Trotters Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 My grandma has just been hassling me because I havnt got a girlfriend. Im 34, now I don't know if its because it was easier in her day or what but I feel these days it can take months to really get to know someone. Ive just come out of a 9 month relationship & I still felt I didn't know everything about her after that long. Yes, I can go on dates but they don't just become your gf. I feel it can take months & months to get to know someone even if theres chemistry you still don't "know" a person fully for a while. What do you think?. Link to post Share on other sites
potsticker Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 I think getting one's pretty easy. Keeping one.... now that's hard work 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Cristo Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 My grandma has just been hassling me because I havnt got a girlfriend. Im 34, now I don't know if its because it was easier in her day or what but I feel these days it can take months to really get to know someone. Ive just come out of a 9 month relationship & I still felt I didn't know everything about her after that long. Yes, I can go on dates but they don't just become your gf. I feel it can take months & months to get to know someone even if theres chemistry you still don't "know" a person fully for a while. What do you think?. Yes, women were much better in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 Sarcasm surely? (if it went over my head then a succinct apology) Yes, women were much better in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Cristo Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 Sarcasm surely? (if it went over my head then a succinct apology) Not sarcasm and your apology is accepted. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 it can take a long time. However i usually feel like i at least know them somewhat within a few months. At the point where I am really comfortable with the person and understand their sense of humour. You will never know everything about a person..even over a lifetime. Warning: I'm a woman, so obviously my advice will be useless because women are the problem with the world today. Link to post Share on other sites
Cristo Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 Warning: I'm a woman, so obviously my advice will be useless because women are the problem with the world today. Brilliant! Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 it can take a long time. However i usually feel like i at least know them somewhat within a few months. At the point where I am really comfortable with the person and understand their sense of humour. You will never know everything about a person..even over a lifetime. Warning: I'm a woman, so obviously my advice will be useless because women are the problem with the world today. Woman are not the problem but the mentality of throwing away people at the first thing they dont like . It goes for man and woman ! Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 I think that your Grandma is trying to connect with you and is going about it, in an awkward way. You really should just live your life. Pray about it and let the universe bring it to you. A lot of us here and on other boards/real life. We are so caught up in this chase that is making us a little semi depressed. The only thing I think that we should all be doing is spiritual salvation for self support. Striving for healthiness and sustaining an income for food and shelter. Everything else is just gravy. I am sure from 34 to 87/94 in age. You are not going to remain single till death. Even if it does happen. Once you get to heaven. It really does not matter. As your spirit will be taken care of and all this angst and relationship thing will be trivial and forgettable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted October 19, 2014 Share Posted October 19, 2014 My grandma has just been hassling me because I havnt got a girlfriend. Ive just come out of a 9 month relationship What do you think?. Just tell grandma that you've just come out of a relationship so she shouldn't be hassling you to jump into another one straight away. And also tell her that you love her, because she's your grandma. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 It depends on your standards. I know people who seem to "fall in love" with everyone they date and everyone they date becomes their bf/gf. For those people it's relatively easy to meet someone and then get into a relationship. For me though, I have had more dates and casual, non-committed relationships than committed, exclusive, bf/gf ones. A main reason is that what I want in a serious relationship isn't something that's a dime a dozen so while I may be able to have fun with lots of men, they aren't necessarily good bf material. Esp nowadays I don't have an interest in being in an exclusive relationship with a man I can't at least see marriage potential with, so that makes having a bf more difficult. But casual relationships? Or men I can go out and have fun with? That's fairly simple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted October 20, 2014 Share Posted October 20, 2014 Brilliant! Demonstration of sarcasm. You're welcome. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Trotter. Perhaps it was easier to land a BF/GF in your Grandma's day. I assume she is in her late 70's or early 80s. Now a days. People are really hypersensitive. We all expect to have this great love life and if we don't have it. Something is wrong. With all the hype on TV/Movies/Social Media. How can we even compete. On the other hand why does it seem easy for some people and harder for others and even if we look a their looks. Its not like for example One man or woman don't know how to groom themselves and the other group of man or woman do. For myself. I want something deeper. I guess the woman I want to date I would want to settle down with after a couple of years being together. I should post a thread about the desire to be coupled or unncoupled and how it affects us. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 It is very hard. Took me 27 years to get a genuine one. You can't compare your grandmother's time to now. Chalk n cheese. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 Ask grandma if any of her friends have cute granddaughters she could introduce you to. At the 9 month mark you should feel some connection to somebody you are dating. I learn new things about my husband periodically but I would still say I know him better than anyone. Maybe not at the 9 month mark but then I was still in the top 5 of people who know him best. Link to post Share on other sites
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