3 years wasted or a new beginning?

[Unsure420]

I'll make a long story short.. Me and my ex were together for 3 years and lived together all 3 years. I'm 28 she's 25.. Last Thursday i got out of work and come home to all her **** packed my promise ring I got for her on ththe table as well as messages from fb of me talking to 2 girls which one was my ex.. Might I add nothing sexual was mentioned just a friendly convo.. She found that I made an Instagram that I didn't tell her about because I didn't think it was a big deal and i also tracked her phone once when she pissed me off. Basically she wrote in done with you i don't live her leave me alone etc.. Of course I tried seeing her and talking to her and she kept ignoring me finally last Sunday she agreed we could meet.. And it went terrible we were both very angry but I wanted her to come home and she refused.. She's been staying at her dads house.. Next couple days i tried reaching out to her and fix things and it was like fighting a dead horse.. Now Wednesday I get out of work to come home to another letter and this one is a good bye letter. Saying she doesn't want to be with me I lost her trust blah blah blah.. I waited Til she got out of work and met her at her job kept it real cool and basically said I don't deserve this.. A note really after : years!!! We talked for 2 hours and it was very emotional we were both crying.. I l Went to get out of the car and say my final good bye and give her my chain back and she lost it. Complete break down of crying.. I couldn't just walk away at this point.. We calmed down and agreed to meet this past Friday.. It was very civil we were both calm veery mature and basically she said she doesn't want to jump back into our relationship but she's willing to try and regain trust in me again to see if it leads to a relationship she said she wants to take baby steps and keep it causall.. I agreed because I love her and I'm not ready to let go.now Sunday she actually responded to my text messages normally and I asekd her how her day was blah blah blah everthing fine so I asked her if she wanted to have coffee later today and she says why don't we pick a day at the end of the week? Like I'm suppose to wait around for her? Mind you I have been trying to reach out to her everyday since this happened I know its a mistake but hard not too.. she also gave me her half of the rent which I was shocked and she told me she's going to my apartment on her lunch break to see our dog.. What do I do here.. What is she doing? Do i wait. Do I tell her I can't do this.. I'm so confused because I want to let go but I love her to much to say I didn't try.. And we have made progress in this past week but how long do I wait to see if she comes around.. I'm sure I missed something but that sums it up.. Any feed back would be appreciated

[Gloria25]

Come back for what?

 

You've been together for three years and no ring (I mean "engagement ring" - not some "promise" ring) and a date (for marriage).

 

Worst, on top of you two just kickin' it for 3 years without a ring and a date, you're chatting with exes.

 

After 1 1/2 to 2 years of dating (not being friends, co-workers, and/or shacking up) you should have enough info to know if you want to marry her or just have companionship.

 

That's why I say shack-ups are usually cuz one person has the foot outside the door - in this case, the OP is chatting up other women.

[Unsure420]

We have talked about marriage and kids numerous times..