NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 after a week of NC it all goes down hill....what went wrong? if i ever thought i was doing better i must have been kidding myself. i swear this girl is trying to kill me....one minute she loves and and cares about me then the next she doesn't care and is working on not caring. we talked for about an hour she cried then got mad i fell like s*** today............... Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Sounds like this girl has bigger issues than if she "loves" you...a girl in love knows she's in love and if she's on a roller-coaster over you "in'' love "out" of love...why would you want someone like that in your life..remember misery loves company...let her get over her drama and give her space...when a girl feels she's losing her love trust me she'll be doing everything possible to get his attention... But I'm a little confused did she say she doesn't care anymore or is trying not to care??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 first she was all mad and told me she didn't care then later she is crying and tells me "i do care about you but i am trying not to" i got more confused then ever when she said that cause then 2 minutes later she says she wants to be with be but.......then silence i dunno i just know i miss her so much and it is killing me inside and with all the NC and going out with my friends to hangin out i still miss her and love her and talking to her last night has me feeling like jumping out of the basement window.... and then she is like i am going away here, going there, anything to get you off my mind and if i have too i will sleep with someone else to try and stop thinking about you......like i really needed to hear that she is driving me insane........ Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Thats exactly what she's doing...BE STRONG!!! She's playing for a fool...she know she has you rapped around her finger...don't let someone make you feel less than what you are...how can you love someone that makes you feel like that...look at the situation your in?? what if someone was in your shoes, what would you tell them to do?? You need someone who's going to make you feel special and give you the love you need in return... I was once with a guy who was very self centered and let me tell you I did everything for that guy...but it got to the point I needed to do for me and stop being there like his "call girl"... You need to love yourself before you love someone else...and loving her sounds like to much of headache Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 i know and i wish i could just move on......actually i dunno all i do know is i love this girl for 2 years she was my world and i'd like to think i was hers. she wanted to be with me 24/7 and now she is trying to forget me one day she misses me and loves me and the next she hopes i freeze to death and the crazy thing is that even with all the stuff shem says and all the misery i am going through right now i still love her and i swear i think i am loving her more now then ever. i couldn't even sleep last night. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Maybe what you have is an illusion of what "could be"...I once felt that way...I had the perfect pic painted in my head for 2 years also...but he never came around...I felt like a door mat that he could just step all over and do whatever he wants whether it hurt my feelings or not... Eventually you will get tired of feeling useless and undesirable...you need to put your head up and realize you have qualities that any woman would want...don't be stuck you can love her and have fun with other girls...you need to get out..buy some clothes or shoes...make yourself better if not my friend your going to drown Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 that's just it i think i have already drowned just for some reason the light haven't gone out Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 YOU NEED A BIG HUG..... HERE'S A HUG !!! Put your head up....take a deep breathe and realize you are worth being loved you just haven't met the right person yet Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by NTB after a week of NC it all goes down hill....what went wrong? if i ever thought i was doing better i must have been kidding myself. i swear this girl is trying to kill me....one minute she loves and and cares about me then the next she doesn't care and is working on not caring. we talked for about an hour she cried then got mad i fell like s*** today............... NTB, you'll be okay in time. You really will. Maybe you should ignore her phone calls so you can heal from this. I know it's hard, but each time you talk to her, it opens old wounds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 i must seem like some weak a$$ but man i am so in love with her, when people use to talk to be about love and breaking up and not being able to sleep i use to say yeah right now look at me i look like s***, feel like the world is coming to an end i don't know if i am coming or going....... i'm questioning everything about me........ sometimes i feel like screamin other times i feel like finding a cave somewhere and just hiding for the rest of my days. Link to post Share on other sites
demonfall Posted March 12, 2005 Share Posted March 12, 2005 Hang in there man. I feel the same way, and it's been two months since she left me. You're going to have a lot of ups and downs. Some days I'm OK, and others I just want to stay in bed and cry. If she really hasn't shown any signs of making up, please try to let go and move on. It took me over 6 weeks to get to that point, and I still really don't want to give up on her. I know that it's the best thing for me though, no matter how much it hurts. I found this post by Donut very helpful. It's from this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t58147/ Originally posted by Donut That is probably the most difficult thing about any relationship that comes to an end. Letting go is such a finale. It's your way of saying that all hope of rebuilding what you once had is gone. But, it's also a beginning. It's the beginning of a new life. A life that you get to build from scratch. A chance to avoid the mistakes that you have made in the past. You learn from your mistakes and go on. That is what makes us human. It's what makes us different from the other inhabitants of this beautiful world. We continue to search for the one thing in our lives that is missing. It may be something as simple as a kind word. Or the way our lover touches us when we are together. It can even be the way that we can express our love and caring with the person that we want to be with. Chances like that are far a few between. Don't squander them. Make the most of it. Don't be afraid to give yourself completely to the emotions that you feel. It's the only way that you can truly be happy. But, don't be reckless, either. Consider all of your options and make the best choice for yourself. Just be yourself. Don't try to be something that you aren't. In the long run, you'll find that you've made the right choices and that you are happy with the way your life has turned out. But the first step is letting go. I discovered this recently. It's made such a difference in my life, that I felt that I should tell you how I feel. It's wonderful, exhilarating, and frightening all at the same time. But, if you find the right person, you'll have done something that very few lucky people have done. They've built a new life and have filled it with love. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
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