This boy, what do you guys think?

[little olive]

So this is my "situation"

This guy and I, who I met in one of my classes have, over the course of the year become pretty good friends, meaning we've gone out plenty for drinks, just him and I, sometimes with friends, had long conversations on the phone and when hanging out, amuse one another a lot.

Here's the thing...I'm not sure what to think. When we hang out, I notice that we always end up talking about past relationships, dating, issues and he's even told me some really personal stuff, telling me I'm one of the best listeners he has as a friend. I feel privileged right. ha. But so there's always been this really comfortable vibe between us, however I don't feel particularly close to him. I can't figure it out, our dynamic. He also has told me how he is in love with my good friend, or rather has a crush on her,(he knows she has a boyfriend so he jokes about it occasionally. But he tells me all this stuff about other girls, and usually I in turn end up telling him about my experiences with guys. I've always had guy friends talk about girls, but not in the same way.

 

The thing is, we've had really nice, all-around conversations on the phone, but then after we won't talk for a week. That's the thing, we go through periods where we'll hang out once or twice a week, then nothing for a month or so...not too unusual, but it just gets me, that we'll have these deep talks, then it's like nothing happened.

He'll always talk about his other girl-friends (friends who are girls), how they're cute and awesome and blah blah...which they usually are! But I just don't get it. he has a lot of girl-friends too. And he's just different when it comes to talking about stuff, I almost feel like he's not like normal guys, where they don't know what to say when you tell them something personal...he listens and will give me advice.

 

But so also we were on the phone a couple weeks ago and he was like "I want to ask a favor of you, but I don't want it come out the wrong way" and I was like ok, and without even suspecting he's like "my friends wedding is in two weeks and I was wondering if you would come as my date"...I was totally thrown off. very surprised, and flattered. Unfortunately I was leaving town that weekend and had to say no. He then followed with "thats alright, it's ok, I have other people I can ask" acting weird. I mean what was that all about???

 

And last weekend we were at the bar, then headed to his friends place to stop by for a bit, and when we were there, we somehow got to talking about palm reading, and being silly I was like " I know how to read palms" and grabbed his friend's palm, and started bullsh*tting, acting cheezy, but not letting go of his hand, and Mark, my friend, got all jealous...and I even felt it before he said anything. He was like "I want you to read my palm" and I kinda heard it but was looking at his friend or something and so he said it again. Soon after he was like " you ready to go" and we left. I mean wouldn't any guy get jealous...or was he acting like that cuz he has a thing for me?

 

Plus every time we go out for drinks, he never offers to pay, which I don't mind, but would see as a thoughtful gesture. And a couple weeks ago, when hanging out with a friend of his, who it actually turns out, I knew, showed up to meet us, and why she was meeting us at a bar while being a recovering alcoholic beats me (I mean more power to her but...)...but so he goes to her "what can I get you"...and bought her a shirley temple!!! this outraged me, not really, but come on. I thought maybe he was being extra nice becuz of her circumstance. What's up this guy?

 

One more thing here...he has spent the night at my place twice, where nothing happened. Of course I knew it most likely would if I had initiated. But both times there was much tension in the air, naturally. I'm just assuming he was being a good. However there was one point last weekend (the last time) where we were sitting at my computer side by side, where he kept looking at me, it felt like we were going to kiss. But I think I gave off the vibe that I didn't want it to go there, cuz I'm confused.

 

Please advice, what do you guys think is going on here? Tottally mixed signals here...thanks

[LucreziaBorgia]

I think you are probably one of several women he's interested in and he's playing the field between you all - getting close, without getting so close that his other options are closed off to him.