Definately a new situation for me

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Well, this has been interesting, and I'm thinking I'd like to get some opinions here.

 

As some of you know, I've been around here for a bit, with my first thread being that of me getting advice in relation to this girl I used to work with. Well, that book came to a close then the woman in question suddenly clammed up just as things seemed to be going pretty good. (Little more info on that here and dont worry, theres a point to all this)

 

So, in the meantime I've since stopped working at that job two weeks ago and began my career as well as broadened my horizons with a new, confident outlook on life. I've been gearing up to throw myself into a more active social life and plan to start taking some classes that Ive always wanted to take (singing, acting) and maybe meet some new people along the way. I joined a dating site dedicated for local singles just as an aside, but ended up getting into contact with someone whos pretty decent. We've been talking for a long time, sending page-long emails to each other daily and phoning each other here and there (we just recently swapped #s like three days ago). We're literally merely asking about it away from actually dating.

 

A couple days ago I got an email from a girl I used to work with who was a mutual friend of Erin's (see thread links), which was mainly just a "How are ya?" kind of email with the exception that she mentioned that Erin had asked about me. Since me and Erin lost the ability to communicate with each other and worked in different departments she hadnt known I stopped working there. I don't know what kind of context this was in or what was said, but it interests me nonetheless.

 

Now see, heres my predicament. One one hand there is Erin, who I really fell for at one point (pitter-patter heart and everything) though we never really connected, or at least in the relatively short timespan that we actually talked to each other before she clammed up. On the other we have this woman I've met online who I really connect with (We've already talked very frankly about things ranging from our outlooks on life to sharing our romantic fantasies) but I simply don't have that same feeling I got with Erin, even though it was for no reason since I barely knew her. Me and her have seen each other picture and heard each others voices, and while this new woman isn't completely my type physically she seems like shes exactly my type mentally (Erin was your typical ridiculously attractive and slender girl while the new woman is more average in both looks and body size.)

 

I mean, this is all new ground for me. I figure at the very least I'm going to continue to become involved with this new woman and begin dating in person, but what happens if I still don't feel that same spark? Should I even be worrying about this, since we havent even met in person yet? Though Erin clammed up for no reason, if things pan out that way should I give her another chance, since at one point I felt very strongly for her? Do I chase the girl that stole my eyes and would be the one who my friends would say "Have you seen his girlfriend?", or do I chase the girl that captivates my mind and shares parts of my spirit?

[moimeme]

though we never really connected, or at least in the relatively short timespan that we actually talked to each other before she clammed up

 

If you couldn't connect before, it's extremely unlikely you ever will.

 

but I simply don't have that same feeling I got with Erin, even though it was for no reason since I barely knew her. (Erin was your typical ridiculously attractive and slender girl while the new woman is more average in both looks and body size.)

 

'That same feeling you got with Erin' was maybe lust and infatuation. While those two like to pretend they are love, they aren't.

 

Do I chase the girl that stole my eyes and would be the one who my friends would say "Have you seen his girlfriend?"

 

Well, if you want to be shallow, sure. If you want to fool yourself that lust is actually love, go ahead. It won't work out and will crash and burn. But if it's so important to you to have some eye candy hanging on your arm, go for it.

 

the girl that captivates my mind and shares parts of my spirit?

 

This, however, is what people in the know look for in a partner. Remember, all our looks fade. Someone can be in an accident or suffer a catastrophic illness. So if that were to happen to your 'eye' fantasy, what would you have left? No connection, no companionship and then not even looks to look at.

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In retrospect, I couldve worded a lot of things better. I was sort of just writing everything I was thinking. What it all boils down to is that on one hand with Erin she'd walk into a room and it would simply floor me; I was absolutely intrigued though I had no reason as to why. With this new person, Im just really hoping that happens again.

[moimeme]

with Erin she'd walk into a room and it would simply floor me;

 

This changes nothing.

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Yeah, youre right. I suppose its just foolish for me to be worrying about this so soon, given that I havent even met the second woman in person yet. With the way Erin acted I figured she simply wasn't ready for a relationship, and theres no indictation that she is now either. With this new person, I have honestly never met someone so open which is frankly refreshing. At the same time I simply don't feel anything yet, as foolish as that sounds as well. *shakes head* I don't know why I am even wondering about this so early, its just been on my mind is all.

[moimeme]

At the same time I simply don't feel anything yet, as foolish as that sounds

 

I don't know what you're expecting to feel. You've said you feel a connection - that's great for starters. If you haven't yet met her, why would you expect to have feelings for her?????????????