Author whatdoido123 Posted December 8, 2014 Author Share Posted December 8, 2014 2nd day NC in the books since its midnight now. I've been missing her and thinking about her so much the last two days. Its getting harder and harder as time goes. I hope that is normal, but i just want to hear her voice so baddddd, but i will prob see her at work tmrow or bump into her since we work together. But i will try to continue NC and not bump into her at work. Day 3 NC Starts 1 Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 Day 3 NC Starts you can do it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 9, 2014 Author Share Posted December 9, 2014 Day 3 NC in the books! Day 4 NC starts 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I'm really proud of you, don't give up! Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Yeah!!! Stick with it. Come here for support as much as needed!!! You've turned the corner. You are now a NC member. Welcome to the club!!! And forget this contact once a week non-sense. This should be permanent!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I gave up on you about ohhh... 10 pages back or so. Glad you're finally doing what's necessary. I'd put money on you breaking NC after 27 pages, but it will be OK. When/if you break it, just get right back on the wagon. - NC is the best way to get her back. - NC is the best way for you to heal. - NC is the best way to improve yourself. - NC is the best way to find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Day 3 NC in the books! Day 4 NC starts I am on 180 days.. basically more or less 6 months. I have broken the NC billions times before the last one.. if i made it you can do it too! ;) Link to post Share on other sites
unforgotten Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 whatdoido123, yes! You're finally healing and at the same time taking the powers away from her. Set this for a goal: make her contact you first and when she does (I promise you she will) you still keep doing the NC. It will feel good, I promise you. The tables will turn! Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 10, 2014 Author Share Posted December 10, 2014 I gave up on you about ohhh... 10 pages back or so. Glad you're finally doing what's necessary. I'd put money on you breaking NC after 27 pages, but it will be OK. When/if you break it, just get right back on the wagon. - NC is the best way to get her back. - NC is the best way for you to heal. - NC is the best way to improve yourself. - NC is the best way to find someone else. Yeah, we already agreed last week that we will hang out this Saturday. I promised her that we should catch up once a week for now and see how things are. I am just curious for the last couple of days has she missed me much? whatdoido123, yes! You're finally healing and at the same time taking the powers away from her. Set this for a goal: make her contact you first and when she does (I promise you she will) you still keep doing the NC. It will feel good, I promise you. The tables will turn! She actually texted me last saturday, but ignored it. She also called me twice last night and i ignored it too. I told her that its hard for me to always talk to her while not being BF/GF. She respects it and i hope she won't forget about me either. We do have plans this Saturday to hang out for a couple of hours and catch up on the whole week. Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Wow dude... you can't claim NC when you're planning on breaking it. What is wrong with you? I've given up again. You're on your own now. Time for you to learn the hard way, as it's obvious that's the only way you will learn. Dozens of people trying to beat it into you after 27 pages on a forum didn't do it. You're passing up your life for someone who's stringing you along. And quit acting like you're a big man for 4 days of NC, especially when you have plans to see her. If you were my buddy I'd have beat the sh** out of you long ago. You deserve what you get at this point. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Yeah, we already agreed last week that we will hang out this Saturday. I promised her that we should catch up once a week for now and see how things are. I am just curious for the last couple of days has she missed me much? She actually texted me last saturday, but ignored it. She also called me twice last night and i ignored it too. I told her that its hard for me to always talk to her while not being BF/GF. She respects it and i hope she won't forget about me either. We do have plans this Saturday to hang out for a couple of hours and catch up on the whole week. Dude, that's not No Contact. That's playing games. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Yeah, we already agreed last week that we will hang out this Saturday. I promised her that we should catch up once a week for now and see how things are. I am just curious for the last couple of days has she missed me much? We do have plans this Saturday to hang out for a couple of hours and catch up on the whole week. http://i.imgur.com/Ec2TVI1.gif 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Next step is realizing that missing you does not give the results you want as you feel awful after seeing her. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 I told her that its hard for me to always talk to her while not being BF/GF. She respects it She actually texted me last saturday, but ignored it. She also called me twice last night and i ignored it too. Right, she respects it so much that she completely ignores it and tries to contact you anyway. Well done for ignoring her but you need to make this NC permanent. Don't see or contact her saturday. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Bold prediction: She cancels Saturday because he's been "NC", I mean ignoring her, I mean, playing games and that's her way of punishing him. OP goes into a frenzy. Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 What a support you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 What a support you are. Have you read the entire thread? It's grimacing from start to thus-far finish. This woman is just awful. Cheats on everyone with everyone, manipulates, uses, lies constantly, and does it all so boldly that it's just audacious. She's extremely selfish and cruel. Then the OP has pretty much zero self-respect, admires such a scummy person for hell knows what reasons, almost seems to be some kind of serious emotional masochist or something and is so deluded that it's painful to watch. Anything short of dude wtf is wrong with you is an understatement at this point. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 What a support you are. I think 27 pages is enough support. At some point, he'll listen or he wont. Getting off topic... OP, stop with the half way doing stuff.You CLEARLY are only doing this so you can get a reaction out of her. As Simon said (hahaha just realized what I said), you are game playing now and not healing. You've already lost if you're doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 (edited) If you go see her, which I don't think you should, she will probably cancel on you anyways. It's all about getting the upper hand and relieving her guilt. But hey, if you're okay with doing that for someone who doesn't love you, respect you or care about you (only her own feelings), go ahead. Be like 99% of the other guys out there who don't know any better and think these type of actions will get back their ex. Your actions will only push her further away if you see her. Like c'mon, shes with another guy. What does it say about her character if she is contacting you? You are never ever going to have a girl respect you with the way you are. You are never going to find true love either if you continue like this. I'm sorry, but unless you wake up and change yourself for the better, its the truth. I'm disappointed in this thread, in the way you think things will turn out. I'm disappointed because a lot of us on here didn't have this good of advice to help us move forward. You do. It is all here. Instead, you're choosing to be in pain and continue down the same path. It's sad and I wish for you to one day change for the better. Want to get the best reaction out of her? Transform yourself into a better man. When you do that, you'll get to the point that you realize there is other options, you are way better than her and that you don't need anyone else for but YOURSELF for happiness. The best revenge you can get is moving on and becoming something she never thought you could be. Edited December 10, 2014 by lauri 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Have you read the entire thread? It's grimacing from start to thus-far finish. This woman is just awful. Cheats on everyone with everyone, manipulates, uses, lies constantly, and does it all so boldly that it's just audacious. She's extremely selfish and cruel. Then the OP has pretty much zero self-respect, admires such a scummy person for hell knows what reasons, almost seems to be some kind of serious emotional masochist or something and is so deluded that it's painful to watch. Anything short of dude wtf is wrong with you is an understatement at this point. Well, it must be said that apart from what OP told us we know nothing about these two people. By asking I learned that gambling addictions and stealing money have been a sore point in their relation. Who knows what happened in their past, or why OP finds it so extremely difficult to detach from her. I personally can think of some reasons that might be playing here, but I do not want to throw around categorizations. Personally I don't care if it are 28 pages or 300 as long as he will get to a better place in the end. Better sooner than later I guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 http://i.imgur.com/Ec2TVI1.gif hahahahaha! i think everybody feels that way reading this thread :lmao: 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 What a support you are. At some point, it stops being support and starts becoming enabling. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Well, it must be said that apart from what OP told us we know nothing about these two people. By asking I learned that gambling addictions and stealing money have been a sore point in their relation. Who knows what happened in their past, or why OP finds it so extremely difficult to detach from her. I personally can think of some reasons that might be playing here, but I do not want to throw around categorizations. Personally I don't care if it are 28 pages or 300 as long as he will get to a better place in the end. Better sooner than later I guess. I understand what you're saying, but I also see that gentle approaches don't work, logical approaches don't work and more man-to-man type approaches don't work. I don't think there's any way to really "support" this guy because he ignores everything and just gives updates on this train wreck. But I think I get the angle you're kind of taking. People with issues sometimes find it far more comfortable to stick with other people who have issues, rather than facing their issues. Like, rather than saying, "I have serious emotional problems and a history of stealing from people, I really need to man the **** up and get my ass in therapy," it's easier to say, "This woman is just as messed up as I am, if not more so, so therefore she's someone I can have who can't judge me." I can empathize with it, sure, but flailing around with this woman is not going to keep him numbed up to his reality forever, and will only lead to more chaos on down the road. So in my opinion to be 'supportive' in the sense of "hope it works out with her, man" is akin to being 'supportive' in the sense of "yeah have another bottle, Dave, we're too nice to judge you if you get ****faced drunk every night." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 I forgot this was still around. Looks like I've got some reading to catch up on. http://persephonemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/jon-stewart-popcorn11.gif 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 OP, You should propose to her (and her boyfriend since he's part of the package). When she says yes, get married and build them a house. Also build yourself a guest house in the backyard to stay in. Then, when he goes to work and leaves their room, she can leave the main house and cuddle with you in the guest house. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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