KelliDoll Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 I have a problem with stealing, and that's the first time I've admitted it. I have been swiping things from shops since I was about 12 years old. It started off with a packet of textas, and now it is a twice-daily habit. I am now 23 years old and just started as a lawyer in a top tier law firm. Money is not a problem for me and most of what I steal I don't even need. I feel no remorse for stealing and I've even taken jewlery from my own grandmother. I must have stolen hundreds of dollars from my parents over the years and even take friends' make up. Well, things came to a head this weekend. I was at a party with all of my friends and got really drunk. On my way out, there were 2 wallets sitting on the counter so I took them. On the way home I took the money out and threw the wallets out. I did not think twice about it. The next afternoon I got a call from the girl who held the party. She said that she had spoken to everyone at the party and they had deduced that I had taken the wallets. There was simply no other explanation. She said that our friendship was terminated. I went into denial mode immediately, but she hung up on me. The rest of that afternoon was spent calling friends and all of them turned away from me. I have had some of these friendships for 10 years. I have no other social circle. The funny thing is, I don't regret taking the wallets. Somehow I see this as THEIR problem. I am devestated beyond belief that all of my friends hate me now (some said to go back to them when I could be honest about taking the wallets and seek therapy, but I continued the denials), but at the same time I am counting the money I made ($150). Please let me know what the hell is wrong with me! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 There is a mental ailment known as kleptomania. Here's one article about it. http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_g2699/is_0001/ai_2699000194 Get yourself to a psychologist before your thefts are discovered and ruin your career. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 Originally posted by KelliDoll I have a problem with stealing, and that's the first time I've admitted it. The funny thing is, I don't regret taking the wallets. Somehow I see this as THEIR problem. Oh my.....this is a serious problem you have. Do like moimeme says....and pronto! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 Go get treated for your illness. Worry about you right now, and the obvious problem you have. Get this under control before it really ruins your life. After you get this treated and are in therapy you may wish to make amends for your friends that you've wronged. And you have. Even if you did steal the money, what kind of total and complete *sshole chucks the wallet in the garbage? Not ONLY did you take money from them but they all now have to replace credit cards, driver's liscence (which in some places costs 50-60 bucks to do) but any photos they had in there too. Should have tossed it in a mailbox instead. At least it will be returned. Obviously this is not the first time things have gone missing with you around. Get treated for your mentall illness, then you can perhaps go back and say "hate the illness not the person" Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 13, 2005 Share Posted March 13, 2005 kleptomania. form of obsessive complsive disorder (OCD) - it's a compulsion; becaus eyou have no remorse though, this may also be a personality disorder -- do you have other problems in your private relationships?? see a psychologist or a psychiatrist. I believe paxil is used also to treat OCD, but you also need talk therapy, ASAP. You work in a law firm so you should know. People get busted over the stupidest mistakes sometimes. the next one could be yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Grinning Maniac Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 Am I the only one busting a gut laughing at the fact that she's a LAWYER? That's just too good... Kelli: Your Honor, I intend to prove that my client had nothing to do with the robbery. Judge: Very well, counselor. Let's procee-....has anyone seen my gavel? I could've sworn.... Kelli: STOP LOOKING AT ME! I DIDNT TAKE ANYTHING!... *clears throat* ...um..perhaps you left it in your car. *eyes dart around room* Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 Is this story fishy? Being in law school myself, I know that entrance to the bar is very strict. If you have committed a crime it can be very difficult. Are you saying that you've been stealing twice a day your whole life and you've never been caught? Also, you are 23 and just started as a lawyer at a law firm. That would mean that you graduated last year at the age of 22. That is 2-3 years before possible unless you skipped that many grades in school. Are you perhaps a pathological liar too? Just trying to get to the bottom of it. Link to post Share on other sites
KelliDoll Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 GM, the irony is not lost on me. HoldOn, your post is typically American-centric. I live in Australia - we go straight to law school from high school. I skipped a year in high school, and finished my law degree (which is 5 years) last year, when I was 22. That is not unusual here. No, I have never been caught. But I doubt I would stop if I was. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 Hmmm... You're not in denial about your problem, so GO GET SOME HELP. Then you'll stop making it so easy for your friends to hate you. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 Ooops. Sorry for being American-Centric. yeah, obviously you need to get help. It's not your friends' faults. Link to post Share on other sites
life loser Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 i agree your stealing things is a problem, but I think you may be self-destructive too do you hate your life/career? feel trapped? you may be sending a desperate signal to your close friends that you are unhappy and need help i'm no brain surgeon, but you need to see a therapist before it's too late Link to post Share on other sites
Donut Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 This is not only ruining your personal life, it will ruin your career before too long if you don't seek help. Link to post Share on other sites
pseud Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 A kleptomaniac lawyer? Well, that makes perfect sense to me. You certainly picked an appropriate profession, if you are being honest. As another pointed out, you seem a bit young to be all done with a legal degree, and the qualifications needed to practice law. As far as kleptomania is concerned, I still do not think it should be used as any form of excuse to evade prosecution. Mental illnesses simply describe human behavior in its myriad forms. Although these illnesses help to explain what problems are happening, and how it might be best to tackle them, quite a good many of them are just crutches people use to make life easier on themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 We all know you have a problem. However your post was with regards to losing your friends over this. If you want to keep your friends, you have to admit your mistake and tell them it wasn't the first time and that you couldn't help yourself. Before you can do this, you have to admit to yourself that you have this problem. Your friends, if they are as true as you would like to think, will try to help you. That will only work if you want to help yourself (no pun intended). Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 quite a good many of them are just crutches people use to make life easier on themselves Sure, because life is *so* much easier when you're identified as someone with a mental ailment. Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 well KelliDoll, the one time you get caught, it will be over. your life as you know it will be over. Losing your friends will be the LEAST of your worries. it looks as though that it what it may take too. if you MUST steal.... do pieces of bulk candy, but do it really sneaky.... that way you still get a semi-rush. either make up a good story to tell you buds, or start searching out new friends. people are not nice when you steal their and trash their wallets, especially a friend-of-a-friend. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Please let me know what the hell is wrong with me! Assuming you're not trolling, you have what's known as kleptomania. This is a diagnosable mental disorder, which doesn't necessarily reflect on your real character. Nevertheless, the legal and social consequences are all the same, and it's a problem for which you should seek immediate help - you're lucky your associates/friends didn't report you to the cops. Link to post Share on other sites
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