.. need idea..

[googoo]

i have known the girl that i like for about 3 months and have been pursuing her for about 1 month. i would like to know what kind of conversation topic you guys usually talk about (when pursuing girl) on daily basis? what question to ask her to start the conversation on daily basis? i try to keep contacting her everyday to keep the momentum going. sometimes i lost idea to talk about. please help. thanks. Andy.

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

It is not what you talk about, it is how you talk about thins in general.

 

Example... in friendship, my sm and I would joke about and not talk seriously about things in general. We just enjoyed our company.

As time went on, our talks included thoughts and personal likes and dislikes.

 

You need to find out why it is hard for you to keep convo going. You seem interested, why make it sound like it is an effort. Just say what you feel, even if it is about wondering how her day went, or letting her know you had something happen good or bad.

 

Life is random, so go with the flow to allow things to develop.

[Assasda]

I wouldnt be trying to talk to her everyday, if I have to do all the talking.

 

Also how do you know this girl and where do you know her from?

[d0nnivain]

It's fine to talk about everyday things:

 

Great weather we're having!

 

Did you see the game last night?

 

Who did you vote for? (It's election day in the US)

 

You look nice today.

 

Did you study for the test?

 

At some point though you have to stop just talking to her and ask her on a fate, preferably sooner than later because if you wait much longer she will conclude you don't like her & are simply being friendly.

[Mirages]

A thought,

 

Read at least 1/2 hour a day in a reputable news or specialty intellectual journal. Have a filing cabinet in your head on interesting articles, with a few facts. For example today I read an article on techniques and prevalence of entry level workers and senior executives "Pretending to work," it covered their techniques, their progression into lazydom, and how industry suffers from and reacts to it. It also mentioned that middle management does not have as much laziness. Both the articles, and my perspective to most of them is not a passionate, make me an activist type of thing, it is a goal of deeper understanding. i.e. I don't read such and then bash lazy people; read such and understand how to inspire lazy people.

 

So the article mentioned is of little relevance by topic to dating, but presented in a humble "I found such and such article interesting..." it serves as food for conversation. I feel that articles such as that one, are more interesting, than per se, articles on celebrities, crime, state level politicians, etc. Being abstract but humble shows you have a brain and are not afraid to use it

 

The topic should ideally be a little off the beaten path; if she is very much in the sensory / concrete in thinking, ohhh, fine but not for me, but it will show then by her not caring why you care about such a thing. Those people are grounded, cannot see the forest. so this exersize will give you some insight into her personality.

[normal person]

Meh. I'd get bored with someone who kept talking to me about weather and current events. If I were you I'd take an interest in learning about her. How she feels about things, why she thinks the way she does, why she does what she does, etc. People love talking about themselves. If you have a genuine curiosity about her, let it out tastefully. She might be flattered.

[d0nnivain]

You have to start somewhere . . . weather & current events are easy ice breakers that can lead into more personal conversations. You can't start by asking tell me all your hopes & dreams.