Author whatdoido123 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Share Posted October 31, 2014 U are scaring me now Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 U are scaring me now Because you are building it up to something that it almost certainly isn't. It's an absolutely moronic idea for you to be "taking a drive" with her right now because you aren't emotionally ready for or capable of handling it. What will you do when she says that she's "not sure" or that she "just wants to be friends for now" or when she says "no, but we'll see what the future holds"? Because all three of those are much more likely to happen then her saying "Oh yeah, let's get back together". But let's pretend something crazy happens and she says she wants to try again. Well, I wouldn't expect it to last very long and I would expect her to change her mind pretty shortly after because she hasn't had enough time to truly miss you and value you. One, because you broke up recently. Two, because you don't have the self-control to even go five days without talking to her. She'll take you back, get the same feeling that cause her to break up with you in the first place because nothing has really changed for her or for you since the break, and do it again. I mean, you are setting yourself up for a fall. This is a horrible idea. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Heartache79 Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Simon is right!! Been there done that. Gotta get my story on here. Ugh!! Been staying very busy. Your story is the exact same as mine. I've heard all the same lines. She jumped out of a 3 year relationship with him and rushed onto me. Battled her feelings with him for the past year. Guess where's she's at now?? Yep! With him. And you know what?? Gonna be the same again. She'll come running back to me soon. But sooner or later a mans gotta draw the line 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted October 31, 2014 Author Share Posted October 31, 2014 Because you are building it up to something that it almost certainly isn't. It's an absolutely moronic idea for you to be "taking a drive" with her right now because you aren't emotionally ready for or capable of handling it. What will you do when she says that she's "not sure" or that she "just wants to be friends for now" or when she says "no, but we'll see what the future holds"? Because all three of those are much more likely to happen then her saying "Oh yeah, let's get back together". But let's pretend something crazy happens and she says she wants to try again. Well, I wouldn't expect it to last very long and I would expect her to change her mind pretty shortly after because she hasn't had enough time to truly miss you and value you. One, because you broke up recently. Two, because you don't have the self-control to even go five days without talking to her. She'll take you back, get the same feeling that cause her to break up with you in the first place because nothing has really changed for her or for you since the break, and do it again. I mean, you are setting yourself up for a fall. This is a horrible idea. Hopefully it doesn't end the same way like it usually should right? That is what i am hoping. And i mean anything can happen during our 2-3 hour drive. We always have things to talk about regardless if this was before our breakup or after our breakup. I just learned that she wants to go job hunting with me on Monday as well because its akward to work at the same company as me. I feel like she is chasing me now but i can't really tell anymore. The only downside during our conversation is that she has plans tonight and won't go to haunted house with me. She said i should have asked her a couple days earlier so that she can plan accordingly. I don't know what to think of that but on Sunday is when we will get together and do our things. Hopefully we go little by little and she breaks up with her current BF and maybe i will get a chance to get back with her. I am scared though. I really am and i don't know what to think of all this. I do feel ALOT better today though because i got to talk to her all morning and afternoon at work texting back and forth. thoughts????? Link to post Share on other sites
Herpderp Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 U ask for our thoughts but don't care when we share with u advice that has helped us... Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted October 31, 2014 Share Posted October 31, 2014 Hopefully it doesn't end the same way like it usually should right? That is what i am hoping. And i mean anything can happen during our 2-3 hour drive. We always have things to talk about regardless if this was before our breakup or after our breakup. I just learned that she wants to go job hunting with me on Monday as well because its akward to work at the same company as me. I feel like she is chasing me now but i can't really tell anymore. The only downside during our conversation is that she has plans tonight and won't go to haunted house with me. She said i should have asked her a couple days earlier so that she can plan accordingly. I don't know what to think of that but on Sunday is when we will get together and do our things. Hopefully we go little by little and she breaks up with her current BF and maybe i will get a chance to get back with her. I am scared though. I really am and i don't know what to think of all this. I do feel ALOT better today though because i got to talk to her all morning and afternoon at work texting back and forth. thoughts????? My thoughts are that you aren't listening to a word that anyone is saying and you are in such a fog of delusion and denial that you are going to have to get stabbed in the heart and set on fire before you realize how foolish you are being. You hope you are the exception. Everyone hopes that they are the exception. But for every compulsive gambler that wins big at the casino there are thousands of others that can't pay their rent. Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 OP, There's nothing you can do when someone can't let go of an ex, in this case, her current boyfriend who was an ex. I got my high school sweetheart back sooo many times after a breakup, and she would drop the guy she was seeing every time I got back in the picture. This happened for 9 years. I'm the douche you're hating right now, but the long and short of it is that you cannot, absolutely cannot, change some people's feelings about their ex. Your ex has proven that she can't let him go. It was bad for her to jump into a relationship with you after so little time after her breakup with him. This is the exact reason why. She's now hurting her rebound guy, which is you. That's all you are. Let her go. That's the only thing you can do. Link to post Share on other sites
Mi7522 Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 You really have to take some time to yourself, you're killing all of us by posting what you're doing. We have all been there but there will be absolutely no chance of getting her back without you taking some time to figure yourself out Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Share Posted November 2, 2014 I am not really ignoring what you guys are saying. I really appreciate all of the comments and suggestions. I guess its just my natural instinct that i am not ready to let go of my ex GF. As much as i hate hearing that she is sleeping with her CURRENT BF it really bothers me alot. I am not going to lie! IT REALLY SUCKS AND as much as this thread has given me advice to just MOVE ON, its really NOT that easy. I mean since the breakup i feel like i am never going to meet someone like her again. Don't get me wrong when i go out i see HOT and ATTRACTIVE girls, but i don't see a future with them though. Maybe a 1 night stand, or something for a month or two and that is it. Personally speaking i am 26 years old and i am not getting any younger. I really want to get married and have kids before i reach 30, but that will be a long shot unless i get back with my EX. I guess i have too much on the table and i feel like i am giving in too much. FWIW my ex GF ignored me thru TEXT all day today because she obviously is spending time with her CURRENT BF and that really bugs me. She promised that we will spend time together tmrow and go somewhere so i'll see if she flacks on me tmrow. Either way though i understand why the NC was in place, but like what u guys have stated i am just hoping i am the exception lol Link to post Share on other sites
jackinthebox1 Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 You are not the exception. There aren't any exceptions. You are the guy sitting around while she is ****ing some other guy incase she decides she needs a ride somewhere. You arent listening to anyone here which shows you are needy and desperate, which she knows, and isnt attractive. Be attractive, break contact. Or this thread will be here for the next twelve months before she gets a restraining order Link to post Share on other sites
Herpderp Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 U make it sound like none of us knows how it's like to one someone who we love so much. I'm sad to tell u that u won't be the exception. Even if u get back together with her, will it be the same again? Or will u worry day and night she's gonna do the same thing to do again? Think before u even answer that it will be the same. U ain't special brah.. These are harsh words, because I know the only way to forget a cheating ex girlfriend is to totally shut her off from your life and move on. When a door closes another one opens. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 I am not really ignoring what you guys are saying. I really appreciate all of the comments and suggestions. I guess its just my natural instinct that i am not ready to let go of my ex GF. As much as i hate hearing that she is sleeping with her CURRENT BF it really bothers me alot. I am not going to lie! IT REALLY SUCKS AND as much as this thread has given me advice to just MOVE ON, its really NOT that easy. I mean since the breakup i feel like i am never going to meet someone like her again. Don't get me wrong when i go out i see HOT and ATTRACTIVE girls, but i don't see a future with them though. Maybe a 1 night stand, or something for a month or two and that is it. Personally speaking i am 26 years old and i am not getting any younger. I really want to get married and have kids before i reach 30, but that will be a long shot unless i get back with my EX. I guess i have too much on the table and i feel like i am giving in too much. FWIW my ex GF ignored me thru TEXT all day today because she obviously is spending time with her CURRENT BF and that really bugs me. She promised that we will spend time together tmrow and go somewhere so i'll see if she flacks on me tmrow. Either way though i understand why the NC was in place, but like what u guys have stated i am just hoping i am the exception lol I'm sorry to be blunt, but you're being an idiot. And 26 is young as hell. Stop using your age as an excuse to be a fool. The fact that she's with another guy is evidence enough that you aren't a priority. You just look pathetic, both to her and to everyone, but chasing after a woman who cheated on you and dumped you. Stop being pathetic. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Share Posted November 2, 2014 I am VERY CONFUSED NOW. Last night she finally called me and started crying because of her personal issue and stress. She asked if she can move back in with me as a "Friend" and i am sketical. She is willing to split the rent in half and she doesn't know if this is a good idea. I don't neither. I feel like i am giving in way too much and i can hurt myself even more. She will let me know today so i am going to update this thread tonight. But i am worried that i will regret letting her move back in and possibly sleeping with each other again. She said nothing will happen and not to worry about it. What am i suppose to do? You guys know i am still attached to her like a magnet so obviously i told her its up to her to decide if she wants to stay at my place again. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 I am VERY CONFUSED NOW. Last night she finally called me and started crying because of her personal issue and stress. She asked if she can move back in with me as a "Friend" and i am sketical. She is willing to split the rent in half and she doesn't know if this is a good idea. I don't neither. I feel like i am giving in way too much and i can hurt myself even more. She will let me know today so i am going to update this thread tonight. But i am worried that i will regret letting her move back in and possibly sleeping with each other again. She said nothing will happen and not to worry about it. What am i suppose to do? You guys know i am still attached to her like a magnet so obviously i told her its up to her to decide if she wants to stay at my place again. Dude...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Herpderp Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Here, let me do u a favor and say what u wanna hear. OMG this is your opening to win her back. Let her stay with u again and u can definitely win her back! Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 She asked if she can move back in with me as a "Friend" and i am sketical. It's definitely going to be awesome when she moves in and THEN brings in her boyfriend to lay some pipe in her while you are in the living room. Roomies! Awesome! Yay! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted November 3, 2014 Author Share Posted November 3, 2014 IT was a long day today. My ex gf and I decided to go for a 2 hour drive up north. She offered to drive so i was cool with it. It was just me and her and we started talking about EVERYTHING. She made me laugh and i miss the OLD times where we are comfortable talking about anything. I can tell by her expression that she was sad too. It was actually our first time in 2 month where we went out of town just to get away from everything. Of course i was asking her relationship with her current BF. It seems to me like they are having issues and her BF is such a "MAMA Boy" where he has to report in to her mom all the time. Her BF lives with her mom and there is no privacy what so ever. My Ex gf is still unsure of what her plans are and she kept resisting whether it was a bad idea to move back in with me since its closer to work. I really feel like their relationship is not going to work and she wants to move back in with me. I am just afraid that she is using me as a backup but she seem very sincere. We left at around 10 am this morning and came back around 8 pm tonight. We pretty much spent all day today talking and going out for lunch and dinner and i had a good time. I really miss her deeply, and when she dropped me off to my car when we got back she gave me a very romantic hug and i really couldn't let go of her. I know that right now isn't the time to be hugging someone, but i deeply miss her. I am just afraid i will get hurt. She even asked me to go to the nightclub with her without her current BF knowing. I said no cuz i don't think that is the right thing to do. She is just in a confused state and that is what i am at as well. I really want her back, but she isn't letting go of her current BF yet but she knows that they probably won't work out because her current BF is a tool and doesn't do anything with her but stays home and watch TV. Link to post Share on other sites
Dopefish333 Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Man I hope this works out for you..but if you nose dive, its going to be a horrible crash. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted November 3, 2014 Author Share Posted November 3, 2014 Yeah that is why I have to be careful as well Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Dude...... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 I am just afraid i will get hurt. [...] but she isn't letting go of her current BF yet You will get hurt, even if she comes back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Share Posted November 4, 2014 You will get hurt, even if she comes back to you. Why do you say that? She actually came over and brought me Paradise Bakery and left it in the fridge for me when i come home for lunch. It was really nice of her and she says she misses me alot. No girl would make up that BS though right? I feel like she really wants to get back with me, but it just takes time for her to realize that i have changed as a person right? Link to post Share on other sites
Herpderp Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Stop being her emotional tampon dude. Welcome to mind games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Did she apologise for cheating on you? Did she say she wants you back? Why is she still with her new BF if he is so terrible? What measures will you take to prevent it from happening again? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Why do you say that? She actually came over and brought me Paradise Bakery and left it in the fridge for me when i come home for lunch. It was really nice of her and she says she misses me alot. No girl would make up that BS though right? I feel like she really wants to get back with me, but it just takes time for her to realize that i have changed as a person right? She wants to be closer to work while living with you. This is all about HER convenience, not yours. It was really nice of her to be with you all day... where was her boyfriend? What kind of excuse do you think she gave him about where she was all day? Yeah, she sounds FANTASTIC. You should definitely have her move in with you. Then you'll finally get to meet her boyfriend. You are in for a WORLD of hurt that when it happens, you can't blame her for. You can only blame yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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