Simon Phoenix Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Herpderp Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 NEVER GONNA GIVE YOU UP Link to post Share on other sites
Dropkickbilly Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 I dated my girlfriend for 3 months. The final month was in college. I couldn't trust her even though she never did anything bad. She drank and went to frat parties and I never really drank but now I do. She broke up and I begged and pleaded for a week. Then I tried to be her friend but my begging and pleading seemed to make her more distance. After a month she stopped responding and I have been in no contact for 2 weeks. I know she does not like me cause I said some hurtful things during the first month of the breakup. Do you think I still have a chance with her. I plan on doing no contact for another 2 weeks. I just want to be her friend and take it from there. Our colleges are 2 hours apart it's really easy to get there. Link to post Share on other sites
ScreaminEagle Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Yeah that didn't work. She came over and we grabbed lunch then we had sex back at my place. I feel very bad now... How was sloppy seconds ? You feel better that she pity sexed you? You just set yourself back 10 steps. She cheated on you, she cheated on her current bf, does she need to poop on your head to see what is going on ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 (edited) The sex is a power trip for her. Edited November 30, 2014 by EgoJoe Better message. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 i can tell she wouldn't have had sex with me if she didn't want me back. Can you? Not that I think getting back with her is a good idea, I don't. But taking it slow while she is with that other man that was invited to thanksgiving dinner, that just sounds off. You seem to be in some kind of major fog with your head. I can only tell you again and again that you do not feel bad for no reason. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Share Posted December 1, 2014 How was sloppy seconds ? You feel better that she pity sexed you? You just set yourself back 10 steps. She cheated on you, she cheated on her current bf, does she need to poop on your head to see what is going on ? That was the sad part. I mean yeah it seems initimate, but at the same time i feel bad because she is with her current bf still. ANd yeah i offered to let her stay at my place tonight after she is done hanging out with her current BF. She is actually over right now already (BEFORE 6 PM) and she is complaining how her current bf didn't pay for the movies or anything. I mean why do girls complain so much, but they still want to see if they can work out their relationship with him. I really don't understand, I really don't till this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Share Posted December 1, 2014 The sex is a power trip for her. You really think she is a slut like that? I mean i was with her for 4 years and i could tell she isn't that type of girl. Maybe she has changed to another person i don't know, but i'll see how it goes tonight Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatdoido123 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Share Posted December 1, 2014 Can you? Not that I think getting back with her is a good idea, I don't. But taking it slow while she is with that other man that was invited to thanksgiving dinner, that just sounds off. You seem to be in some kind of major fog with your head. I can only tell you again and again that you do not feel bad for no reason. What else can i do? I mean i can bang my head against the wall but that is not going to help things. IT sucks that she doesn't see that i still have feeling for her if that is what you are implying. I have made it pretty obvious that i want to get back with her, but she keeps saying lets take it slow.... I don't know what else to do... Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I don't know what else to do... Perhaps you could try what everyone has been advising you to do in the last 25 pages. That's an idea. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 What else can i do? I mean i can bang my head against the wall but that is not going to help things. IT sucks that she doesn't see that i still have feeling for her if that is what you are implying. I have made it pretty obvious that i want to get back with her, but she keeps saying lets take it slow.... I don't know what else to do... QUIT TALKING TO HER THAT'S WHAT YOU F***ING DO!!!!! You do nothing that's the whole point 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 The fact that she vents to you about her boyfriend shows what she sees you as -- a backup plan or a buddy. The fact that you've had sex doesn't change that. I guarantee you she doesn't talk about you to her boyfriend, and even if she did, she'd probably talk about how obsessed and crazy you are. I mean, you're past denial at this point. But whatever, you're content to be Wile E. Coyote chasing the Roadrunner. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 (edited) Guarantee you she doesn't talk about you to her boyfriend, and even if she did, she'd probably talk about how obsessed and crazy you are. ^^^Exactly. Just what do you think she says about you to him??? It's NOT how wonderful you are and how much better you treat her!!! Think about it!!! Edited December 1, 2014 by mtnbiker3000 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 What else can i do? I mean i can bang my head against the wall but that is not going to help things. IT sucks that she doesn't see that i still have feeling for her if that is what you are implying. Oh c'mon man... there is no question that she knows you have feelings for her. The point is, that doesn't matter enough to her to change her behavior. You excuse her by imagining that she doesn't know of your feelings, like if only she knew that you felt strongly for her, that would make everything work out? C'mon, please.... She knows, it just doesn't make enough difference to her to leave her current boyfriend to come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Well done for finally finding your balls I retract this statement. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
unforgotten Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 This must be the best thread out there!!! Is there any similar? Seriously, it kept me busy the whole day while I was reading through 25 pages of it and I actually started feeling good about my own breakup. Man I thought my relationship was complicated and was feeling guilty about the past and angry about my initial reactions just after the bu. Now I can see there are even a lot bigger nutcases out there. I mean... I'm doing f****** great compared to this guy. I do feel sorry for you though but it looks like talking to you is like banging your head against the wall. You're going to have to learn this the hard way. Even if you two get back together this won't work. I have a feeling this will go on for ages. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 What else can i do? I mean i can bang my head against the wall but that is not going to help things. [...] I don't know what else to do... I honestly think you are hurting yourself more this way than if you were actually banging your head against the wall. You know that feeling when you have cut yourself? Sometimes when you keep touching such a cut it will go numb for a while. But at a certain moment you wish you didn't have as it has become sore and raw. Everyone here has tried to prevent you from doing self-harm. Dude you are not only ignoring the wound made by her, you just keep scratching it again and again. Every time you try to numb yourself by cutting deeper. We can't heal a wound with the weapon that made it. The wound is going to hurt anyway, but you have to leave it alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Michael 93 Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 Oh man this knocks my thread into a top hat Please listen OP 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michael 93 Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 @Simon Phoenix Favourite film man! Link to post Share on other sites
Ducktape Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 This must be the best thread out there!!! Is there any similar? Seriously, it kept me busy the whole day while I was reading through 25 pages of it and I actually started feeling good about my own breakup. Man I thought my relationship was complicated and was feeling guilty about the past and angry about my initial reactions just after the bu. Now I can see there are even a lot bigger nutcases out there. I mean... I'm doing f****** great compared to this guy. I do feel sorry for you though but it looks like talking to you is like banging your head against the wall. You're going to have to learn this the hard way. Even if you two get back together this won't work. I have a feeling this will go on for ages. Now now. I understand it's easy to point fingers and insult other people for their mistakes. But knocking on people to help yourself get up is not the solution. If you can't help this person, you shouldn't really say anything. The only reason you should look down on someone is to help them up. I'm sure plenty of people could go in your break up thread and start bashing you for acting the way you did. Love is irrational, and desperate people do irrational things. I'm sure in 1 year, whatdoido123 will look back and will feel sorry for his past self. For now, he's going through the learning process. It can be frustrating for people trying to help him, since he doesn't seem to want to hear anything. But that's life. He'll find his way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 2, 2014 Share Posted December 2, 2014 So, she's trying to tell you that she's been dating a guy for almost 4 months and she's NEVER slept with him? Yet, she has no problem jumping into your bed. Dude, if you believe that, then I have a bridge to sell you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
unforgotten Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 Ducktape, I completely agree and already feel bad for what I've said. I hope this guy can come to his senses. If only I knew how to help him when I can't even help myself. Hope this works out the way you imagined whatdoido123! I do feel bad for you because I understand you very well since I'm in the same hole I can't get out of. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 There are only 2 things that will help you, me and everyone. 1. Time 2. NC Now, there are many, many things you can occupy your time with that will help in the process, but there is no alternative or shortcut around the two things listed above. Many have tried, but zero have succeeded!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 So whatdoido123, how are you doing now? Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 3, 2014 Share Posted December 3, 2014 There are only 2 things that will help you, me and everyone. 1. Time 2. NC Now, there are many, many things you can occupy your time with that will help in the process, but there is no alternative or shortcut around the two things listed above. Many have tried, but zero have succeeded!!! I totally agree, but I would also add making positive changes in your life. That will help rebuild your confidence, self worth and self esteem. Link to post Share on other sites
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