momto3boys Posted November 2, 2014 Share Posted November 2, 2014 recently another divorced local group im on informed me there were a few women on that site that knows my ex and his new gf so i feel like this is my only safe haven. My ex and i have an agreement that he pays my rent. Well now that he has this new gf he threatens not to pay my rent all of the time. I give him the kids every weekend whenever he is not working. I pretty much cater around him and his schedule and im sick of it!!! He yells at me and tells me to leave him alone, he hates me, etc. (ive posted about that before). Yet he emails me multiple times through out the week asking me about when hes picking up the kids. If i dont give them to him the time and day he wants he threatens not to pay my rent. I am sick of having him hold this over my head. This is my kids home. This was a verbal agreement. We are going through court soon and my lawyer is trying to get him to put our verbal agreements on paper because he wouldnt for me. I am just really sick of the harassment and catering to him. I ignore him and he just emails me more. He has a girlfriend, hes moved on, he gets to see the kids every weekend. I work all week and barely see them because by the time ig et off and make dinner and do home work its bed time. I do not think its fair that if i keep them one day a weekend hes threatening not to pay my rent. I feel like im stuck in an abusive relationship and cant get out. Not to mention as i said in my other post he was telling my kids that i have a boyfriend (which i dont. Just gone on a few dates with a guy), but he goes over way too many boundaries with our kids. He is seriously insane. How do i get the harassment to stop? How do i get him to back down? Even when im nice he is still doing this to me. I ignore him and he still doesnt back down. Seriously help! Link to post Share on other sites
slizl Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Is it possible that you can get a better job so you don't have to rely on him financially? There is no greater freedom than being financially independent, then you don't have to answer to anyone, ever. Link to post Share on other sites
LifesontheUp Posted November 3, 2014 Share Posted November 3, 2014 Block his email account and have him go through a third party to arrange visitation. Take back your control. He's nothing but a bully Link to post Share on other sites
Author momto3boys Posted November 4, 2014 Author Share Posted November 4, 2014 I'm going back to school in February so I can get a better job and won't need to rely on him financially. We have 3 kids together tho And he makes good money, he's gonna have to pay child support. He's now trying to get out of paying child support. He is nuts! I have him blocked on my phone so he can't text or call me because he was harassing me and bullyin me so i blocked him. He emailed me all day today. He's driving me crazy. I ignore him and it continues. He says if I block his email he's taking me to court because he should be ad P contact me about the kids. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 recently another divorced local group im on informed me there were a few women on that site that knows my ex and his new gf so i feel like this is my only safe haven. My ex and i have an agreement that he pays my rent. Well now that he has this new gf he threatens not to pay my rent all of the time. I give him the kids every weekend whenever he is not working. I pretty much cater around him and his schedule and im sick of it!!! He yells at me and tells me to leave him alone, he hates me, etc. (ive posted about that before). Yet he emails me multiple times through out the week asking me about when hes picking up the kids. If i dont give them to him the time and day he wants he threatens not to pay my rent. I am sick of having him hold this over my head. This is my kids home. This was a verbal agreement. We are going through court soon and my lawyer is trying to get him to put our verbal agreements on paper because he wouldnt for me. I am just really sick of the harassment and catering to him. I ignore him and he just emails me more. He has a girlfriend, hes moved on, he gets to see the kids every weekend. I work all week and barely see them because by the time ig et off and make dinner and do home work its bed time. I do not think its fair that if i keep them one day a weekend hes threatening not to pay my rent. I feel like im stuck in an abusive relationship and cant get out. Not to mention as i said in my other post he was telling my kids that i have a boyfriend (which i dont. Just gone on a few dates with a guy), but he goes over way too many boundaries with our kids. He is seriously insane. How do i get the harassment to stop? How do i get him to back down? Even when im nice he is still doing this to me. I ignore him and he still doesnt back down. Seriously help! Get a lawyer and drag him to court. He has to pay child support and if you two had agreed on spousal support, he has to pay that too. This gf of his gets no say in it. Stop talking to him unless it has to do with the kids. As soon as he's rude to you, hang up the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
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