hotpotato Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 That's what I figured. But she often stands and sits very close to me where her body is against mine, and her breasts amplify that. Needless to say, she is very comfortable with me. Youre talking about her like shes a walking pair of boobs. ive said many times, you dont talk about women like they are human beings. Thats me holding back a lot. Anyways, maybe you should ask her why. Maybe she is assuming youre not attracted to her because shes not attracted to you. Shes young and may not know any better. He may be comfortable with you in a friendly way, and hes sitting next to you like she would a girlfriend. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 People read way too much into sd's life his approach or whatever..I'm not saying they'res thing he can't stand to change about himself obviously there are but let's be honest most of these women are rejecting him because they're probably not physically attracted to him.. It has nothing to do with his lifestyle lack of job etc because we all know people like that who get a lot of women.. The women who went out with him was physically attracted to him simple as that..Women are no different then men they have to like what they see first to give you a chance.. Chemistry= physical attraction and compatiblity 2 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 That's what I figured. But she often stands and sits very close to me where her body is against mine, and her breasts amplify that. Needless to say, she is very comfortable with me. She had the Christian conversation. She may be a chaste woman, and assume that her platonic friends' thoughts and interests are equally chaste. In most cases, she'd probably be disgusted to learn that the friend is fixating on her breasts. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 She had the Christian conversation. She may be a chaste woman, and assume that her platonic friends' thoughts and interests are equally chaste. In most cases, she'd probably be disgusted to learn that the friend is fixating on her breasts. Bingo. Women are people with thoughts, feelings, and aspirations. They just happen to have boobs. She is probably projecting her chaste beliefs onto SD1. To be honest, when i like a guy, i am giddy and excited and maybe a little awkward. This is true for a lot of people. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) People read way too much into sd's life his approach or whatever..I'm not saying they'res thing he can't stand to change about himself obviously there are but let's be honest most of these women are rejecting him because they're probably not physically attracted to him.. It has nothing to do with his lifestyle lack of job etc because we all know people like that who get a lot of women.. The women who went out with him was physically attracted to him simple as that..Women are no different then men they have to like what they see first to give you a chance.. Chemistry= physical attraction and compatiblity um, no. SD is on the verge of being labeled 'creepy.' He doesn't know how close he is to getting into trouble with women, the popo, etc. So far he has avoided those problems because hes dealing with younger, more inexperience women who are nicer and giving him more leeway. Props to sd for putting himself out there so others can correct him. If he hadnt, he would probably have been arrested by now. I dont mean just because of stuff hes said in this thread, but his behavior and thoughts in general. I dont think sd is malucious, he just doesnt know any better. Edited November 16, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 um, no. SD is on the verge of being labeled 'creepy.' He doesn't know how close he is to getting into trouble with women, the popo, etc. So far he has avoided those problems because hes dealing with younger, more inexperience women who are nicer and giving him more leeway. Props to sd for putting himself out there so others can correct him. If he hadnt, he would probably have been arrested by now. I dont mean just because of stuff hes said in this thread, but his behavior and thoughts in general. I dont think sd is malucious, he just doesnt know any better. As I said of course he has tons of issues he needs to work on including moving on when a women clearly isn't interested.. But a lot of these rejections could be simply about lack of physical attraction Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Share Posted November 16, 2014 I don't think anybody ever said that "all" you have to do is have hobbies and stuff to get a girlfriend! It's good advice though. Being an interesting well rounded guy is all good. Can I ask you why you are against that so strongly? I can't understand that. I'm not against those things at all. I'm against the notion that having friends and hobbies is the magic bullet that will make women fall all over me. It's far more complicated than that, especially for me. Nobody seems to realize that I'm making friends right now. If I wanted to I could become real friends with the three girls I've written about here. I've spent time with each girl outside of campus. Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 People read way too much into sd's life his approach or whatever..I'm not saying they'res thing he can't stand to change about himself obviously there are but let's be honest most of these women are rejecting him because they're probably not physically attracted to him.. It has nothing to do with his lifestyle lack of job etc because we all know people like that who get a lot of women.. The women who went out with him was physically attracted to him simple as that..Women are no different then men they have to like what they see first to give you a chance.. Chemistry= physical attraction and compatiblity Personality is a part of attraction for a lot of people. He could have more fun with hobbies, with volunteering, which would make him more interesting to be around, open him up more, put less pressure on women - or girls (!) - to make him happy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 I'm not against those things at all. I'm against the notion that having friends and hobbies is the magic bullet that will make women fall all over me. It's far more complicated than that, especially for me. Nobody seems to realize that I'm making friends right now. If I wanted to I could become real friends with the three girls I've written about here. I've spent time with each girl outside of campus. It's more complicated than that for me, too, a lot of the time. I still wish I had friends where I am, and hobbies tend to equal fun and happiness. I was looking at this book in the bookstore last night, SD: Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life: Christine Hassler, Christina Traister: 9781480524880: Amazon.com: Books I'm going to see if I can order it through the library, and I think it would be good for you to read it. (Side note: for the guys here who go on about George Clooney being the epitome of sexiness for women? She had a New Year's Eve date and kiss from him, and she was still depressed and frustrated. Marrying him wouldn't have fixed it, either.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Share Posted November 16, 2014 Youre talking about her like shes a walking pair of boobs. ive said many times, you dont talk about women like they are human beings. Thats me holding back a lot. Did you see this post? Just to make things clear, I would be interested in both girls regardless of their breast size. Though the fact that both of them are busty significantly increases my attraction to them. That was directed at people like you. Anyways, maybe you should ask her why. Maybe she is assuming youre not attracted to her because shes not attracted to you. Shes young and may not know any better. She may be comfortable with you in a friendly way, and hes sitting next to you like she would a girlfriend. Ask her why what? Why she presses her breasts against me? Are you serious? And no, she's 26. I wouldn't say that she's young and doesn't not know any better. Maybe she is sitting down next to me, next to me like I'm a girlfriend. But I'm obviously not. That's on her to have a clue. One thing for sure is that she is very comfortable with me. To be honest, when i like a guy, i am giddy and excited and maybe a little awkward. This is true for a lot of people. Hmm. She actually is starting to become more awkward and goofy with me. A few times on Friday night she asked me if I thought she was weird or strange, stuff like that. I probably do have a good chance that she'll go out with me. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 There is no magic bullet. Having those things makes it slightly easier, that is all. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 I'm not against those things at all. I'm against the notion that having friends and hobbies is the magic bullet that will make women fall all over me. It's far more complicated than that, especially for me. Nobody seems to realize that I'm making friends right now. If I wanted to I could become real friends with the three girls I've written about here. I've spent time with each girl outside of campus. How about MALE friends? It's not a magic bullet to getting women. But then again, not everything you do in life should be done solely just to get a woman. Sometimes, it's all about just becoming a better person. You really should read the book "The Way of the Superior Man". I know it's been recommended to you before. And you really should make some male friends. Good male friends will help you in so many more ways in which you need help socially, personally, and psychologically. At the very least, that would help with your depression without the fear of constant rejection from women setting you back. So how is that a bad thing? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 (edited) Did you see this post? That was directed at people like you. People like me? People who are trying to help you but arent kissing your butt? Ok, keep doing what youre doing. See how that works for you. Ask her why what? Why she presses her breasts against me? Are you serious? My stalker also thought I was into him because I hugged him and my boobs happened to rub against him. Just sayin. Of course, you wouldnt ask her why shes rubbing her boobs against you. You would say something like, "You really seem to feel comfy around me." Maybe then you can ask her out if you havent already. And no, she's 26. I wouldn't say that she's young and doesn't not know any better. Maybe she is sitting down next to me, next to me like I'm a girlfriend. But I'm obviously not. That's on her to have a clue. One thing for sure is that she is very comfortable with me. At 26 I finally figured out that something as simple as a hug (boobies on his chest) or sitting next to a man who likes me can be a turn on, im ashamed to say. Hmm. She actually is starting to become more awkward and goofy with me. A few times on Friday night she asked me if I thought she was weird or strange, stuff like that. I probably do have a good chance that she'll go out with me. Then ask her out and see... ............... Edited November 16, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 Are you going to check out the book that I mentioned? Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 I'm against the notion that having friends and hobbies is the magic bullet that will make women fall all over me. It's far more complicated than that, especially for me. It's more complicated than that in general. There is no magic bullet and women don't fall all over any men for the most part. Especially average looking dudes like nearly every man out there. What people are saying is that having friends, a social life, hobbies and a career will make you more attractive in general. Women still won't be falling all over you. In fact there's nothing you or any man can do to have women magically fall all over them. But being well rounded will make you more attractive in general. You likely will still strike out with women more than a decade younger than you though, because, if you really want to know what chemistry is, it's nothing more than mutual attraction. And like attracts like. Similar ages, looks, socioeconomic status, place in life etc. all play a role. In other words you're most likely to inspire chemistry with an early 30s woman who's a late bloomer and is going back to school to make more of her life. She will be able to relate to you (and vice versa hopefully) and that is where chemistry comes from...if you're around the same "level" in the looks department - voila! Chemistry! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 There is no magic bullet. Having those things makes it slightly easier, that is all. Right. There is a long list of things that would make it easier. The most successful people have the "whole package" so to speak: nearly all of it! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Share Posted November 16, 2014 I'm really starting to wonder if I should just see where things go with Lunch Girl despite knowing that we have different views on the religion aspect. I'm hardly in a position to be so selective. Plus going on a few dates with a cute girl could be good for me. One thing I definitely need is more experience with dating. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Teknoe Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 Are you going to check out the book that I mentioned? Don't count on it. It won't be the first thing SD has promised to "look into" but actually doesn't in the end. How about MALE friends? Naw, he doesn't want anything to do with anybody that he doesn't see as having potential to satisfy him physically. After all, if they can't do that, then it's a waste of effort and time to get to know them. SD, you are fooling yourself again if you think you are making friends. No, you are not making friends in the sense that you call them to chat, invite them out to hang out or generally do things that a good friend does. You are attempting to date them or be around them long enough so that they might fall for you. That is exactly not what a real friend is. Once again, your idea of reality is different from what actually is reality. This has been your biggest issue from day one: tunnel vision and a lack of vision in general. Missing social cues and all that, including not knowing that it's normal/advised to extend the night after dancing by taking a girl out to a decent restaurant... it all accounts for a lack of vision. Sometimes I wonder how you function, because you seem to miss or not know a lot of basic things that just comes naturally to more people. Which tells me, you need male friends and you need to get out of your apartment more. You probably live a super sheltered life. It wouldn't shock me if you just go to school and stay at home surfing the internet. Is that all your life is about? That would be sad, man. Some of the things that flies over your head concerns me. It reminds me of a friend who has Aspergers... he really struggles with social cues and conventional wisdom. Hmm... Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 I'm not against those things at all. I'm against the notion that having friends and hobbies is the magic bullet that will make women fall all over me. It's far more complicated than that, especially for me. I don't believe anyone ever said that it was a magic bullet! There is not one! You are a mid 30's guy whose only activities on life are taking ONE class in school, your computer, and chasing girls who are more than a decade younger than you and you share nothing in common with besides taking a salsa class! You need to do more and become a well rounded guy with a LIFE! Otherwise what is there to offer? SD I think you are the most stubborn and in denial guy I have seen, I swear! I don't mean that in a bad way . But no matter how hard you insist, you are not going to get a youngster with giant boobs you can grab using nothing but a magic bullet and then have a wonderful happy life, it's just not going to happen, so you might as well make the most of yourself no matter what. Anyway I am not against the idea of you asking that christian girl out but please don't pretend to believe just so you can grab her boobs, that would be disgusting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 16, 2014 Author Share Posted November 16, 2014 I don't believe anyone ever said that it was a magic bullet! There is not one! You are a mid 30's guy whose only activities on life are taking ONE class in school, your computer, and chasing girls who are more than a decade younger than you and you share nothing in common with besides taking a salsa class! You need to do more and become a well rounded guy with a LIFE! Otherwise what is there to offer? SD I think you are the most stubborn and in denial guy I have seen, I swear! I don't mean that in a bad way . But no matter how hard you insist, you are not going to get a youngster with giant boobs you can grab using nothing but a magic bullet and then have a wonderful happy life, it's just not going to happen, so you might as well make the most of yourself no matter what. Anyway I am not against the idea of you asking that christian girl out but please don't pretend to believe just so you can grab her boobs, that would be disgusting. So if I did end up going out with the Christian girl and she let me grab her giant boobs (without having to lie to her), would I still be in denial? Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 So if I did end up going out with the Christian girl and she let me grab her giant boobs (without having to lie to her), would I still be in denial? Ugh. Once again, no words. You know, you've blamed God for everything wrong in your life. Maybe he sees this as an opportunity to make it up to you. Or maybe he's got some huge practical joke planned for you. I'm going with the latter. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 So if I did end up going out with the Christian girl and she let me grab her giant boobs (without having to lie to her), would I still be in denial? That would be you taking advantage of a young woman who has stated that she wants to date a man with values that equal her own. Also, what would you think the problem was, if the relationship didn't last? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 So if I did end up going out with the Christian girl and she let me grab her giant boobs (without having to lie to her), would I still be in denial? No, you would just be a despicable selfish creep who put's your own needs before anyone else's. She has TOLD you it's important to her to have someone that shares her views about God and religion. To pursue her now would be lying by omission. How could you even THINK this would be ok? 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 SD, are you trying to push buttons, with the comments about her giant boobs? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted November 16, 2014 Share Posted November 16, 2014 Mate nothing is going to fall into your lap with this attitude. Breasts, cash, fast food........ You don`t want another 10 years pass and have to invest in a long trench coat. Why are you so against the advice here? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
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