rolled out of bed, undone hair with a stained t shirt and jeans in the nice restaurant? Why do you wear flattering clothes that aren't comfortable or go to the gym? Why do people look at art or paint the insides of their houses? Because certain things are pleasant and attractive to the human eye and other things are less pleasant. I'm trying hard to think of a scenario where the a car a few miles away from a breakdown would be better than any other car that evoked any feeling of safety, reliability, or comfort. Looks and aesthetics have a large affect on as us humans and they can affect our perceptions whether we want them to or not. That's interesting that a lot of you can pretend that they don't, though. Why don't you trade in your 2012 Volvo for that beat up '87 Chevy with 180k miles on it? After all, it's the person that matters, not the car, right? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 You know for sure it was a fugazi? Did you smell it? Other than that were his clothes dirty and ripped? He was clean and clean-shaven. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chemist Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Actually, society is busy telling women how they can't do something all the time. Expectations are pretty low and that's part of the problem. Women only need to make the most of their looks and breed. Expectations beyond that are zero. I can't tell if you're trolling now. I am sure some feminist are rolling in their graves. Women are expected to be skinny, attractive, wear makeup... Women should do the laundry, wear pink, skirts and dresses, be good cooks. They should not try to do math with the boys. These are all expectations. Which since the start of the feminism movement, women have been righting against. Same reason I say to hell with your expectation that I should own a nice car. Anyway, clearly OP has her mind made up. Materialistic. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 He was clean and clean-shaven. That's all you really need to know in my opinion. I'd date him again. But that's just me. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Author Share Posted October 15, 2014 Same reason I say to hell with your expectation that I should own a nice car. Anyway, clearly OP has her mind made up. Materialistic. Just so you know I have dated men that did not own cars. How would you feel if you took a lady out and she wore an old dirty beat up jacket with holes all over? Even if she is the sweetest girl at some point you would say: Ok do something about this old jacket!! Link to post Share on other sites
Chemist Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Just so you know I have dated men that did not own cars. How would you feel if you took a lady out and she wore an old dirty beat up jacket with holes all over? Even if she is the sweetest girl at some point you would say: Ok do something about this old jacket!! That would not bother me. As long as she showered, brushed her teeth, and doesn't smell like gross. Because that is pride in yourself. I literally have never judged a girl for clothes, material, etc.. It is about how she takes care of herself (not her ****), how she carries herself, a bit about looks, and whether or not we clicked. The latter is the most important part. Did you click? did you enjoy his company? Did he make you laugh? Maybe you can just ask him why he drives a rust bucket. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Gaeta, give him a couple of dates and observe how he behaves. Who he is will come out. I drive an older car (2005 model), but it's clean. Find out if he's a slob and undisciplined in life in general. If he's like that, his house will also be a mess and his head is a mess too. You'll figure it out pretty quickly, just talk to him a couple of times and people always tell you who they are...car or no car. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 I think I would. I don't think I could base how I felt about him solely on his car. What If somehow you never saw his car, you go to his nice house, talks about his good job and how he is saving to buy a house. Then 2 months later, you see his crappy car...I mean, if he is a good person then you can't assume. Obviously, a bad financial situation isn't ideal but you don't know the guy and you don't know so you can't assume. He may have great credit and going to buy a new car next week. Or he is saving up money to buy a new car. Maybe his mom needed a new car so he took her crappy car until he got another one. If you didn't like him, you didn't like him. But if I like him, then I see his car. It's not going to make me run away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Did you click? did you enjoy his company? Did he make you laugh? Maybe you can just ask him why he drives a rust bucket. All good points. I wouldn't ask him why he drives that car because that's rude but maybe just offer to take your car and offer him to drive if you're okay with that. Link to post Share on other sites
boilingpoint Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Yup, I've dated guys with bum beater old cars but this car takes the cake NOPE! Let me take another wild guess here... you dumped all those guys after seeing their cars. Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 This guy simply wasn't your style. Fake leather jacket...obvious at that. He may just have NO SENSE of style. Regardless of all that you went on the date and if you were attracted to the man the car wouldn't really come into play as much I think. Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Let me take another wild guess here... you dumped all those guys after seeing their cars. Nope, I rode in the cars. If I like the guy I'm not gonna care that much about the car. Link to post Share on other sites
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