TheManWithoutAPlan Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 (edited) Bare with me on this. We broke up a year ago, at most the relationship lasted just shy of 6 months but we broke up pretty unfairly, things got out of control and it was really a decision neither of us wanted to make. Anyway, it's been about a year, we became friends around 6 months after the split (Not on a close level, just casual "Hey! How are you doing?" friends every now and again) but as you can guess to why I'm writing this I'm looking to get back with her. I haven't made a move yet, aside from once when we had a close call a few months ago, but obviously there's a difference between a romantic relationship and a friendly one. I'm looking to get back her interest so I can then start to work on the rest, just looking for some advice on what to do. Advice guys? Edited November 1, 2014 by TheManWithoutAPlan Link to post Share on other sites
SeekedandDistroyed Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Start dating someone else and let her find out about it Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Bare with me on this. We broke up a year ago, at most the relationship lasted just shy of 6 months but we broke up pretty unfairly, things got out of control and it was really a decision neither of us wanted to make. Anyway, it's been about a year, we became friends around 6 months after the split (Not on a close level, just casual "Hey! How are you doing?" friends every now and again) but as you can guess to why I'm writing this I'm looking to get back with her. I haven't made a move yet, aside from once when we had a close call a few months ago, but obviously there's a difference between a romantic relationship and a friendly one. I'm looking to get back her interest so I can then start to work on the rest, just looking for some advice on what to do. Advice guys? You can't. It's completely up to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Personally Me Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Hi, "Start dating someone else and let her find out about it" I think this is going into head games that will add more unpredictable drama. You should date when you want to, not use innocent person to see how your ex will react. It's true it is up to your ex. If the break up was something neither of you wanted...Ask her if she thinks it was a mistake breaking up. That could open the door to communication on an equal level. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted November 1, 2014 Share Posted November 1, 2014 Well if u are in contact then could u maybe try a low level innuendo & see what she comes back with but in such a way u could have not meant it to be.. so u can back track & save face if she doesn't respond positively? U are going to have to put some feelers out there! Good luck x Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheManWithoutAPlan Posted November 1, 2014 Author Share Posted November 1, 2014 (edited) Start dating someone else and let her find out about it I've tried that, and the only result I got was a negative one, I don't really want to drag any innocent girl in just to cause a reaction. It's true it is up to your ex. If the break up was something neither of you wanted...Ask her if she thinks it was a mistake breaking up. I have asked that a few months ago back in April and she does think it was a mistake, she even went as far as to say she regretted how things ended, but she won't just go back out just for the hell of it, with how long ago it actually was I need at least some interest to really build off of it. The last thing she said about getting back together was that she would want to meet up and give it a shot if she does like me again, we've only ever had one close call about 8 months ago where I managed to get her attracted, we grew closer as a result and I was able to start conversations she would otherwise avoid such as getting a flat together or meeting up, we got as close as that then things dried up because of a fight that sprung up, but I still believe if I can do it once I can do it again. Well if u are in contact then could u maybe try a low level innuendo & see what she comes back with but in such a way u could have not meant it to be.. so u can back track & save face if she doesn't respond positively? U are going to have to put some feelers out there! Good luck x I have tried to slightly jab at topics, but usually they do come up short or she avoids them entirely, I tend to have to directly talk about a certain topic (Like when we were talking about issues in our breakup) for us to talk about it really. To a degree she says she falls in love easy, a lot of the guys that take her interest tend to be bad boys, I just need attraction to build attraction. Edited November 2, 2014 by TheManWithoutAPlan Link to post Share on other sites
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