Would you date anyone not as educated as you?

[Tayken]

I ask the question because of rational thinking, as opposed to anything else. There are a myriad of other reasons why if you are very educated and you spouse isn't, it can come back and bit you in the a$$ should your relationship go south.

 

I was just at a place this evening getting a hot drink that cost $1.60. I gave the woman $2.10 expecting to get 2 quarters back. She looked at me and said "you gave me too much". I told her the reason why, and you should have seen her all confused and won't even open the till to give me change

 

It took her a minute to figure it out, and I was shocked. Previously this sort of thing has only happened with teenagers at grocery stores, but I was shocked to see this happen with an adult.

 

So the question is, would you date someone that isn't educated past high school even though they might be damn good looking? Personally...h3ll NO!

[jjtr]

If someone only had a high school education, but was motivated to do something to further their career or better their life, then I would absolutely date them.

 

However, I previously dated someone who only had a high school education and she was content and not really motivated. She was just going through the motions, so to speak.

 

I find having career ambitions and a passion for what you do to be a very attractive quality.

 

So, I guess I'd boil it down to: If you're a barista and have goals to open your own business or franchise a chain, that's awesome. But if you're a barista just content being a barista forever, I'd probably pass.

[endlessabyss]

I ask the question because of rational thinking, as opposed to anything else. There are a myriad of other reasons why if you are very educated and you spouse isn't, it can come back and bit you in the a$$ should your relationship go south.

 

I was just at a place this evening getting a hot drink that cost $1.60. I gave the woman $2.10 expecting to get 2 quarters back. She looked at me and said "you gave me too much". I told her the reason why, and you should have seen her all confused and won't even open the till to give me change

 

It took her a minute to figure it out, and I was shocked. Previously this sort of thing has only happened with teenagers at grocery stores, but I was shocked to see this happen with an adult.

 

So the question is, would you date someone that isn't educated past high school even though they might be damn good looking? Personally...h3ll NO!

 

 

Probably not.

 

 

It hasn't worked out for me in the past. If I ever do get involved with someone else, I'd hope for them to be somewhat college educated, and not be a materialistic, drama queen.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Date or marry?

 

Either way, my answer is yes to both.

 

I would say I might actually prefer a woman without a Masters degree even though I have one.

 

More educated women tend to be more picky and snooty.

[Tayken]

But if you're a barista just content being a barista forever, I'd probably pass.

Or being a cashier at walmart, admin secretary, dental/vet/doctor assist and calling that a career.

 

Big disparity in incomes is a dangerous territory that men don't want to find themselves in, but some women find themselves having to pay out too. This are things that nobody tells you previously, and you end up finding out the hard way.

 

How do you handle someone that decides they are not going to go back to work after child birth, even when the kids are old enough for school? You can't force them, and that turns into a de-facto stay at home

 

Date or marry?

 

For LTR and Marry.....for any man, it's a safety blanket to have a woman with at least university education because that can be used to your advantage in the end.

[jjtr]

Or being a cashier at walmart, admin secretary, dental/vet/doctor assist and calling that a career.

 

Big disparity in incomes is a dangerous territory that men don't want to find themselves in, but some women find themselves having to pay out too. This are things that nobody tells you previously, and you end up finding out the hard way.

 

How do you handle someone that decides they are not going to go back to work after child birth, even when the kids are old enough for school? You can't force them, and that turns into a de-facto stay at home

 

 

 

For LTR and Marry.....for any man, it's a safety blanket to have a woman with at least university education because that can be used to your advantage in the end.

 

Are we talking education or income? Or both?

 

Big disparity in income can happen with two well-educated people.

[FitChick]

The rules have changed thanks to the terrible global economy. People who are educated cannot find "professional" jobs so take what they need to survive. People who are older who have had those good jobs find themselves unemployed or underemployed.

 

Do you want someone to contribute to your lifestyle or do you want an entertaining companion for sex and conversation?

[Tayken]

Are we talking education or income? Or both?

 

Big disparity in income can happen with two well-educated people.

 

Both....Two well educated people isn't as bad as one very educated and less educated person with a good job, that then loses that job. If a very educated person loses their job, a wage is inputted for them should things go south, based on their educated level and skills.

 

A high school diploma holder that had a manager job, is not guaranteed to get another manager position just because someone had put them in a manager role previously.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Or being a cashier at walmart, admin secretary, dental/vet/doctor assist and calling that a career.

 

 

Dental hygienists can actually make very good money. Certainly more consistent and better money than somebody with a Masters degree in History or English, etc.

 

As other posters have mentioned, the direct correlation between educational attainment and job income/security is fading.

[Assasda]

People can have no formal education and still be smart.

People can also have Master Degrees and be complete dingbats.

 

In the end, EVERYONE, and I mean everyone can teach you something

If you respect and acknowledge that, you'll be open to date people from all walks of life

[xxoo]

I would. What he's made of his life is more important than what degrees he holds.

 

What about spouses that get further degrees after marriage? Dump the slacker spouse?

[Tayken]

People can have no formal education and still be smart.

People can also have Master Degrees and be complete dingbats.

 

In the end, EVERYONE, and I mean everyone can teach you something

If you respect and acknowledge that, you'll be open to date people from all walks of life

 

 

You are obviously being oblivious to what can end up happening if you find yourself in front of family law.

 

What about spouses that get further degrees after marriage? Dump the slacker spouse?

 

A marketable degree holder is valuable. Just to answer the question up thread, degrees in useless subjects don't count, the person might as well just be holding a HS diploma

[avintagegirl]

Education is not always a measure of intelligence or common sense.

 

Yes, I would date someone without as many letters behind their name as I have.

[writergal]

Some of the most intelligent people out there don't have higher education degrees. Anyone can go to graduate school and get an MA or PhD but that doesn't mean they have a good character, good values and morals.

 

I am attracted to intelligent men who have good character, regardless of whether or not they have academic credentials listed after their last name. Men who are self-taught are really attractive to me. It shows me they seek out knowledge for the sake of learning, rather than just to advance in their career to make more money. Money is gained and lost, but character is permanent. You can change the color of a man's pants, but you can't change his character. Men could have a PhD and be a complete jerk, but that doesn't mean I want to date them because of their PhD.

[xxoo]

 

 

 

A marketable degree holder is valuable. Just to answer the question up thread, degrees in useless subjects don't count, the person might as well just be holding a HS diploma

 

Let's say I am currently working on a marketable advanced degree beyond my spouse's education. Should I dump him?

[Tayken]

Education is not always a measure of intelligence or common sense.

 

Yes, I would date someone without as many letters behind their name as I have.

 

May I ask if you have letters after your name? I ask because it's easy for someone without post secondary education to say they don't have a problem with this.

 

We are a shallow society, and as we know there are a lot of women out there who will only date a guy for the car he drives or what he does...so they can show off to their little friends. Not many girls / women want to say my husband works:

 

security

factory

store clerk

garbage collector

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

I wouldn't put as much weight on education, as I would intelligence level, if that makes sense, since some people are those that yearn to educate themselves in other ways outside of formal education. But as far as intelligence level goes, the answer is a firm no.

 

When I married, my husband and I were both of a high school level education, though I was working towards a degree. He joined the military, and though offered tuition, saw no need to further his education. I, on the other hand, went on to get my bachelors, then MBA, and built a solid career. Over the years, among many other things, I found that I could no longer relate to him at all. We could not hold a serious intellectual conversation. I found his arguments stupid, juvenile and annoying. We began to value different things in life and chose to keep company with different types of people.

 

I liked to meet friends at a nice bar/lounge for a glass of wine and conversation, while he still liked to attend clubs, get sloppy drunk and get into fights. Towards the end, we didn't go to any social functions together, as I couldn't stand to be around his friends, and I cringed at the thought of what he might do or say in front of mine - who were mostly coworkers.

 

So yes, after experiencing this personally, I firmly believe it is important to be on the same intellectual level as the person you're planning a future with.

[CoolCat771]

I ask the question because of rational thinking, as opposed to anything else. There are a myriad of other reasons why if you are very educated and you spouse isn't, it can come back and bit you in the a$$ should your relationship go south.

 

I was just at a place this evening getting a hot drink that cost $1.60. I gave the woman $2.10 expecting to get 2 quarters back. She looked at me and said "you gave me too much". I told her the reason why, and you should have seen her all confused and won't even open the till to give me change

 

It took her a minute to figure it out, and I was shocked. Previously this sort of thing has only happened with teenagers at grocery stores, but I was shocked to see this happen with an adult.

 

So the question is, would you date someone that isn't educated past high school even though they might be damn good looking? Personally...h3ll NO!

 

 

If I am emotionally connected/attached and physically attracted (subjectively) to a woman, nothing else matters to me, as long as both of these things are reciprocated equally and unwaveringly.

 

Also, people are intelligent in different areas. There is something that you can learn from everybody out there.

[heartshaped]

Education means little to me and this is coming from a woman who has higher education. Disparity in income isn't that important either. As long as the man could support himself. Also, just because a person only has a high school diploma does not mean that person holds seem menial, low wage job. Last few men I dated held only high school diplomas, but had incomes that were higher than mine.

[Tayken]

I wouldn't put as much weight on education, as I would intelligence level, if that makes sense, since some people are those that yearn to educate themselves in other ways outside of formal education. But as far as intelligence level goes, the answer is a firm no.

 

When I married, my husband and I were both of a high school level education, though I was working towards a degree. He joined the military, and though offered tuition, saw no need to further his education. I, on the other hand, went on to get my bachelors, then MBA, and built a solid career. Over the years, among many other things, I found that I could no longer relate to him at all. We could not hold a serious intellectual conversation. I found his arguments stupid, juvenile and annoying. We began to value different things in life and chose to keep company with different types of people.

 

I liked to meet friends at a nice bar/lounge for a glass of wine and conversation, while he still liked to attend clubs, get sloppy drunk and get into fights. Towards the end, we didn't go to any social functions together, as I couldn't stand to be around his friends, and I cringed at the thought of what he might do or say in front of mine - who were mostly coworkers.

 

So yes, after experiencing this personally, I firmly believe it is important to be on the same intellectual level as the person you're planning a future with.

 

There you go...seems you completely get where I am coming from, and this was my experience too when I was married. Why on earth would I want to go back to something like this?

 

Also, people are intelligent in different areas.

To go with your physically attraction comment, are you referring to the bedroom then?

 

Also, just because a person only has a high school diploma does not mean that person holds seem menial, low wage job.

 

Again, you said dated and not married. If you ever plan to get married, read up on family law to see how this could become a problem if you earn way more than the man. Fancy paying indefinite alimony?

Edited November 3, 2014 by Tayken

[787Dreamliner]

Personally, I am not particular with my partner's education level. As long as she is smart, able to communicate with me, love me for who I am and don't play games with me, that's all I ask for.

 

Who am I to judge her education level? It's up to her and I have seen girls with lower education level having a much higher EQ than those highly qualified ones.

[mortensorchid]

I've heard many people argue this point with me. Quite honestly, it's all a bunch of nonsense. I've had it drilled into me since I was a little kid that I am not to date men who are not college educated (like myself) by my parents. If I were ever to mention a person that I dated to my parents their first question is if he is educated or not. Of my friends now, few if any are college educated, and I don't care because otherwise I wouldn't have a social life. I've dated men who are uneducated who feel intimidated by me. I've dated men who were college graduates who threw me over for some trash woman who didn't finish high school but has two children by two different fathers. They're the losers? Or me? I don't know anymore.

 

 

All I do know is that it's a delicate balance, one must never be snotty, and one must another who deserves them.

Edited November 3, 2014 by mortensorchid

[Tayken]

Why should disparity in income matter?

 

Long term marriages, those of 10 years or longer almost always result in spousal support decrees when there is a disparity in income earning capacity between partners.

 

When Things Fall Apart: The Cost of Divorce | The Billfold

 

Female Breadwinners: How Income Disparity Affects Couples - Forbes

 

New Jersey Divorce Attorneys - Alimony and Income Disparity

[avintagegirl]

May I ask if you have letters after your name? I ask because it's easy for someone without post secondary education to say they don't have a problem with this.

 

We are a shallow society, and as we know there are a lot of women out there who will only date a guy for the car he drives or what he does...so they can show off to their little friends. Not many girls / women want to say my husband works:

 

security

factory

store clerk

garbage collector

 

I have two sets and soon to be working on a third.

 

I would not be ashamed of my husband's job. A job isnt all a man is. My father was at various points, a foreman at a lumber company, a supervisor at a plant making awesome money, (the plant closed), a roofer, a garbage man and a custodian.

 

He was a VERY intelligent man with good mechanical skills and mathematically inclined, but he had to take the work he could get. He was a man with severe OCD and yet to support his family he cleaned up other's bodily waste. He did what he had to do so that his family wouldn't be forced to take charity- to me that is admirable. I would definitely date someone with that sort of work ethic and integrity.

[Tayken]

I have two sets and soon to be working on a third.

 

I would not be ashamed of my husband's job. A job isnt all a man is. My father was at various points, a foreman at a lumber company, a supervisor at a plant making awesome money, (the plant closed), a roofer, a garbage man and a custodian.

 

He was a VERY intelligent man with good mechanical skills and mathematically inclined, but he had to take the work he could get. He was a man with severe OCD and yet to support his family he cleaned up other's bodily waste. He did what he had to do so that his family wouldn't be forced to take charity- to me that is admirable. I would definitely date someone with that sort of work ethic and integrity.

 

 

That is good to know, and yes our parents went above and beyond to support the family, but these days things are different i.e. there is more entitlement feeling in the air, the need to have the best at someone else' expense, Facebook posts to boast about a glamorous life, how a BF is so great etc

 

A lot of people might claim that they will date a man with not a glamorous job, but am sure that guy will have to look like Brad Pitt.