CadeYeager Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Sometimes I wonder why even bother cold approaching women. Statistically, it will end with a FAIL. Why even try. I only had to try once to learn that lesson. So you got rejected once, now you give up? What statistics are you talking about? Plenty of my friends are in LTR because of cold approaches. Learn from OP. He went for it, got his answer in seconds, and left unscathed. Now he doesn't have to wonder about the what if. He can move on to the next. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CadeYeager Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Still though, OP should be more aware. I know that if I'm doing something, the last thing I want to do is be hit on. What!? Lol Link to post Share on other sites
SunshineOnMe Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Get over yourself, hon, you're not all that. I know. I never said I was. I was just giving my thoughts on this. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Sure it sucks. There was a slight sting at first but after 10 minutes I was good! I wasn't dead, so I don't know why I've chickened out on so many approaches in the past. That's all what rejection is. You feel a bit dejected, and then you brighten up, feel good you tried, think a little bit of ways to improve, and you try again. Here is a suggestion for you. Do what you did with this girl, but to other girls on campus. Just strike up a conversation about something. Class, the book they are reading, music they are listening to, band t-shirt, whatever. Eventually the sting will be far less of a sting, and it won't last past 2 minutes. Also you'll get a date out of it as well. You did good grasshopper. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Sure it sucks. There was a slight sting at first but after 10 minutes I was good! I wasn't dead, so I don't know why I've chickened out on so many approaches in the past. There's practical reasons for not asking out everything that moves even though you may be getting more jaded to rejection. The #1 reason is that a lot of times you will see those women again. If you ask out women from school, work, social circles, meetups, you will see them again. I sometimes meet women who have rejected me many years ago, at workshops, training sessions, classes, etc. I also meet women at baby showers, and weddings who have rejected me. You do not really want that. You want to be fairly aggressive but also not put yourself in the aforementioned situation. OTOH, if you ask out women on the street or random bars you will never see again, you have no connection to them, and the answer is overwhelmingly likely to be no. It's calculated risks. Link to post Share on other sites
Kav Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 The key to the successful cold call is YOU LEAVE FIRST Then she's like HEY HE REALLY JUST NEEDED NOTES AND ISNT DESPERATE hmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
bubbletea Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 FYI she could be upset you ask to copy notes or homework if it's something you could do yourself. I know I get a annoyed by a certain classmate who doesn't want to do his work and just asks to copy everything, even notes. And you didn't ask her anything so how is it rejection? In her mind she probably doesn't think she rejected you either because you didn't straight out and ask. If someone is asking for notes, we assume that's all he wants, not that he's hitting on us or showing interest (has to be very obvious). Link to post Share on other sites
Kav Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 Pretty sure attractive woman assumes anyone approaching and chit-chatting is hitting on her Probably already has a b friend if she's attractive 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CadeYeager Posted November 23, 2014 Share Posted November 23, 2014 FYI she could be upset you ask to copy notes or homework if it's something you could do yourself. I know I get a annoyed by a certain classmate who doesn't want to do his work and just asks to copy everything, even notes. And you didn't ask her anything so how is it rejection? In her mind she probably doesn't think she rejected you either because you didn't straight out and ask. If someone is asking for notes, we assume that's all he wants, not that he's hitting on us or showing interest (has to be very obvious). I'm pretty sure it's obvious to her that he was hitting on her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skyblue707 Posted November 24, 2014 Share Posted November 24, 2014 You did fine! I'm glad that you stopped talking to her and ended it there. That's what a guy should do. In my case there is this annoying guy at work that is interested in me, I told him I had a boyfriend and the rat bastard STILL insists on making small talk with me even though I'm cold as hell. Geez...not sure what his deal is. Its sooo disgusting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 Great job OP. Cold approaches take a lot of guts to pull off. Never been much good at them myself. This thread makes me wish human society would get it's act together and develop proper 'courting' rules again. That way women who were interested and actively looking *could* signal she was willing to accept approaches. Then they wouldn't get bothered by random men and men would know not to waste their time. Everyone wins! I suggest a yellow ribbon, tied off just behind the ear 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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