anne1707 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 This is how I feel. I would not prefer being single over my marriage but would certainly prefer over most marriages I have seen. I agree Woggle but here's the thing.... The marriage that you have is not the kind of marriage I want. The marriage I have is not the kind that Shepp wants. The marriage Shepp has is not the marriage that.... And on it on it goes. It does not mean that one marriage is better tha the other it just means that we are in the marriages that are right for us. Different personalities, different lifestyles, etc. but none of us would rather be single 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I agree Woggle but here's the thing.... The marriage that you have is not the kind of marriage I want. The marriage I have is not the kind that Shepp wants. The marriage Shepp has is not the marriage that.... And on it on it goes. It does not mean that one marriage is better tha the other it just means that we are in the marriages that are right for us. Different personalities, different lifestyles, etc. but none of us would rather be single True but most marriages I know are filled with contempt and loathing and very little love. Many involve cheating. Why would anybody want that? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 True but most marriages I know are filled with contempt and loathing and very little love. Many involve cheating. Why would anybody want that? I hope that's not a dig Woggle Plus I disagree with your view on "most marriages" Link to post Share on other sites
Copelandsanity Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 When I was married, I couldn't fathom being single. But now I can't fathom being married, lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 Does polygamy count?? TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I hope that's not a dig Woggle Plus I disagree with your view on "most marriages" It certainly wasn't a dig. In most cases the cheating spouses do not show anything to the kind of remorse I have seen from you. It's more like entitlement and blame shifting. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 It certainly wasn't a dig. In most cases the cheating spouses do not show anything to the kind of remorse I have seen from you. It's more like entitlement and blame shifting. Thank you Woggle. That means a lot coming from you Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 I just think it's too varied to say one way or the other. In my circle, I'd much rather be single that married to any one of my friends' husbands. I have seen more miserable marriages than happy ones, but I have seen happy ones. A friend of mine is happy in hers and those two are ideally suited for one another but though I like him for her, I would not be the least romantically interested in him. It's easy to imagine you'd be happiest if you made the perfect match, but that is not a reality for most people. But if you're the type who always wants someone around, you just aren't happy any other way. I'm not at all that way. The couple of women I know who are that way are diagnosed codependent and have miserable marriages they stay in rather than be on their own. I know some men who are like that as well. Just from personal observation in my own life, the two things I see most important to have an okay marriage are that you want someone around most of the time and that one or the other is willing to give in a lot to keep from an argument running the marriage into the ground. And then it's still a lopsided thing, not ideal. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted October 21, 2014 Share Posted October 21, 2014 Well it was more like" Thank heavens I'm married, from the stories of grief I keep hearing from my single friends. ..from players to the mind games...she thanks her lucly stars she's been married. She makes it sound like you're better off being married than being single. But I've heard even MORE of my share of nightmare marriaged and divorces than I can shake a stick at. Don't get me wrong as I've been witnessed to happy select marriages though. The solution is to not date. Just be happy single. If you get married, great, if someone doesnt still great. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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