MW still in contact with her first love

[CVS]

Things were going great with MW for about a month until Valentines Day. She made me a fantastic dinner at her apartment, which was the nicest thing a girl has ever done for me. Later that night, we were naked, about to have sex, when her first love walked into her apartment and called out her name. She tells me to hide in the closet and runs out of the apartment wearing nothing but a bedsheet. I get sick of waiting and after about ten minutes I walk out to see whats up. They're basically pissed that I had the nerve to come out of the apartment and see whats going on. I, of course was pissed for this A-hole ruining my val. day, but she told me I was out of line and didn't "understand" his intentions.

Three weeks have gone by and tonight she tells me she's going out with him on saturday. She also tells me she's been talking to him on the phone because I can be insensitive at times. This comes as a suprise because she told me he was going to cut all ties and now it seems like they're the best of friends all of a sudden. I've offered to meet him under better terms.....maybe go out for a beer or whatever just to get rid of the paranoia, but she's terrified at the thought of us confronting each other.

My question is, Do you think she still loves him?

[sami]

No

[Devildog]

Hmmm, how can I put this........ DUH!!!

 

Your question is "can the woman who is cheating with me cheat on me?"

 

This doesn't require a degree in Rocket Science. A grade school Diploma recipient can figure this one out.

[CVS]

Anyone else?

[CaughtUp]

FIRST I'd like to say glad to see some guys in here dealing with some of this stuff.

 

Most of us OW in here say how they feel about their MM and you didn't say how strongly you felt about your MW, but it seems (even to a hopeless romantic like me) that you are not her only "other" and if you feel really strongly for her this may not be reciprocatied. Now if you are not particulary close to your MW (which I don't believe because I can't believe if you didn't really care you would take the time to post here) but if not maybe you should tell her that she should 1. not tell you about her rendevous and 2. plan a little better if she is going to try to juggle three (or more) guys.

 

The only person it would make sense (for me) for me to be hiding in the closet for is my MMs W not yet another woman and I would like to think that if this had happened to me it would be the sign I need to move on. But I'm in love with my MM I don't know how you feel about your MW.

 

Oh and to answer your question: Her first love? Yes she probably does, if nothing else she probably still thinks she loves him. SIDENOTE: If you were her first extra marital affair and now this first love has shown interest she now knows that she can cheat and now has a chance at what she has dreamed about. If you really care for her it is going to get really really rough from this point on if you try to stay in this. Keep in touch and good luck and if you care deeply for her I hope that you get through this not feeling too stomped on.