NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 will sleeping with someone else really help you get over your ex???? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Until you cum, sure - anything's possible. In general, no. Getting over your ex is something you have to internally allow yourself to do, and won't be easily influenced by anything going on in the outside world. Its as easy (and as hard)... as simply letting go. Much easier to find some escape than it is to face it directly and make the conscious choice to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
snoop_dawg22 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 I would not suggest sleeping with someone in order to get over your ex. I've read most of your posts and you really care about this girl. Why would sleeping with someone else make you feel better. What would you be proving? Sex is a very intimate thing and is to be shared with someone you care for. I would suggest another method. Let your ex have time to work through her confusion. You said she's trying not to care for you. It sounds like she's so confused right now. But think about this. If you were to get back with her and she was to find out that you slept with someone else.... she'd be hurt. She'd wonder if you really care for her like you say you do. But in the end it's up to you and your morals. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 i'm asking just cause she told me she would sleep with someone else just to forget about me so that is why i am asking as for me sleeping with someone else hell i can't even walk straight and besides i love her too much and in my head and heart we are still together as crazy as that might sound so it would be like i was cheating on her and i can't do that................... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 That changes things up a bit. she told me she would sleep with someone else just to forget about me If she was the one who broke up with you, I seriously doubt these are her true intentions. I expect she's saying that to you so that she doesn't have to tell you the real reason she's sleeping with someone else: because she wants to. The dumper rarely has to do much to 'get over an ex' because by the time they finally get to the point where they are ready to go ahead and break up, they are pretty much ready to move on anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 thing is i dunno i don't think she would do it but then again i am one confused puppy when it comes to her. i just wanted to know if it would work who knows......... Link to post Share on other sites
prayformydownfall Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 my ex has actually slept with omeone else, told me she hated him, loved me and it was nothing being with me.... now shes been in a relationship with him 4 2 months..... if this girl has lied 2 u b4, brush the dirt off your shoulder and put your head high and move on. nothings worse than being in limbo, believe me iv jus crawled out and wen u get there its awesome!! pls dont sleep with someone randomly tho, took me a month to get over that and put me into tears, just wait for someone who shows u that somethin else, that caring nature, and that bit of love, then go for it patty Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by NTB will sleeping with someone else really help you get over your ex???? It might help you move foward, but if you're as much in love with her as it appears, chances are you will compare whoever you f*ck to your ex, and you'll be thinking about her the whole time. You won't feel any better afterward and you'll want her even more. My ex-H told me that he thought of me whenever he was with someone else after our divorce. Dating other people is a healthy thing to do when moving on from a past relationship, but it doesn't make the thought and desire for the ex disappear. That takes time. I made out with a few guys after the ex and I broke up the second time around, and most of the time I compared the guys to him, leaving me missing him more. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Depends on the circumstances surrounding the sex. If you are developing feelings for the person you're having sex with, then I think it can help you get over your ex. In my experience, however, if you aren't developing those feelings, it's much less likely that sex alone will help you get over an ex. I've done the empty sex thing in the last year and a bit, and while it was good at the time, it didn't really address the "emptiness" or the feeling of loss. Empty sex is sort of like a drug... it takes the edge off temporarily but then can leave you feeling down. What you really miss isn't the sex -- that's easy enough to get. What's lacking when you break up with somebody is the connection, and getting over that loss takes time. Sex alone won't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Originally posted by NTB will sleeping with someone else really help you get over your ex???? Sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella82 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 Having sex with another person to get over an ex has usually always helped me. Yes, at times it makes me feel bad, but it does help. I can not really explain it, and I do not want to make it sound like I have had a lot of partners. I think sex should be between two people that love eachother, but having sex with lets say a friend of mine, or having a friends with benefits relationship makes me forget about my ex in a physical kind of way. But does not make the emotional hurt go away. In fact it makes my emotional hurt worse because I just had sex with some guy and we don't care about eachother. And then I start to think about how much my ex and I cared about eachother. But overall it does make me forget about him in the sexual kind of way, because when I am in the mood I am automatically reminded of the last time I had sex.......which was not with my ex. Link to post Share on other sites
ww Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 really ...sex to forget about an ex...unusual customs for dumpers... I thought it `s more likely sex when the ex is already dead meat ...sorry Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 I doubt it would help but I wouldn't know. I think if I ever did that it'd just make me feel dirty and worse than I felt before. Link to post Share on other sites
emotionsmessmeup Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 you would move on in soem ways... you would haev a little more fun ... it would make you forget temporarily i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
emotionsmessmeup Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 i had sex to try to get over him and i feel BETTER no i dont feel dirty I still feel strongly for him..but I simply needed to do this for myself... Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 15, 2005 Author Share Posted March 15, 2005 but what does sleeping with someone else ddo for you if you still feel strongly for him....if you don't mind me asking... Link to post Share on other sites
emotionsmessmeup Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 Makes you realize that you can be passionate with someone else....even if briefly...! part of you then wudnt hurt if your ex went and slept around... part of you is not in waiting that theyll return and so you have no sex in the hope that you'll have sex only with them. that you can do it like a man...with no strings attached! Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTB Posted March 15, 2005 Author Share Posted March 15, 2005 thanks for the reply not what i wanted to hear but then again i really don't know what i want to hear. i dunno if she has or if she hasn't. as far as i know she hasn't done anything with anyone........if she does i really don't want to know. i just hope that no matter what she does she knows that i love more than anything in this world. Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 Man, I did the one night stand thing a couple weeks back, and it did nothing more than make me feel empty and miss her more. Having wake up with a girl you dont even know laying on you, arm and head on ur chest made me feel crap, especially when I still love(D) my ex. So im not gonna go there again untill these emotions of mine has passed. Been just over 2 months for me now.... getting there slowly..very slowly. And trust me you dont wanna know who your ex is with or what shes doing... It would near kill me if I knew she had a new guy or was sleeping around... thats more than I could really handle! Link to post Share on other sites
emotionsmessmeup Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 my ex has gone to sleep around...we were bothe ach others first.. a man never settles with the first woman i guess... so he wants to go ****/date others... thats the reason he broke up with me Link to post Share on other sites
Angeleyez2583 Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 As everyone else has been saying, the answer is no. I got drunk sunday and had drunken sex with some guy I just met. All I could think of was my ex and how much I missed him. Don't have sex w/ anyone else until you are either over the girl or are back with her. Link to post Share on other sites
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