joel Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 u now i seen lately a lot of the girls on campus that are good looking i see em with bfs or other guys. one time i saw a gal in the comp lab was about to talk ot her and didn't ,but then 2 days later saw her hand and hand with another guy-guess her bf, woow i am glad i didn't talk ot her or i might get threatened or azz kicked. lol. most gals out there in life that are good looking have a bf. some guys might think i am competition. first i don;t want to waste my time on a gal with a bf and talk and flirt with her, but i want to now straight out if she is single-don;t like wasting time. soem girls are very freindly and talktive and flirty at times and even have a bf. what is with that. what happens if u ask a gal out- and hten she has a bf. how can u tell without askin or anything if she has a bf. i personally want to now straight up if she has a bf or not. why waste time talking to a gal with a bf when there are other single gals out there i should be going after. how would her bf feel like if some guy was hittin on her or trying to be freinds with her-some guys hate it-almost like compettion. how can u do this without askin and personally seeing her kiss some guy. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 They all have boyfriends, and that's the way it'll be for the rest of your life. However, keep in mind that it's college, and some relationships aren't as serious as you think. Some girls have a boyfriend because it's fashionable, but they're keeping their eyes open in case something better comes along. Sometimes you just have to ask them out anyway and see what they say. Some of them will say yes even though they do have a boyfriend, but they won't tell you about it until later, or they may never say anything at all. It's all hit and miss, really. I only know this because I've been there myself... some of the girls were willing to drop their boyfriends, too, but that's because they weren't serious to begin with. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's played this game. Weird, I know, but that's the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Some girls have a boyfriend because it's fashionable, but they're keeping their eyes open in case something better comes along. us guys do that too, in the end the battle of the sexes continue! Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 I don't have a boyfriend Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 You rock, Lonestar! us guys do that too, in the end the battle of the sexes continue! That's a given, monkey, but why would I want to talk about other guys???? Link to post Share on other sites
gridiron Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 On top of what western said, they could just be going out, but not exclusive. Some people may be dating three or four different people. There's only one way to find out, and no, you don't have to risk a beating to just find out whether she would go out with you. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by monkey00 us guys do that too, in the end the battle of the sexes continue! 75% of the time it is GIRLS who do this. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by greenhorn 75% of the time it is GIRLS who do this. true. girls are evil by nature. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by joel most gals out there in life that are good looking have a bf. some guys might think i am competition. why do you keep on stating the obvious in your posts? no shyt most good looking women already have guys! how can u tell without askin or anything if she has a bf. i personally want to now straight up if she has a bf or not. why not ask her? ever though about that?? but you are probably so deathly afraid of women that even the though of actually talking with a woman will scare you into the afterlife. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale why not ask her? ever though about that?? but you are probably so deathly afraid of women that even the though of actually talking with a woman will scare you into the afterlife. lol alphamale, you make it seem as easy as 1,2,3. First off if you're interested in a chick and plan on asking her out, it wouldnt be smart to ask if she had a bf. second, girls are good at lying...for all the more reasons, so it breaks it down to 50/50 chance she's lying. BUT HOW CAN I TELL!!! BOOHOO.... you can or you cant, you can only tell through her body language and interest level in you....that's all you get! Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by monkey00 lol alphamale, you make it seem as easy as 1,2,3. First off if you're interested in a chick and plan on asking her out, it wouldnt be smart to ask if she had a bf. second, girls are good at lying...for all the more reasons, so it breaks it down to 50/50 chance she's lying. BUT HOW CAN I TELL!!! BOOHOO.... you can or you cant, you can only tell through her body language and interest level in you....that's all you get! Give it a try man..take a risk..without risk there is no return...you win some and you lose some...dont let that deter you.. More risk - more return (more premium too ) Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by monkey00 true. girls are evil by nature. I couldn't agree more.....there are wise ppls like me to add to it their default value is set to be of dumper and if you they don't take any other value the default plays then... Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 i had gals give me good vibes-smiles, talktive, freindly, and wasn't interested and women who were like that and already had a steady bf or married . so whats with that. u can't tell by bidy languate. they can just be freindly and all and not interested in u as a bf or even date. most women and most ppl out there are freindly-well in vancouver they are Originally posted by monkey00 lol alphamale, you make it seem as easy as 1,2,3. First off if you're interested in a chick and plan on asking her out, it wouldnt be smart to ask if she had a bf. second, girls are good at lying...for all the more reasons, so it breaks it down to 50/50 chance she's lying. BUT HOW CAN I TELL!!! BOOHOO.... you can or you cant, you can only tell through her body language and interest level in you....that's all you get! Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes22 Posted March 12, 2005 Share Posted March 12, 2005 Originally posted by joel i had gals give me good vibes-smiles, talktive, freindly, and wasn't interested and women who were like that and already had a steady bf or married . so whats with that. u can't tell by bidy languate. they can just be freindly and all and not interested in u as a bf or even date. most women and most ppl out there are freindly-well in vancouver they are If a girl is giving you good vibes that means she is feeling good vibes from you and she is attracted to that. If a girl is not attracted to you in any way whatsoever she will not even pay attention to you, let alone smile or talk to you. They may not be interested in you as a boyfriend or even a date at first, but this may be due to where they are in there own lives (boyfiend, off a bad/long relationship etc.) But the future could be wide-open. Remeber, if they talk to you, smile at you, or even notice you from a distance, who's to say that couldn't be the start of something. This is how men and women have been meeting for centuries. I wouldn't worry about recieving a beat-down everytime you ask a girl out. I guy dating a good looking girl should expect this to happen. You shouldn't worry about if a girl has a bf or not...just go for it. If they are not interested, maybe they have some cute friends. Like someone up above who replied risk will often turn into reward. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted March 12, 2005 Author Share Posted March 12, 2005 what happens if u have to be the initiator all the time-the starter of conversations. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 It means that you're the guy and she's the girl. Most girls will wait for guys to come and talk to them, although some will take the initiative themselves. Usually this isn't the case. Sounds unfair, but that's the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes22 Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 Originally posted by joel what happens if u have to be the initiator all the time-the starter of conversations. Look...that is just the way it is. Men chase women. Don't wait for them to ask you out 'cause they expect to be asked out by guys. When you go up to talk to a chic, just be cool about things. Don't force the issue. Develop some type of rapport. If it's some girl you know you won't ever see again...be creative (but respectful). What have you got to lose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted March 13, 2005 Author Share Posted March 13, 2005 all i now is women are hard to figure out-some just talk to u b/c u talk to em and they don't want to tell u to screw off b/c htey are too nice so they talk to u. all along they have no interest in u or have a bf. i don;t now this but what happens if that every time the guy myself has to initate the converstiaon all the time- is she reallyl interested. some gals are just freindly and are scared of tellin u to get lost-too nice and i donlt want to bother her if she ain;t intersted. i knew someother women who are more talktive and initators which i so love, makes it more equal and freindly too as she into being freinds or more. but if i have to do all the work i really wonder about her level of interests Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 most good looking gals have bf Not all .......... Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted March 13, 2005 Moderators Share Posted March 13, 2005 I have initiated conversations with a goodly number of women. They've reciprocated in terms of being chatty, talkative, fun, and more notably, flirty as hell ... not "stranger in the street" type of flirtation. Yet, I have subsequently found out that they had BF's, and were not available. I find that women love being flirted with, even when with someone steady, for the ego-/confidence boost it gives them. As a man, I will generally only flirt in a big way (you know what I mean ) - with someone I am interested in. It is in that respect, I believe, that the lines get crossed for men. Many women will flirt (and accept flirtation readily) for different reasons. Men generally have the obvious reason for their flirting. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 I hate girls who flirt and HAVE a boyfriend. Hell, I ended up sleeping with a girl all night and 2 days later I attempt asking her out on a real date, but she tells me she has a guy already. I swear... worst emotional trauma so far in my life. Moreso that she just used me but nonetheless I'm over it hopefully. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by Curt Many women will flirt (and accept flirtation readily) for different reasons. Men generally have the obvious reason for their flirting. Let me give you the main reasons for this CURT. 1) women are always looking to trade up so they flirt with many guys to find out more about them and see if this new guy is better than their current man 2) they look for attention 3) they want something such as free drinks at the bar 4) they want a one night stand or casual sex 5) ego boost 6) make their girlfriends jealous 7) make their current man jealous Link to post Share on other sites
whatcanisay Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Now those reasons thats exactly why guys are always pissed of at girls and they fight.... Why do you go around looking for better people CONSTANTLY cant you get enough of something always looking for better when they guy you are with at the moment is really great and is really trying. See that just pisses me off.......them going around looking trying to constantly find better and the finally screw over their current bf or whatever. Thats really not cool and i dont agree with that and if most girls here agree with that then there really is no hope for MANkind. hehe Link to post Share on other sites
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