Bittersweetie Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 I guess I keep hoping it will be some great love story and work out for me and him in the end, but I think deep down I know it won't. I read somewhere once about how if someone waits for a bus for a certain amount of time, they will keep waiting until it gets there, no matter how long it takes. Because they feel they're already invested in that bus, and no longer open to another solution. I think you know, this bus is gone. You need to find another way forward. As for passion with your H, the grass grows where you water it. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 I know the wrong in this situation but the heart wants what it wants, but there are four children to consider. When people say this, it makes my blood boil. Such an excuse, yet obviously those innocent four children aren't enough to make either of you stop. Tarnish, you're not a little kid, you're a grown woman with a brain. You know what's what and you know the damage that is going to happen to the kids and to your own spouses. You won't die from the pain of losing him. And so what if you don't have passion anymore once he's gone. Replace it with something else. Go skydiving! Create your own passion by diving into hobbies that make you feel good and don't cause heartache for others. You two are a fantasy, not reality. NO WAY would it ever work out, even more so since your MM was adamant from DAY ONE he was never ever leaving his wife and kids for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Friskyone4u Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 You say there are four children involved here but you could really care less. It is all about satisfying your sex drive. Should get really interesting for you when your husband catches you again . Then there really will be victims, just not you. You will deserve what you get. Divorce your husband and bang anyone you want to. But you won't do that. Too confortable for you. If your husband is not watching you he is a silly man and more than silly if your stuff is not on the front lawn this time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
meandmycats Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Everything that has been said is correct. I know the wrong in this situation but the heart wants what it wants, but there are four children to consider. I guess I keep hoping it will be some great love story and work out for me and him in the end, but I think deep down I know it won't. I will walk away from him and stay away this time... I see no other choice. As for whether I will ever do the right thing and leave my husband, I don't know... We have a fairly happy and comfortable life, just no passion on my side... Groan.......oh please, save me! Not this old chestnut again! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
the_artist_1970 Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 groan.......oh please, save me! Not this old chestnut again! lol! Lol! Lol! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 The heart wants what the heart wants? Really? What a heap of self-serving, sentimental bollocks! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 Everything that has been said is correct. I know the wrong in this situation but the heart wants what it wants, but there are four children to consider.... So tired of this sorry excuse "heart wants what the heart wants"! Had you not chose to invest in this, there would be no wanting. You haven't been thinking of your kids every single time you engage with the MM. Your children's happiness isn't important cause ... "The heart wants what the heart wants!" Do you have ANY idea how much hurt and dejection and despair they WILL go through when all of this explodes? Is their happiness and security that unimportant to you.."cause the heart want what the heart wants"?!?!? Why not just go after the MM full throttle, but leave your kids behind. Better for them to deal with you choosing a MM over their father than them having to endure the HOURS and MONTHs of stress and negative vibes all around them when your affair is discovered! You can't even pretend ignorance because you are CHOOSING to do this to them. So incredibly selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 Everything that has been said is correct. I know the wrong in this situation but the heart wants what it wants, but there are four children to consider. I guess I keep hoping it will be some great love story and work out for me and him in the end, but I think deep down I know it won't. I will walk away from him and stay away this time... I see no other choice. As for whether I will ever do the right thing and leave my husband, I don't know... We have a fairly happy and comfortable life, just no passion on my side... No, you aren't considering the four children. No way. The only one you consider is yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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