Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 Handling people. How does that relate to the conversation of ogling and "13 year old behavior, or mature man behavior?" Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Finesse and skill in what? In flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 In flirting. Ah, now that is what I was hoping about. How does a man skillfully flirt with a woman he is very attracted to? If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them or is it best that it's something to be completely ignored? I think that If done properly it can make the conversation more risque. Of course it's very easy to go to far and completely turn a woman off. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGypsy Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I can only answer for one woman. I would prefer a man not mention my boobs until we've at least established a mutual interest. A quick glance , normal and NBD Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 This chemistry thing is for women, its pretty simply really. Women have desires based on fantasy starting from a very young age, and they buy into the whole "the one", love at first sight, life long passion the whole nine. While men are based on pure sexual attraction. Chemistry or having it is a state of mind with women. If they are attracted to a man the can "make" chemistry happen no matter what the guy does. Example: after my divorce I met a nice young lady who swore we had this amazing chemistry. When she was telling me about it I was thinking "WTF". I had absolutely no interest in this woman, she was however a very sexy and appealing woman, physically, so being a man there was some "sexual interest". Once she started all the strong chemistry soulmate stuff I was over it. She stalked me for awhile questioning how I could ignore what was going on between us. My sister says this happens with me because I always make and hold strong eye contact with people while I talk to them and give the appearance that I really interest in what they are saying. She commented about how her friends always has crushes on me because of thos two things. My point is, chemistry is what one wants it to be and it does take both parties to make it happen for one. Its really lust, sometimes its from both, most often its one side, mainly the female side. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Gotta admit that the whole boobies conversation is off putting. I would never take a guy seriously if he sees me as a piece of meat. If I catch a guy too many times talking to or ogling my chest then it's very obvious what his interest in me is. Ditto. I think thats why im single lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I can only answer for one woman. I would prefer a man not mention my boobs until we've at least established a mutual interest. Ditto and that mutual interest would need to have been voiced on both sides. Flirting is a very individual thing. In that video I suggested to you there was a huge part about synchronicity in people. That is your first thing to look for way before you choose to start mentioning her breasts. You were un-sync'd when you hugged and she was awkward when you went out with her friend that night the other week. Did any hug or kiss happen after Friday's dance and Denny's? Were you two in sync? PS. Dancing is different - to dance 'not badly' people will concentrate on being in sync. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Ah, now that is what I was hoping about. How does a man skillfully flirt with a woman he is very attracted to? If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them or is it best that it's something to be completely ignored? I think that If done properly it can make the conversation more risque. Of course it's very easy to go to far and completely turn a woman off. I obviously can only speak for myself, but if the topic of my boobs comes up in conversation before a sexual relationship has been established (it doesn't need to be a proper relationship, just one of a sexual nature), I will be turned off and will, for all intents and purposes, become one of the boys. Meaning that all advances will be rejected. Do NOT try to flirt with me by mentioning my boobs. That will tell me that is ALL you're thinking about and honestly? Not interested. I have no issues talking about my boobs, however. And trust me, they do become the topic of conversation often. Never in a sexual way though. Men who mention my boobs, to me, instantly become girls, unless a sexual relationship has been established. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them Good God, no. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGypsy Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Good God, no. I think we have a consensus 7 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Ah, now that is what I was hoping about. How does a man skillfully flirt with a woman he is very attracted to? If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them or is it best that it's something to be completely ignored? I think that If done properly it can make the conversation more risque. Of course it's very easy to go to far and completely turn a woman off. Yes, if youre in a strip joint. I hope you can leave Big Boobies alone. She deserves a man who shares her beliefs, a man who finds her attractive but doesnt fixate on her to the point of fetishism. You are trying to function on an inappropriate level of intimacy. Most women dont like that unless there is already a romabtic/sexual relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
acapelo_dp Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Good God, no. Agreed. Why the hell would you comment on her huge boobs for? That's messed. How about complimenting her....eyes....smile? Something normal and cute, not trashy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 I can only answer for one woman. I would prefer a man not mention my boobs until we've at least established a mutual interest. A quick glance , normal and NBD OK, that makes sense. I remember that somehow on my first date with my ex the conversation drifted to her boobs and she ended up telling me her bra size. I absolutely did not ask. I think we were talking about sports bras and dancing, but even then I don't remember how we even got to that part. Since we were on a date, mutual interest was established and both of us were having fun talking about boobs. That was the first time I talked about anything like that with her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) OK, that makes sense. I remember that somehow on my first date with my ex the conversation drifted to her boobs and she ended up telling me her bra size. I absolutely did not ask. I think we were talking about sports bras and dancing, but even then I don't remember how we even got to that part. Since we were on a date, mutual interest was established and both of us were having fun talking about boobs. That was the first time I talked about anything like that with her. You know, OK, this happened organically with this one woman and it seems that you weren't saying anything boobalicious to her - she was likely complaining about her chest size on some level, as some women are wont to do with their girlfriends, talking about sports bras, etc. Happens. Doesn't sound flirty, but I guess it didn't tank you either. But whatever, OK, you got lucky and it didn't affect anything. But I'm telling you. Do not take that isolated incident as a template OK to bring up boobs as you're getting to know someone. The vast majority of women are NOT going to find that cute or sexy. Just don't do it. Don't. Do. Not. There is an excellent chance that you will end up limiting your options, possibly get intense too fast, etc., etc. This one is a no-brainer. Edited November 17, 2014 by serial muse 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 Ditto and that mutual interest would need to have been voiced on both sides. Flirting is a very individual thing. In that video I suggested to you there was a huge part about synchronicity in people. That is your first thing to look for way before you choose to start mentioning her breasts. You were un-sync'd when you hugged and she was awkward when you went out with her friend that night the other week. Did any hug or kiss happen after Friday's dance and Denny's? Were you two in sync? PS. Dancing is different - to dance 'not badly' people will concentrate on being in sync. I have hugged Lunch Girl many times now. It's almost always a full frontal, boob-pressing hug. That's what she wants. Though the size of her breasts may make the hug more sexual than she intendeds. As for after Denny's somehow she ended up driving us there and back to my car, long story. She didn't get out of her car (she was parked on the street) so there wasn't an opportunity to go for a hug or kiss. If the circumstances had been different, I probably would have tried for a kiss. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I have hugged Lunch Girl many times now. It's almost always a full frontal, boob-pressing hug. That's what she wants. Though the size of her breasts may make the hug more sexual than she intendeds. As for after Denny's somehow she ended up driving us there and back to my car, long story. She didn't get out of her car (she was parked on the street) so there wasn't an opportunity to go for a hug or kiss. If the circumstances had been different, I probably would have tried for a kiss. Er... that how people hug. How else would you do it? It's NOT sexual. Not for anyone that isn't obsessed with boobs anyway. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them Only once you already have one in each hand and your face buried between them can you mumble "nice rack". 4 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I have hugged Lunch Girl many times now. It's almost always a full frontal, boob-pressing hug. That's what she wants. Though the size of her breasts may make the hug more sexual than she intendeds. Well they're just a part of her body and they happen to be at the front, so they're going to press against everyone she hugs. Doesn't mean she's thinking about pressing them against you or anything else sexual... it's just a hug. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I have hugged Lunch Girl many times now. It's almost always a full frontal, boob-pressing hug. That's what she wants. Though the size of her breasts may make the hug more sexual than she intendeds. As for after Denny's somehow she ended up driving us there and back to my car, long story. She didn't get out of her car (she was parked on the street) so there wasn't an opportunity to go for a hug or kiss. If the circumstances had been different, I probably would have tried for a kiss. My stalker also thought me giving him hugs was sexual. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 You know, OK, this happened organically with this one woman and it seems that you weren't saying anything boobalicious to her - she was likely complaining about her chest size on some level, as some women are wont to do with their girlfriends, talking about sports bras, etc. Happens. Doesn't sound flirty, but I guess it didn't tank you either. But whatever, OK, you got lucky and it didn't affect anything. Yeah she may have been complaining about her size. Even then I'm not sure how we got to that topic. Though I'm glad we did. The conversation definitely got more flirty from then on. But I'm telling you. Do not take that isolated incident as a template OK to bring up boobs as you're getting to know someone. The vast majority of women are NOT going to find that cute or sexy. Just don't do it. Don't. Do. Not. There is an excellent chance that you will end up limiting your options, possibly get intense too fast, etc., etc. This one is a no-brainer. Where did I say I was going to bring up boobs? That's something I always let the woman mention. I make a comment then gauge her reaction which sets the mood to follow. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Where did I say I was going to bring up boobs? Here: If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them or is it best that it's something to be completely ignored? I think that If done properly it can make the conversation more risque. Of course it's very easy to go to far and completely turn a woman off. (ten characters) 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 Er... that how people hug. How else would you do it? It's NOT sexual. Not for anyone that isn't obsessed with boobs anyway. If I was a woman, I would be very conscious of how closely I hug other people, especially men. Though my guess is that since she's the one who has the boobs, they are completely non-sexual to her in friendly situations. Still, boobs or not, having a full hug with somebody of the other gender can be a bit sexual if it's not really quick. Though that may just be how I see it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 If a woman has large breasts, is there a way he can subtly mention them or is it best that it's something to be completely ignored? Absolutely! For example, next time you're trying to decide where to eat, suggest a certain restaurant because it has "the breast food in town" and that you can tell the servers are great because customers always leave "at least 20% tits.. er tips". Then, when you get to the joint, be a gentlemen and ask her about the temperature: "is it a bit nippley in here? Would you like it hooter.. er.. hotter?" After that, ask her about her. Compliment her ability to fit into different social situations, almost as if she had multiple ident-titties (emphasis is really important on this one). Then, maybe look around the joint and comment about how there used to be a lot of regulars that hung out there, but now the place is full of boobs.. er newbs. Be sure to mention that this is okay, because you're there with her, and you feel like she is your breast friend. If any of this bothers her, ask her if there is something she'd like to get off her chest. 10 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 Here: (ten characters) That was me asking how. Not saying that I do it. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 If I was a woman, I would be very conscious of how closely I hug other people, especially men. Though my guess is that since she's the one who has the boobs, they are completely non-sexual to her in friendly situations. Still, boobs or not, having a full hug with somebody of the other gender can be a bit sexual if it's not really quick. Though that may just be how I see it. Yeah... no. It doesn't really cross my mind when I hug people whether my boobs are pressing against them or not. I don't think that's what most of my friends are thinking about either. And here in the UK the hug is the common form of saying hello and goodbye, so it happens a lot. And no hug has ever been sexual, unless there was already a history of a sexual relationship before hand. And even then, not every time. I mean... a hug is as sexual to me (and most people I know) as an air kiss or a handshake. It's just a way to say hello to friends. Not a way to flirt. Link to post Share on other sites
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