I feel like he's ruining our kids... !!

[momto3boys]

My ex is all of a sudden asking for more time with our kids. I have given it to him but he has his gf around everytime. They've been dating less than a month and I feel like it's way too soon to be binging them around our kids. She's been around since day 1 they've been dating.

Why?!?! Why does he think this is ok? We have only been separated for 6 months. My kids have had to adjust to me being a single mom to me working nonstop. We downgraded from a 3 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I know I have no control but I'm tryin to make sense of why he's be doing this.

Also, today he told my 5 yr old who has really struggled with the separation that mommy has a boyfriend and that he (my ex) is going to let him meet my boyfriend. First off- I don't have a boyfriend. I've been on a few dates with this guy that's it! If he was my bf which he isn't it's not my exs place to tell my kids?!?! And I am not bringing men in and out of my kids lives! So I don't tell them if I date or not. They're too young. I am beyond pissed he said this to my sln. How do I handle this?!?! I called and cussed him out,

That's obviously not getting through to him. Why would he tell our son thsi?! He is ruining my kids.

[AffairsRBad]

My ex is all of a sudden asking for more time with our kids. I have given it to him but he has his gf around everytime. They've been dating less than a month and I feel like it's way too soon to be binging them around our kids. She's been around since day 1 they've been dating.

Why?!?! Why does he think this is ok? We have only been separated for 6 months. My kids have had to adjust to me being a single mom to me working nonstop. We downgraded from a 3 bedroom house to a 2 bedroom apartment. I know I have no control but I'm tryin to make sense of why he's be doing this.

Also, today he told my 5 yr old who has really struggled with the separation that mommy has a boyfriend and that he (my ex) is going to let him meet my boyfriend. First off- I don't have a boyfriend. I've been on a few dates with this guy that's it! If he was my bf which he isn't it's not my exs place to tell my kids?!?! And I am not bringing men in and out of my kids lives! So I don't tell them if I date or not. They're too young. I am beyond pissed he said this to my sln. How do I handle this?!?! I called and cussed him out,

That's obviously not getting through to him. Why would he tell our son thsi?! He is ruining my kids.

 

I'm sorry for your troubles. I agree with you completely, however there isn't a great deal you can do now about it. In court, you can try to bring up this behavior if custody of the children becomes an issue. What I would suggest for you is focus on you and your kids through this hard time. Fighting with your ex ultimately does not do anything for anyone. Just stay firm with dealing with him, but try to keep taking the higher ground throughout. When you talk to your 5 year old, focus on his feelings and reassure him that you love him with all your heart and will always be there for him. I applaud that you have managed to keep any dating away from your kids' views. I know this is a hard thing to do, but it's worth it. I might even suggest it being better not to date until the divorce is final and your kids have adjusted to the new lifestyle that comes with divorce, but I also understand how hard that can be.

[amystouffer]

I understand what you are feeling. I'm currently separating from my husband of thirteen years. We have a 12 year old and a 7 year old. Thankfully your children are younger. They don't quite understand what all this really means. My ex decided it would be a good idea to have his 22 year old girlfriend stay over with my kids there. At first I was letting him have the kids as often as he wanted but I've had to cut that back. He is acting like this could never affect the kids but it does. I don't need anyone playing mommy with my kids especially only 3 months after I left him. I've also been seeing someone but its inappropriate to have the kids around or even know about it. I would suggest getting them in counseling. It has helped my daughter so much. In time you will see he is digging his own grave with his kids.