What is she implying????

[whatdoido123]

hey guys sorry for my lack of update. I will be releasing a update here within 30 minutes

[whatdoido123]

I just checked and my last post was on Dec 30, 2014. Its been almost 1 month ago since i told myself that i was going to stick with the NO CONTACT. As you guys probably already guessed it, i quit the NC after the 6th days. It was a long and uneventful of 6 days of NC with my ex gf. I really wanted to talk to her because i was afraid that she will forget me completely. So i made my decision and we talked and talked thru text and phone.

 

 

Of course my Christmas and New Years were ruined. I did NOT have anyone to celebrate it with and it was very disappointing. I mean i felt very lonely because the past 3 years she would be with me on these special holiday (Christmas and New Years). And like i felt like my life couldn't get worst because it was really awful to a point where i HATED myself and i felt like NOBODY wanted to be with me.

 

 

I would say a couple of days after New Years, we started talking more and more. We would hang out more and more too. My ex gf would open up to me and say that she is having issues with her current BF. She keeps implying that he has so many issues and he is really cheap and is not understand and etc. She been talking to me about her current problems with her bf and i have been doing my best to help her out with this.

 

 

The last 1-2 weeks has been crazy. They have been aruging back and forth and my ex GF has promised me that she has decided she wants to be with me. She said to give her time, and she doesn't want to break it off with him bad, because her bf and i work at the same company. She wants to do it slowly, but i feel like she is just stalling time to see if they will still work out. That is my only concern, and like i am not even sure if she wants to get back with me for reals.

 

 

I can tell you that my ex GF has been spending quality time with me, and i know that she doesn't spend the night over at his place anymore. I guess she is trying to drift away, but at the same time i feel like she wants to see if their relationship will work out. She promised me that she will break it off completely by the end of Febraury. That is still a LONG time and i don't know what she wants in life anymore.

 

 

I am so confused, and i keep telling her that i want her with me, and that i love her so much. Last month i said i was going to send her a christmas present, but instead i gave it to her when we met up. I just want to prove to her that i am not the guy i was before, and i will do everything in my power to win her back.

 

 

Even though i did ALOT of things wrong, and it wasn't right for her to cheat on me behind my back, i told her we both can learn from this and move on together. It will only strengthen our relationship and i feel like we both are compatibale with each other and we both love each other still even after 5 months apart. Its been a rough 5 month for my physcally and mentallly, but if she is true to her words then we should be back together by the end of next month.

[Itspointless]

Hey man,

Of course my Christmas and New Years were ruined. I did NOT have anyone to celebrate it with and it was very disappointing.

Do you have friends, or contact with family?

[whatdoido123]

i do, but i don't want to be around anyone but her........

 

 

so i decided to spend the holidays feeling like **** in a room ....

[mtnbiker3000]

Even though i did ALOT of things wrong, and it wasn't right for her to cheat on me behind my back, i told her we both can learn from this and move on together. It will only strengthen our relationship and i feel like we both are compatibale with each other and we both love each other still even after 5 months apart. Its been a rough 5 month for my physcally and mentallly, but if she is true to her words then we should be back together by the end of next month.

 

Well, you haven't really been apart for 5 months. You haven't given her time to miss you. To wonder what your doing. Who you're dating, sleeping with. You've given her an inside view to how miserable you are and how needy / clingy you are!! You have basically told her she can do whatever she wants, and you'll be standing there like a dope ready to take her back. She feels no risk of losing you. None. You are now her doormat!!

 

News flash: She will not be back with you at the end of February!! I mean, why would she? You'll still be waiting for her till Feb 2017...

Edited January 25, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Unecessary content redacted

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

I just checked and my last post was on Dec 30, 2014. Its been almost 1 month ago since i told myself that i was going to stick with the NO CONTACT. As you guys probably already guessed it, i quit the NC after the 6th days. It was a long and uneventful of 6 days of NC with my ex gf. I really wanted to talk to her because i was afraid that she will forget me completely. So i made my decision and we talked and talked thru text and phone.

 

 

Of course my Christmas and New Years were ruined. I did NOT have anyone to celebrate it with and it was very disappointing. I mean i felt very lonely because the past 3 years she would be with me on these special holiday (Christmas and New Years). And like i felt like my life couldn't get worst because it was really awful to a point where i HATED myself and i felt like NOBODY wanted to be with me.

 

 

I would say a couple of days after New Years, we started talking more and more. We would hang out more and more too. My ex gf would open up to me and say that she is having issues with her current BF. She keeps implying that he has so many issues and he is really cheap and is not understand and etc. She been talking to me about her current problems with her bf and i have been doing my best to help her out with this.

 

 

The last 1-2 weeks has been crazy. They have been aruging back and forth and my ex GF has promised me that she has decided she wants to be with me. She said to give her time, and she doesn't want to break it off with him bad, because her bf and i work at the same company. She wants to do it slowly, but i feel like she is just stalling time to see if they will still work out. That is my only concern, and like i am not even sure if she wants to get back with me for reals.

 

 

I can tell you that my ex GF has been spending quality time with me, and i know that she doesn't spend the night over at his place anymore. I guess she is trying to drift away, but at the same time i feel like she wants to see if their relationship will work out. She promised me that she will break it off completely by the end of Febraury. That is still a LONG time and i don't know what she wants in life anymore.

 

 

I am so confused, and i keep telling her that i want her with me, and that i love her so much. Last month i said i was going to send her a christmas present, but instead i gave it to her when we met up. I just want to prove to her that i am not the guy i was before, and i will do everything in my power to win her back.

 

 

Even though i did ALOT of things wrong, and it wasn't right for her to cheat on me behind my back, i told her we both can learn from this and move on together. It will only strengthen our relationship and i feel like we both are compatibale with each other and we both love each other still even after 5 months apart. Its been a rough 5 month for my physcally and mentallly, but if she is true to her words then we should be back together by the end of next month.

 

You are making roughly 900 mistakes and she is lying through her teeth. You are chasing her so much and you arent the one that did anything is STILL the biggest red flag and has been since this thread was created.

 

I dont know what really else to say that hasn't been said for several pages.

[BC1980]

She really wants to be with you, but you need to give her time. Seriously? You believe that?

[Simon Phoenix]

I just checked and my last post was on Dec 30, 2014. Its been almost 1 month ago since i told myself that i was going to stick with the NO CONTACT. As you guys probably already guessed it, i quit the NC after the 6th days. It was a long and uneventful of 6 days of NC with my ex gf. I really wanted to talk to her because i was afraid that she will forget me completely. So i made my decision and we talked and talked thru text and phone.

 

 

Of course my Christmas and New Years were ruined. I did NOT have anyone to celebrate it with and it was very disappointing. I mean i felt very lonely because the past 3 years she would be with me on these special holiday (Christmas and New Years). And like i felt like my life couldn't get worst because it was really awful to a point where i HATED myself and i felt like NOBODY wanted to be with me.

 

 

I would say a couple of days after New Years, we started talking more and more. We would hang out more and more too. My ex gf would open up to me and say that she is having issues with her current BF. She keeps implying that he has so many issues and he is really cheap and is not understand and etc. She been talking to me about her current problems with her bf and i have been doing my best to help her out with this.

 

 

The last 1-2 weeks has been crazy. They have been aruging back and forth and my ex GF has promised me that she has decided she wants to be with me. She said to give her time, and she doesn't want to break it off with him bad, because her bf and i work at the same company. She wants to do it slowly, but i feel like she is just stalling time to see if they will still work out. That is my only concern, and like i am not even sure if she wants to get back with me for reals.

 

 

I can tell you that my ex GF has been spending quality time with me, and i know that she doesn't spend the night over at his place anymore. I guess she is trying to drift away, but at the same time i feel like she wants to see if their relationship will work out. She promised me that she will break it off completely by the end of Febraury. That is still a LONG time and i don't know what she wants in life anymore.

 

 

I am so confused, and i keep telling her that i want her with me, and that i love her so much. Last month i said i was going to send her a christmas present, but instead i gave it to her when we met up. I just want to prove to her that i am not the guy i was before, and i will do everything in my power to win her back.

 

 

Even though i did ALOT of things wrong, and it wasn't right for her to cheat on me behind my back, i told her we both can learn from this and move on together. It will only strengthen our relationship and i feel like we both are compatibale with each other and we both love each other still even after 5 months apart. Its been a rough 5 month for my physcally and mentallly, but if she is true to her words then we should be back together by the end of next month.

 

Dear God man. Don't you get sick of being the dumbass? This is same song, different verse.

[LovelyDaze]

i will do everything in my power to win her back.

 

 

Even though i did ALOT of things wrong, and it wasn't right for her to cheat on me behind my back, i told her we both can learn from this and move on together. It will only strengthen our relationship and i feel like we both are compatibale with each other and we both love each other still even after 5 months apart. Its been a rough 5 month for my physcally and mentallly, but if she is true to her words then we should be back together by the end of next month.

 

What would be best if you find the "Good" in "Goodbye" to your ex.

 

You don't want to feel like this everyday on end.

[Chi townD]

I frickin give up.

 

 

You can't help anyone that doesn't want to help themselves. It's apparent that this guy does NOT want help, does NOT want to listen, Does NOT want to move on and heal from this. He is delusional to think that she wants to be with him. Trust me, she had no problem dumping him and a day later being with this other dude. No problem at all. She's been screwing this guys brains out while he sits patiently by the phone like a good little lap dog. It would have been just as easy to come back to him and that hasn't happened. He believed that she didn't cheat on him in their relationship. She has proved she's capable if she had no problem cheating on her current boyfriend with him. So, he's kidding himself to think otherwise.

 

 

He's been putting his life on hold. Not working on himself, not making positive changes in his life at all. Not listening to anyone on here. Therefore, we are wasting our time watching someone else waste their time and is tickled pink in doing it. So, I'm bowing out. I'm outta here!!!

 

 

Good Luck, whatdoido.

Edited January 26, 2015 by Chi townD

[Diezel]

OP still in the same exact spot he was in... since October.

Seriously, OP has no one to blame but himself for this predicament.

[Itspointless]

Whattodo, the girl you thought you knew is no more or more probably has never existed (as you took the mental role of bad guy with remorse). Experiencing seems the only way here. You have given her a lot of power, and power is often misused when people get to much of it.

 

Check in once in a while, I still hope you will get to a better place eventually. But now I fear you will be a wreck for a long time to come.

[whatdoido123]

hey guys/girls

 

 

Its been another couple of weeks. Its been a very tough couple of weeks to say the least. Alot of has been happenning and i am lost and confused on exactly what to do.

 

 

I been speaking to my ex gf on a daily basis. I know that is hurting me because she doesn't want to break it off with her current bf. Why am i such a dumbass to continue playing this waiting game. I don't even know myself. She keeps insisiting that it will be over soon, but i am in the corner still waiting for that day to happen.

 

 

For valentine's day i actually picked up some balloon and chocolate for her when we actually hung out for once during the day. She loved it and it was my very first time in 4 years that i actually got her balloons. I guess i was just trying to show her that i am a different person now etc

 

 

Fast forward to today, she obviously hung out with her bf after work today. It upset me again, because she keeps saying negative things about him and he isn't this or that and it blows my mind because if he wasn't so good then WHY THE **** are u still with him. That is in the back of my mind. Idk i am trying to get away from all this drama and maybe go visit my family for a couple of days next month just to get away from all this bull****

 

 

Its really tough, she keeps telling me to move back and save up money etc because i am basically here all by myself paying rent when i could move back to my mom's house and save on rent and utilties. She insisted that if i did move back, she would suffer and if anything she would move across state to shows her commitment for me that she really loves me. I guess she is good at sweet talking to me, but the other part of me thinks that she is really sincere.

 

 

everyday that passes i wish i never lived it sucks knowing that my ex gf is getting intimate with her current bf as each and everyday passes and i can't imagine IF and WHEN they did have sex, but she keeps insisting they haven't done it yet and they been together since Sept 10, 2014.......

[frigginlost]

hey guys/girls

 

 

Its been another couple of weeks. Its been a very tough couple of weeks to say the least. Alot of has been happenning and i am lost and confused on exactly what to do.

 

 

I been speaking to my ex gf on a daily basis. I know that is hurting me because she doesn't want to break it off with her current bf. Why am i such a dumbass to continue playing this waiting game. I don't even know myself. She keeps insisiting that it will be over soon, but i am in the corner still waiting for that day to happen.

 

 

For valentine's day i actually picked up some balloon and chocolate for her when we actually hung out for once during the day. She loved it and it was my very first time in 4 years that i actually got her balloons. I guess i was just trying to show her that i am a different person now etc

 

 

Fast forward to today, she obviously hung out with her bf after work today. It upset me again, because she keeps saying negative things about him and he isn't this or that and it blows my mind because if he wasn't so good then WHY THE **** are u still with him. That is in the back of my mind. Idk i am trying to get away from all this drama and maybe go visit my family for a couple of days next month just to get away from all this bull****

 

 

Its really tough, she keeps telling me to move back and save up money etc because i am basically here all by myself paying rent when i could move back to my mom's house and save on rent and utilties. She insisted that if i did move back, she would suffer and if anything she would move across state to shows her commitment for me that she really loves me. I guess she is good at sweet talking to me, but the other part of me thinks that she is really sincere.

 

 

everyday that passes i wish i never lived it sucks knowing that my ex gf is getting intimate with her current bf as each and everyday passes and i can't imagine IF and WHEN they did have sex, but she keeps insisting they haven't done it yet and they been together since Sept 10, 2014.......

 

Dude. Seriously.

 

It's time you seek professional help/therapy.

 

Nobody here can really help you. Not because nobody wants to, but because nobody can. Many have tried, time and time again, and you refuse to listen.

[Trimmer]

...it blows my mind because if he wasn't so good then WHY THE **** are u still with him. That is in the back of my mind.

In the back of your mind? In the back of your mind?

 

It should be right there in the front of your mind. Heck, your mind should be splattered all over its windshield, because that little idea should have long since run you down and smashed right through you.

 

Its been a very tough couple of weeks to say the least.

 

I been speaking to my ex gf on a daily basis.

I see the connection between these two statements; do you?

 

I guess she is good at sweet talking to me, but the other part of me thinks that she is really sincere.

... because her word has been so consistently reliable, and her integrity is without blemish? You know you can count on her because she's proven that to you, right?

 

i can't imagine IF and WHEN they did have sex, but she keeps insisting they haven't done it yet and they been together since Sept 10, 2014.......

I'm with frigginlost - you are stuck with patterns of thought, feeling and behavior, coupled with a lack of self-awareness, that you are spinning in and can't help yourself. You need some help beyond what we can give you here.

[unforgotten]

I'm really sorry for you whatdoido123. I hope you'll somehow pick yourself up.

 

Now, about your ex. I just can't believe what I'm hearing. How can some people be so unbelievably selfish, hypocritical and just pure evil. I hope there's a special hell reserved just for these.

[Diezel]

hey guys/girls

Alot of has been happenning and i am lost and confused on exactly what to do.

 

 

I been speaking to my ex gf on a daily basis. I know that is hurting me because she doesn't want to break it off with her current bf. Why am i such a dumbass to continue playing this waiting game. I don't even know myself. She keeps insisiting that it will be over soon, but i am in the corner still waiting for that day to happen.

 

Your first post was 30+ pages ago and in October and you are saying you don't know what exactly to do? Surely, you're kidding, right?

 

After all the time and effort invested by so many of the posters.

After all the times she's kept stringing you along.

 

Why would she want to break up with him? She gets you AND him at the same time and she's playing you both. And you are JUST FINE WITH IT. She's never going to break up with him because she knows you are in the corner.

 

Kudos to her for keeping this going since October. Clearly you have very little self-respect and she's running right with it. At this point, anything happening to you, you've brought on yourself and deserve.

 

And trust me, they are having sex. In fact, they probably were having it while you were posting in this thread. Time to go seek some help, little buddy, because there's nothing anyone can do or say here for you if you don't want to help yourself.

[privategal]

Thanks for the responses!

 

 

Part of me is saying to just let go but another part of me is saying i will regret this for the rest of my life if I don't chase her back. Yes I know she cheated on me but during our 4 years I put her through a lot and I never treated her like I should have.

 

 

Now I'm so confused because I have veryyyy strong feelings for her and it's hard to let go. I haven't talked to her the last two days but I am assuming she probably misses me too

 

She just wants to ease her guilt for getting a new guy after 4 years she could just start sleeping with someone else so fast?

If she loved you and the breakup was hard she would have not been able to sleep, eat, get out of bed. SHE started dating.

She WANTS you to chase her cause she WANTS more attention and to know you forgive her for cheating and moving on overnight.

She cried when you said you wanted nc cause then she knew she was losing her plan b and her attention and that this guy (you) who she had wrapped around her finger even post breakup was taking a stand and moving on, therefore she did not have the comfort of easing her guilt and having attention from her new bf AND her ex.

Here you are blaming yourself, citing you didn't treat her right etc...

NO!

Shes done this, she didn't fight to work on it. Evety text from you is feeding her ego.

Block, disappear, ghost her OUT. She should be DEAD to you.

Start today...once your healed u will see you were TOO GOOD FOR HER

[jus d'orange]

I just read through a lot of this, but it's frankly too long and repetitive to read the whole thing.

 

1. Don't speak to her anymore. Block all forms of contact with her. No matter what sort of emotional manipulation she sends you, ignore it entirely. If you really, truly can't manage this on your own, go somewhere far away (like to your parents' place), disconnect yourself from the phone and the internet. Do it now. Get away from this.

 

2. Get therapy immediately.

 

There is really nothing more that can be done in this situation. You will not have a healthy relationship with this person. You will not even have an exclusive relationship with this person. As it is, you are nothing more than a doormat for her insecurities and selfishness -- MAKE A DECISION FOR YOURSELF and say that you won't be that person for ANYBODY, especially not her.

[seminoles84]

Some people just love the drama and can't live without it. It's almost like they can't live without the self destructive ways.

[ZiggyZoo]

OP, maybe you should head over to the "Other Woman/Man" forum. I'm not being snarky, but that's exactly what you are. There's plenty of women and men over there who just can't seem to break it off with someone who keeps stringing them along too, and maybe hearing what your future will hold from someone who's been there would help. Because she's not going to leave him for you, period. You were sure she was going to by the end of November, and instead he spent Thanksgiving with her family. Now she's going to do it by the end of February? Nah, she's not. I'll guess she won't break up with either of you two, and the only way this relationship she's in will end is if/when her current boyfriend gets fed up and ends it.

 

I'm guessing this is probably falling on deaf ears right about now, because we still have a little over a week to go until her deadline to dump her boyfriend. But maybe in the beginning of March, when you're back for advice, you'll stumble on this post. Take care, and keep posting here. I somehow think that you'll make the right decision and cut her loose eventually, because you DO keep coming back here. Even if you're not getting the answers you want, I think a part of you knows what to do, you're just not there yet. Otherwise you'd be long gone from here.

 

But yeah, maybe check out that forum, something in there may well click and be what pushes you into where you need to be. Good luck!

[Hija77]

She has a new man, but she's still sending you lame quotes? Forget it. She's messing with your head, and it's selfish and unfair. I understand the impulse to try and fight for the relationahip, but she's with another dude now. Let it go. Don't respond. She's already moved on, but she wants to keep you in her back pocket just in case. Good luck!

[whatdoido123]

I KNOW! i know exactly what she is doing now. The only problem is its really hard for me to freakin let go

 

 

I want to rekindle our relationship. I really do!!! You guys have no idea how much love i still have for it.

 

 

ANd each time i do NC i can barely last 1 week. My life is so sad to the point where i just want to break down and cry

 

 

I am really at a lost of words now.....

[Simon Phoenix]

I KNOW! i know exactly what she is doing now. The only problem is its really hard for me to freakin let go

 

 

I want to rekindle our relationship. I really do!!! You guys have no idea how much love i still have for it.

 

 

ANd each time i do NC i can barely last 1 week. My life is so sad to the point where i just want to break down and cry

 

 

I am really at a lost of words now.....

 

It's not going to get better until you learn self-control. At this point, it's your fault because you keep feeding into it. This will be your life until you develop some pride and self-respect and completely detach from this. You will never rekindle it because there's nothing to rekindle. Her respect for you is zero.

[PegNosePete]

She keeps insisiting that it will be over soon, but i am in the corner still waiting for that day to happen.

Look, there is one very simple/easy way that you can end their relationship.

 

Get a voice activated recorder. Record all the terrible things she says about him. Record her saying that she is going to break up with him and that it will be over soon. If she says it in texts/emails then make a copy of them too.

 

Send it all to him.

 

Their relationship will be over in no time. I am sure he has the balls to do what is necessary.