Itspointless Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 I totally agree, but I would also add making positive changes in your life. That will help rebuild your confidence, self worth and self esteem. I agree, although whatdoido123 understood positive changes this far as changing to what his ex wanted to see. Positive change must mean changes solely meant for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 4, 2014 Author Share Posted December 4, 2014 I will update this tmrow. It's been a crazy couple of days! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 I will update this tmrow. It's been a crazy couple of days! I've seen professional wrestling matches that are more believeable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 Perhaps you could try what everyone has been advising you to do in the last 25 pages. That's an idea. If it didn't work for the first 25... what do you think is going to happen for the next 25? Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted December 4, 2014 Share Posted December 4, 2014 The Bold and The Beautiful is probably longer but this thread is getting closer! please keep us posted 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 5, 2014 Author Share Posted December 5, 2014 There are only 2 things that will help you, me and everyone. 1. Time 2. NC Now, there are many, many things you can occupy your time with that will help in the process, but there is no alternative or shortcut around the two things listed above. Many have tried, but zero have succeeded!!! So whatdoido123, how are you doing now? I totally agree, but I would also add making positive changes in your life. That will help rebuild your confidence, self worth and self esteem. I agree, although whatdoido123 understood positive changes this far as changing to what his ex wanted to see. Positive change must mean changes solely meant for himself. Sorry i haven't been updating this thread for the last couple of days. Its been a crazy week for me. Let me start out by saying things haven't been good for me lately thus makes it more diffiicult for me to sit on a computer to give an update. Not sure where i left off, but on Sunday (Nov 30, 2014) i invited my ex gf over so she can crash at my place. I didn't expect her to come over around 5:30 pm which was REALLY early because she never comes to my place until her current BF lets her go. She told me she spent the day with her BF and they went to Outback steak house, Went shopping at a mall, and watched a movie. She then said that her BF had plans so she dropped him back off at his place and came over to my place early. That right there shows how ****ed up it is because if it wasn't for that she would not be over at my place. So she came over and i ordered pizza and we ate that for dinner. Then we talked for a bit and we slept together. The next morning she had to work at 7 am so i walked her out to her car and she went to work. Then after work i texted her and said "what are you doing now" and she replies back "driving back home because we had a argument". That sounded suprising, but in the back of my mind i knew it was nothing serious. Around 8 pm on Monday, my ex gf texted me and told me she is driving to his place and is going to crash at his place because they have to "TALK IT OUT" LMAO. Of course i get the silence treatment and i don't hear from her until the next day On Tuesday, i decided that i would place the same game and i text her that i can't talk tonight and we can talk tmrow. She goes crazy on me and keeps asking me what i am doing. I just said i have things to do and she text and calls me over and over again. I said "talk tmrow" so i sleep that night and when i wake up i get a text "i know how it feels now", which makes me think oh now she knows how it feels to be ignored for the rest of the night. So on Wednesday, she acts cold towards me and i do the same. I tell her its not cool and i told her stright up that maybe we shouldn't be talking that much. I mean seriously we can talk 1x a week for alittle bit and then we should cut it off. She agrees and said that she still LOVES me, but in the back of my mind i am like thats BS. SO today comes and she text me if we can talk tonight. I text back saying there is nothing to talk about really. She said there is something.... Of course i don't text back and that was 5 hours ago and i haven't heard a word from her since. Its 8 PM now so either she will text me in a hour or she will be sleeping at his place and i won't hear from her again until tmrow morning... Life ****ing sucks because she seems like she is committed to this *******. I don't feel good at all because i feel like i am playing a stupid game and i will never win. Even if we were together for 4 years she isn't willing to give me another chance. AND i found out that she keeps lieing to me saying she isn't spending x amount of time with him when in reality they are always together attached to the ****ing hip. Writing this pisses me off and i don't know what else to think. My ex gf and i did grab lunch last Saturday i saw some pretty looking girls. The problem is its hard to start a conversation with some girl if you don't know them at all. I have decided that i might just persue some hobby or something just to keep my mind off things. If she doesn't want to give me another chance i should stop wasting my time and money on her because this **** ain't going to work in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 You both should wait 5 more years before entering a new RS with anyone!! I have students with more mature relationships Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Life effing sucks for you because you are voluntarily making life suck for yourself. Go look into a mirror. That's the only person you are allowed to blame. Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I guess she is falling of her pedestal, she has changed. Nothing about what she does has to do with love. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 Life ****ing sucks because she seems like she is committed to this *******. I don't feel good at all because i feel like i am playing a stupid game and i will never win. Dude, that's what we've been telling you for 26 pages now. Maybe you're finally beginning to believe it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 5, 2014 Author Share Posted December 5, 2014 Life effing sucks for you because you are voluntarily making life suck for yourself. Go look into a mirror. That's the only person you are allowed to blame. I've realized that. I sent her a text saying we should only talk once a week and so i am sticking to that. She willing be coming over in a hour to hang out and then we won't talk or hangout till next week. Hopefully that will do something where i can move on as well.. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreaminEagle Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I would laugh my balls off if she gets knocked up. Then again you wouldn't mind since you crave the games and drama. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I've realized that. I sent her a text saying we should only talk once a week and so i am sticking to that. She willing be coming over in a hour to hang out and then we won't talk or hangout till next week. Hopefully that will do something where i can move on as well.. I think she'll come over, have sex, give you a bunch of baloney words, you'll lap it up like a lovesick puppy and back to square one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 5, 2014 Author Share Posted December 5, 2014 I would laugh my balls off if she gets knocked up. Then again you wouldn't mind since you crave the games and drama. knocked up as in get preg? I am pretty responsible now imo Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I've realized that. I sent her a text saying we should only talk once a week and so i am sticking to that. She willing be coming over in a hour to hang out and then we won't talk or hangout till next week. Hopefully that will do something where i can move on as well.. How about you stop talking to her completely? Are you going out of your way to be an idiot? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 I've realized that. I sent her a text saying we should only talk once a week and so i am sticking to he willing be coming point in an hour to hang out and then we won't talk or hangout till next week. Hopefully that will do something where i can move on as well.. Stop.....f***ing...talking....to....her! You know what? You probably could have had a good shot at being back with her if you would have listened to us on page 1. Way better than you do now. You've messed it up at this point and become the doormat and backup boy. Maybe you are realizing this I dont know. Easily the most frustrsting member on this board lol. You are trying SO hard to prove us wrong that NC doesn't work. It could have saved it and you could have moved on to the point it wouldnt have matter if she did or not. At some point, you'll listen....or we're chasing bunnies (thanks CHI). I honestly dont know anymore. I'm leaning towards the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
PaperCrane Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 After reading this whole thing, this is all I can think: Link to post Share on other sites
ScreaminEagle Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 knocked up as in get preg? I am pretty responsible now imo I don't think you are mature enough to be responsible reading your threads, nor is your ex-gf who is banging you and the other guy, what if he knocks her up ? Then what? You going to lose your manhood and raise another mans child? Whats it going to take to get your head out of your hind parts ? Link to post Share on other sites
Shields boy Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 This thread is heartbreaking. OP: take back your power and let her go man. It's the only option here. Ignore her and date someone else. Then see what her reaction is when she finds out. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 knocked up as in get preg? I am pretty responsible now imo Yeah, but he (AS THE BOYFRIEND) probably isn't responsible. Enjoy them sloppy seconds! Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 6, 2014 Author Share Posted December 6, 2014 Stop.....f***ing...talking....to....her! You know what? You probably could have had a good shot at being back with her if you would have listened to us on page 1. Way better than you do now. You've messed it up at this point and become the doormat and backup boy. Maybe you are realizing this I dont know. Easily the most frustrsting member on this board lol. You are trying SO hard to prove us wrong that NC doesn't work. It could have saved it and you could have moved on to the point it wouldnt have matter if she did or not. At some point, you'll listen....or we're chasing bunnies (thanks CHI). I honestly dont know anymore. I'm leaning towards the latter. Yeah i realized that now. It is kind of too late now, but i will start that today and see how long i can stay NC. My goal is for 7 days, but u never know. I don't think you are mature enough to be responsible reading your threads, nor is your ex-gf who is banging you and the other guy, what if he knocks her up ? Then what? You going to lose your manhood and raise another mans child? Whats it going to take to get your head out of your hind parts ? I am actually not sure. Maybe if she gets married and has kids???? LOL i am the biggest dumbass ever so far and i am going to admit for once. Yeah, but he (AS THE BOYFRIEND) probably isn't responsible. Enjoy them sloppy seconds! Actually its not seconds when i ****ed her first before this current BF if ya know what i mean Anyways, yeah we went to grab lunch yesterday and we hung out for like 2 hours and she left. I texted her saying that she shouldn't contact me until next saturday and we can go from there. She obviously still has feeling for that guy or she wouldn't be sleeping with him still. On top it sucks because she complain how she has to pay for food etc and for the mom and him and its not fair. blah blah blah I could really care less tbh Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 6, 2014 Author Share Posted December 6, 2014 Day 1 of NC almost in the books. She did text me earlier today with "Hi" but i already told her that we are not talking until next Saturday just to catch up. From there i might be able to go FULL NC, but its rough so far Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 Day 1 of NC almost in the books. She did text me earlier today with "Hi" but i already told her that we are not talking until next Saturday just to catch up. From there i might be able to go FULL NC, but its rough so far Full NC is NC. There is nothing in between. There are no exceptions for contact. You either do it 100%, or don't bother with it. Think of it like going cold turkey from an addiction. If you are trying to get sober, you can't drink on certain occasions. You can't handle a drink because you don't know when to stop. The same concept applies to any breakup. No one can handle contact from an ex they still love because it snowballs. If you aren't going to actually go NC, I wouldn't even bother at all. I would just continue talking to her when you want. I don't think you are ready to go NC. At some point, you are going to have to force yourself to do it, and just power through the first months. At this point, you are nowhere near ready to detach from her. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 Day 1 of NC almost in the books. She did text me earlier today with "Hi" but i already told her that we are not talking until next Saturday just to catch up. From there i might be able to go FULL NC, but its rough so far You know what's sad though? The longer you persist in maintaining some form of contact, the more of your life you waste. You will never be open to the opportunity to even find someone else or any other opportunity that comes your way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 ^^^ +1 Yeah didn't talk to her all day yesterday and this is my 2nd day NC 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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