What is she implying????

[mtnbiker3000]

Yeah leaning towards that, its just hard to do it

 

Just take baby steps. You don't have to be healed by next week. But you have to start taking steps in the right direction. And the first step is stopping the bleeding. Right now you have a gushing wound and you're bleeding out. Take away her power and give yourself some!! Understand, she will NOT help you with that. You have to help yourself.

 

I would strongly suggest after sending the text I mentioned before, that you block / delete her. I don't think you have the strength to ignore her right now. The temptation to respond will be too great and you will fail. Nobody wants to see that.

[whatdoido123]

This text last night meant a lot to me, but I am sad still ((((((

 

 

 

 

Just know I care a lot abt u, I miss u at times , last night I had anxiety n couldn't sleep, feelings r still there, u can believe whoever u want but if nothing was there I wouldn't be talking to u n stuff

 

 

It's ok. Sorry we started talking again I will just let u go as hard as it is I knw I can do it. I know time will heal. Honestly I don't think me n the boy going to work out in the long run. Ur a good looking guy n i will b happy when u find the one. I knw she will b one lucky girl bcuz u will change by then n treat her way better. Sux what I've been thru for the last 9yrs with **** and you. But hopefully God sees it and something good will come in my life. Have a good night n I won't bother u anymore

 

 

 

 

 

But of course i continue the conversation...

Edited November 14, 2014 by whatdoido123

[Itspointless]

This text last night meant a lot to me, but I am sad still (((((( [...] But of course i continue the conversation...

The good feeling of contact will always be very short. After that it is just looking for the drug again.

 

Just start over.

[Zahara]

Just know I care a lot abt u, I miss u at times , last night I had anxiety n couldn't sleep, feelings r still there, u can believe whoever u want but if nothing was there I wouldn't be talking to u n stuff

 

It's ok. Sorry we started talking again I will just let u go as hard as it is I knw I can do it. I know time will heal. Honestly I don't think me n the boy going to work out in the long run. Ur a good looking guy n i will b happy when u find the one. I knw she will b one lucky girl bcuz u will change by then n treat her way better. Sux what I've been thru for the last 9yrs with **** and you. But hopefully God sees it and something good will come in my life. Have a good night n I won't bother u anymore..

 

This woman is manipulative and cunning. Boo hoo, I'm so sad because you are so great but I'll let you go since you don't want to talk to me because I want to be with someone that I see no future with.

 

What a bunch of baloney. And the "I won't bother you anymore." She knows you're hung up on her and those words will send you into a panic and push you to break the silence. It surely worked. Any woman that cared and loved you, would let you go and let you heal because the last thing she would want to do is make you witness her being with someone else while you torment yourself over losing her. This one wants best of both worlds without considering anyone else but herself. What a piece of work.

 

All textbook BS. Nothing new. This one will toy with you till she's drained and exhausted you. All because she loves the ego boost and the attention.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

This text last night meant a lot to me, but I am sad still ((((((

 

 

 

 

Just know I care a lot abt u, I miss u at times , last night I had anxiety n couldn't sleep, feelings r still there, u can believe whoever u want but if nothing was there I wouldn't be talking to u n stuff

 

 

It's ok. Sorry we started talking again I will just let u go as hard as it is I knw I can do it. I know time will heal. Honestly I don't think me n the boy going to work out in the long run. Ur a good looking guy n i will b happy when u find the one. I knw she will b one lucky girl bcuz u will change by then n treat her way better. Sux what I've been thru for the last 9yrs with **** and you. But hopefully God sees it and something good will come in my life. Have a good night n I won't bother u anymore

 

 

 

 

 

But of course i continue the conversation...

 

Were you dating a four year old? Serious question

[whatdoido123]

Were you dating a four year old? Serious question

 

We started dating when she was 21 years old. But now she is 25 and I am 26 respectfully.

[Simon Phoenix]

This text last night meant a lot to me, but I am sad still ((((((

 

 

 

 

Just know I care a lot abt u, I miss u at times , last night I had anxiety n couldn't sleep, feelings r still there, u can believe whoever u want but if nothing was there I wouldn't be talking to u n stuff

 

 

It's ok. Sorry we started talking again I will just let u go as hard as it is I knw I can do it. I know time will heal. Honestly I don't think me n the boy going to work out in the long run. Ur a good looking guy n i will b happy when u find the one. I knw she will b one lucky girl bcuz u will change by then n treat her way better. Sux what I've been thru for the last 9yrs with **** and you. But hopefully God sees it and something good will come in my life. Have a good night n I won't bother u anymore

 

 

 

 

 

But of course i continue the conversation...

 

What a manipulative text. She sounds all nice, then she accuses you of being a bad boyfriend (to absolve herself of cheating) and makes it all about her. She sucks dude, the sooner you get that through your thick skull the better. And she texts like a child.

[mtnbiker3000]

I said it before and I'll say it again. She's playing you like a piano. And your giving her exactly what she wants. This won't end until your lying on the ground in the fetal position, mumbling incoherently... F this b*tch. She is destroying you for her own benefit. Why on earth would you allow this? I'll tell you why. Because you have low self esteem and low self worth. Very low. Your petrified you can't do better. But guess what?? You can. You will... But, if you don't address this it will happen again and again and again.

[Million.to.1]

You should be done with her because she can't spell.

 

This is the best post LS post I have ever read.

[whatdoido123]

What a manipulative text. She sounds all nice, then she accuses you of being a bad boyfriend (to absolve herself of cheating) and makes it all about her. She sucks dude, the sooner you get that through your thick skull the better. And she texts like a child.

 

 

Isn't is normal to text like that though? You are not suppose to spell out every single word in a text? At least that is what i thought.

 

 

I said it before and I'll say it again. She's playing you like a piano. And your giving her exactly what she wants. This won't end until your lying on the ground in the fetal position, mumbling incoherently... F this b*tch. She is destroying you for her own benefit. Why on earth would you allow this? I'll tell you why. Because you have low self esteem and low self worth. Very low. Your petrified you can't do better. But guess what?? You can. You will... But, if you don't address this it will happen again and again and again.

 

 

I know, she even lied to me saying she was spending the night at her cousins house when in reality she spent the night at her BF place. Now she tries to play it cool and ask if we can hang out tonight.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

Isn't is normal to text like that though? You are not suppose to spell out every single word in a text? At least that is what I though

 

There is a difference between shortning words like thx (thanks) and things like that....then there is texting like you are using a speak and spell.

 

She sounds very uneducated and, quite honestly, very trashy.

[Simon Phoenix]

Isn't is normal to text like that though? You are not suppose to spell out every single word in a text? At least that is what i thought.

 

Absolutely not. You dated a moron.

[whatdoido123]

Lol wow she's not a moron. Maybe just not smart enough like uuuu

[Heartache79]

Answer us all one damn question. Could you honestly see yourself carrying on an honest relationship and trusting this women ever again??? And trust me alot of us have been on your shoes before. I know it's not easy to let go but save yourself the pain in the long run and cut ties with this gal.

[Dopefish333]

I seriously hope you never consider dating this girl again, in fact I wish you would just stop all together in seeing and talking to her. You can do so much better but you don't realise it as you are in this foggy state as many have said. No offense man but you sound incredibly weak minded at this point. You haven't even attempted to head any of the advice givin to you. These people know what they are talking about and would never steer you in the wrong direction. Please just wake up and see the positive changes that will arise from releasing your self from this toxic girl. I use the term girl because she has yet (by your account) to prove any lady like qualities.

 

To add more, why the hell would you put yourself through this anyhow. Any rational person at the point would walk away even if they had never taken any advice from anyone, but you have all the information available to you but still fail to realise it. I hate to be rude but not sure what it's going to take to wake you up.

Edited November 16, 2014 by Dopefish333

[whatdoido123]

Answer us all one damn question. Could you honestly see yourself carrying on an honest relationship and trusting this women ever again??? And trust me alot of us have been on your shoes before. I know it's not easy to let go but save yourself the pain in the long run and cut ties with this gal.

 

 

To be honest i actually can trust my EX girlfriend if we did get back together. For whatever reason, i have to say i did more wrongs than she did by FAR. Yeah she probably cheated on me with another guy probably when we weren't broken up yet, but i don't blame her. I mean i do blame her because it came out of nowhere and i did not expect it to happen to quickly.

 

But at the same time how can u blame her when i put her though all the rough times? The funny thing is she keeps saying that she wants to get back together, but she is afraid and she just wants to wait it out to see if i have changed as a different person as a whole.

 

That gets me thinking maybe she is trying to see if her current BF and herself will work out. That is the only problem i see for her to be stalling like that, but she keeps insisting that i go eat at her parents house for Thanksgiving like every year when we dated. I said NO, because i don't think its the right thing to do.

 

 

I seriously hope you never consider dating this girl again, in fact I wish you would just stop all together in seeing and talking to her. You can do so much better but you don't realise it as you are in this foggy state as many have said. No offense man but you sound incredibly weak minded at this point. You haven't even attempted to head any of the advice givin to you. These people know what they are talking about and would never steer you in the wrong direction. Please just wake up and see the positive changes that will arise from releasing your self from this toxic girl. I use the term girl because she has yet (by your account) to prove any lady like qualities.

 

To add more, why the hell would you put yourself through this anyhow. Any rational person at the point would walk away even if they had never taken any advice from anyone, but you have all the information available to you but still fail to realise it. I hate to be rude but not sure what it's going to take to wake you up.

 

 

I guess part of me is SCARED, that i will never find anybody like that in my life again. Yeah she cheated on me and such, but she is a beautiful girl and honestly speaking i think i got pretty lucky to actually be with her for 4 years. Maybe i am just over thinking, but all i know is i am NEVER going to find someone that was so committed and loving towards me ever again.

[frigginlost]

Wow. Just wow.

 

Dude... just Dude!!

 

*Anybody* you find outside of her would be an upgrade!

 

Come on man, you're better than this...

[Itspointless]

But at the same time how can u blame her when i put her though all the rough times? The funny thing is she keeps saying that she wants to get back together, but she is afraid and she just wants to wait it out to see if i have changed as a different person as a whole. [..] That gets me thinking maybe she is trying to see if her current BF and herself will work out. That is the only problem i see for her to be stalling like that, but she keeps insisting that i go eat at her parents house for Thanksgiving like every year when we dated. I said NO, because i don't think its the right thing to do.

The answer to the first part is integrity. It is not just a game to get even. Second, I can't imagine myself with something who finds me just as awesome as another dude. Perhaps you can. Or you two must be fine with having an open arrangement. Than she must also be fine with sharing you, and I do not have the feeling that is the case with her.

[mtnbiker3000]

I strongly suggest you read this book: "No More Mr. Nice Guy", by Robert Glover. It's obvious that your view of yourself and how you fit in the world is warped, and you have major low self-esteem and low self-worth issues. I'm not trying to be mean, as I have been struggling with these things as well, and I can tell you, you can change this mindset. You must change it!!

 

A couple other titles you may want to read:

-Toxic Parents by Susan Forward

-Breaking the Chains of Low Self-Esteem by Marilyn Sorensen

[Heartache79]

The sooner you end this, the sooner you'll get to feeling better about yourself. Trust me, take some NC time and find yourself. All the answers will fall in place soon after then

[ScreaminEagle]

I am not going to be so kind and gentle as the other posters after reading through pages upon pages of ilk.

 

You sir, are a cuckold in the making. You lost your dignity and you are super passive aggressive. There are people on here who have been through what you have but worse who have given you valuable words of wisdom, which you continue to ignore.

 

You stand by, waiting for the breadcrumbs she throws you, all the while she is getting pounded by this other guy. If that is not enough for you to go no contact and avoid her manipulative text games, if you are ok with being sloppy seconds and be on a constant emotional roller coaster, then do it.

 

Why come here asking for advice ? I have trouble wrapping my brain around if this is a true story or you are looking for attention. If this is true, then I think you should audition for the Dr. Phil show.

 

Four years, boo hoo, I have had longer relationships and went no contact, yeah it was hard, but I struggled, but I also listened and leaned on my friends when times got hard. With you, I don't know what is but I cannot pronounce it.

[PegNosePete]

Isn't is normal to text like that though? You are not suppose to spell out every single word in a text? At least that is what i thought.

Maybe if she has a Nokia 3210. But these days most phones have full keyboards, predictive typing and auto-correct, so writing out words properly is actually quicker and easier than shortening them.

[whatdoido123]

Wow. Just wow.

 

Dude... just Dude!!

 

*Anybody* you find outside of her would be an upgrade!

 

Come on man, you're better than this...

 

 

Lol that's what they all say. That is not true at all imo

[Itspointless]

Lol that's what they all say. That is not true at all imo

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[whatdoido123]

The answer to the first part is integrity. It is not just a game to get even. Second, I can't imagine myself with something who finds me just as awesome as another dude. Perhaps you can. Or you two must be fine with having an open arrangement. Than she must also be fine with sharing you, and I do not have the feeling that is the case with her.

 

 

Its not that she finds me as awesome as her current bf. Its is because i put her through a lot the past couple of years and she kind of got fed up with it. I mean if she never broke up with me i would have NEVER realized how bad of a BF i was towards her the last 4 years. I regret many mistakes i have made, but i have told her that i have changed and when we do hang out i treat her differently and i know that she realizes that too because just today i spoke with her over the phone and she told me that she is leaning towards me, but at the same time she knows that it is NOT RIGHT to keep me hanging and she wouldn't be upset if i started dating another girl. That shows how much respect she has towards me.

 

 

I strongly suggest you read this book: "No More Mr. Nice Guy", by Robert Glover. It's obvious that your view of yourself and how you fit in the world is warped, and you have major low self-esteem and low self-worth issues. I'm not trying to be mean, as I have been struggling with these things as well, and I can tell you, you can change this mindset. You must change it!!

 

A couple other titles you may want to read:

-Toxic Parents by Susan Forward

-Breaking the Chains of Low Self-Esteem by Marilyn Sorensen

 

 

It is true that i have low self esteem especially since the beginning of September. My world came crashing down and i never expected it. And since i was a virgin at the time because i never had a long term relationship i never knew what it would feel like and everything hit me all at once which really sucked. My supervisor knew what i was dealing with and suggested me to talk to someone about it like some type of therapy but i never got around it to actually do it.

 

 

The sooner you end this, the sooner you'll get to feeling better about yourself. Trust me, take some NC time and find yourself. All the answers will fall in place soon after then

 

 

I actually feel alot better than September and October. I mean it hit rock bottom, but that is how life is. You go all the way to the bottom and then you have no other way to go but BACK UP. That is how i see my life turning into slowly. I don't want to sound like a douchebag but i feel like as we talk and text everyday i think i am winning my ex GF heart back to me and that is what is important in my life.