Loveless Posted February 21, 2001 Share Posted February 21, 2001 Help! Im falling for my best guy friend. I want to go out with him, but he says that we are to good of friends and that we know each other to well to go out with each other. I know that he likes me because he talkes about me to his friends. What do I do? Why won't he go out with me even though his friends all say that he wants to? Help me!!! I am abou to go crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
Kay70 Posted February 21, 2001 Share Posted February 21, 2001 I will help you Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 22, 2001 Share Posted February 22, 2001 The only thing you need to do is be cool. Relationships that begin with a great friendship are absolutely the best but they are really difficult to pull off sometimes. Mostly, it's the guys who fall for the gals. Ladies have a way of putting men into certain categories pretty quickly. When a lady meets a guy, it doesn't take her long to determine if he's going to be an activity buddy, an acquaintance, close friend, dating partner or potential husband. I guess guys do sort of the same thing. Getting someone to take you out of one category and put you into another is quite an art. You are going to have to back away from this guy...stop being such a good friend...stop relating to him as a buddy. You will have to do is slowly over time. As you back away, his feelings for you will surface...it does sound like the potential is there. The absolute worse thing you can do is mention your feelings to him again real soon. The best thing you can do is just back off. If you keep at him about becoming an item, you will instead become an annoyance he will want to avoid you like the plague. Now, the chances of something happening here are only 50/50 in any case. You really do need to start seeing other guys on a romantic basis. If this friend has latent feelings for you, I unconditionally guarantee you that when he learns you are beginning to get serious with another guy, you will have him eating out of your hands. Just don't use another guy to achieve this end. Putting your life on hold for someone to change their feelings about you is extremely foolish. It's not something you want to do. Move on with your life, use your skill and wisdom as a woman to do just the right amount of what you need to do in order to peak his interest. When you start dating guys and he doesn't see much of you anymore, he'll be at your doorsteps. Just don't ever let him know this was part of your strategy...and don't tell any other people about this either. I have it copyrighted but I am giving you permission to use it for, say, three months (LOL). Link to post Share on other sites
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