avintagegirl Posted October 18, 2014 Share Posted October 18, 2014 Hello all, I am new here and I have a bit of a situation. A friend of mine is going through a divorce and she is in a pretty vulnerable state right now. We talk pretty frequently and she has mentioned that after being with men all her life, maybe she should experience a relationship with a lady. At first I thought she was just kidding, blowing off steam. She has never really talked about being attracted to women. She does know I was in a same sex relationship for a few years and also knows I have no desire to pursue that type of relationship again. Last night she texts me. She is upset and is in a pretty vulnerable state and confesses that if I wasnt one of her bffs that she would want me to be her first lesbian experience. Maybe I shouldnt have been, but I was still surprised. I let her know that I was flattered and that was a nice compliment but I did not encourage dialogue on the topic. She had previously invited me to stay over tonight after we go out and now I just feel like it could get uncomfortable. I dont want to hurt her feelings. It's not her - but I dont think she will see that - I just dont want to go there again. At this point in the game, Im not ready to see anyone that way man or woman. I feel bad because she is vulnerable. But I know that this is not about me either. She isnt saying these things because she has feelings for me. It has nothing to do with me at all. Its a new experience - one that could be beneficial. With her in this emotional place and given my past I think she sees me as a potential place to start. I know how I feel I just don't know if I have the words to say. I don't want to hurt her. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 She is your friend so just be honest with her that you aren't interested in fooling around with ANY women as you had the experience and don't want to do it again. Do let her know that you maybe can help her find someone else to have a casual fling with. Make your boundaries clear to her and hopefully she'll respect that and not feel upset. With her in this emotional place and given my past I think she sees me as a potential place to start. Mention to her it would ruin the friendship and change everything so it's NOT worth opening that door. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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