DamienWhite Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 So it's half way through the semester and for the majority of it, I've had my eyes on this one girl I have Anatomy with. I'm in college so I see her only 1-2 times a week. Sure I'd love to just sit by her a strike up a conversation but the seats by her are taken, it's an 8am class and I worry if it's a bad time. Basically I'm chickening out. I know nothing of her but her name. We share no mutual friends whatsoever. She and I are basically strangers to each other. I don't wanna pass this up and be in regret of not approaching her. The problem is I'm not sure how to go about it. I've thought of just be super transparent with her by catching up with her after lecture and tell her that I thought she was very attractive and would love to take her out to coffee sometime. Is that too safe? Too weird? I dunno. It was easier in HS because we all "knew" each other in a sense. I've never approached a girl I know nothing about. Advice? Yeah yeah I know... I'm being a pussy... (please excuse the language) Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) 8 am is probably not going to work in your favor. That aside, building some rapport is your first course of action IMO. I'd save the you're really attractive talk until you've interacted with her at least a few times. Once you've chatted a few times I see nothing wrong with commenting that she looked really cute the other day, or something along those lines. I wouldn't say you're being a pvssy, it sounds more like you're being realistic. Yes you'll have to make an effort to approach but it appears you're aware that first impressions matter. Edited October 28, 2014 by sid3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Try to catch her on her way out of class. If you know her name can you look her up somehow through school? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 You need to wait in the hall for her when she leaves class and just act like you're not really waiting, but end up near her and then just say something about the professor or the subject, like "This stuff about the nervous system is interesting, isn't it?" And if she acts the least bit friendly in return, introduce yourself and see if she introduces herself and from then on, just have a chat with her as you leave class for a week or two and see how it goes. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author DamienWhite Posted October 28, 2014 Author Share Posted October 28, 2014 8 am is probably not going to work in your favor. That aside, building some rapport is your first course of action IMO. I'd save the you're really attractive talk until you've interacted with her at least a few times. Once you've chatted a few times I see nothing wrong with commenting that she looked really cute the other day, or something along those lines. I wouldn't say you're being a pvssy, it sounds more like you're being realistic. Yes you'll have to make an effort to approach but it appears you're aware that first impressions matter. Great points. The intro I always have trouble with in regards to women. I can make you laugh, smile, blah blah blah. All that stuff, it's just the icebreaker I have trouble getting past. Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 This will require good acting but if you pull it off I think it could look cute and be somewhat memorable. Get to class before her and sit in her spot. Pretend nod off to sleep, face in palm. When she says something to you like, "hey, you're in my seat", jerk yourself to attention while blurting out something absurd "Nawgahyde!!" Pull your focus to her. Take your time. Discover where you are. Remove yourself from the spot. After class, as she's leaving, apologize to her and strike up a conversation. Let your explanation of your actions ride a fine line between what could be fictive and what could be real. She'll wonder if you were up to something after... Again, it will require subtlety on your part to make it believable. But it could make her laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
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