Could we be more than best friends???

[talj]

Thanks guys for all your replies. This is the first place I have come where people have made any sense to me about this situation.

 

To update you all......I am now "fully booked" for weekends until the middle of May and some evenings in the week too. I do tend to work late sometimes which will fill the inbetween days when Im not going out with friends etc. I feel really good about this and a bit like its a new start for me. I also have "dates" with 3 guys lined up, just fun, I feel I deserve to go out and be made to feel a little bit special.

 

As for D* well I did email him. I told him for our friendship to last this wreckage he needed to be aware that that is just what it is now and for the forseeable future, just a friendship. Im sure this wont shock you but his reply was short and simple "Hi I didnt really sleep at all last night after reading your email, I've got a migraine now and going to bed will try to email or talk to you tomorrow."

 

This has been a regular thing too, he plays the sick card and makes me feel like I am causing him to be ill but this time it isnt fair, its my life and my happiness, I want that back and I cant let him play me like this any longer. Is that being nasty??

[WithOrWithoutYou]

No, you are not being nasty, he is. You are seeing his emotional blackmail and manipulation for what it is. You have seen this "sick card" before. He isn't even bothering to invent new tactics.

 

You are doing the right thing, and I hope you have a great time. If he really wants to whine about it, let him call you, and when he does, be strong, and do not let anything he says manipulate you into changing what YOU have decided that you need to do for yourself. After all, he knows you are dating, he can always ask you out if he wants.

 

I know you will find someone who does not play those sorts of games, and is a lot of fun to spend time with. See where those dates go, and if you really like the guys, go again! Who knows, maybe you will run into a really great guy, and want it to be more than "just for fun".

[WithOrWithoutYou]

PS: Don't be a stranger. Come back and post us an update sometime. It's always nice to learn what happens...

[talj]

Of course I'll let you guys know how things are going! I have no doubt I'll be needing more advice in the weeks to come!!! Thanks for being so helpful x

[tokyo]

Originally posted by WithOrWithoutYou

PS: Don't be a stranger. Come back and post us an update sometime. It's always nice to learn what happens...

 

I agree.

 

And it's great that you are so booked out!

[angelj]

your final post made me smile.

 

its nice to see someone really learn from and improve the situation in their life!

 

good job talj, i wish you all the luck, love, and happiness you deserve. do let us know what happens with the gameplayer and tell us about the new dates!

[talj]

hi guys just thought Id post the reply I got from D* about the email I sent him......I dont think this will come as any surprise to you but let me know what you think......

 

Hiya

 

ok - I'll try and reply to your email...

 

First off, these last couple of weeks have been incredibly stressful

for me, there's been a hell of a lot going on at work and I seem to

have developed more responsibility quite quickly, so as well as

working a lot I havent been sleeping well and what happened on friday

night has meant I havent really slept much since then - it did upset

me.

 

I do really like talking to you though, even if I dont always manage

to tell you everything thats on my mind, it helps to get some of it out.

 

I'm sorry if you feel I havent been much of a friend recently and I'm

sorry if you think that I only want to talk to you if I need someone

to talk to :-(

 

The last thing I want to happen is for us to stop being friends :-(

you do mean a lot to me, even though I dont always show it.... but I

really do feel like I did before, I still need to get a grip on some

of my problems a bit more before I jump into anything else. I know it

probably doesnt seem like it, but I think I am getting better than I was

a while back, its just the workload recently has been getting on top

of me. I promise after easter I'm going to take things a bit easier

and I'll try and get my life in order.

 

So at the end of the day I dont know where this puts us - are you

willing to hang on a little longer and hope I get myself sorted out -

or don't you want to wait any longer? Maybe its best if you have a

think about it for a while, and see what you think...

 

sorry again for upsetting you and messing you about

 

take care