sillyanswer Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 That was me asking how. Not saying that I do it. Oh. I see. You were just asking about a hypothetical situation for research purposes? Got it. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Somedude, I think it's good you got to talking about religion with Lunch Girl. I don't believe that two people with differing religions or beliefs are incompatible as long as they respect and acknowledge each others' differences. But if a guy that doesn't live his life for Jesus is a deal breaker for her, you need to respect that and move on. I don't think starting to go to church for her is a good move. I also suggest trying to not fixate on "boobs" so much. Even as another man, I have a hard time relating to it. The way you talk about women's body parts in here comes across as creepy and immature. Just using the word "boobs" makes me feel like a 12 year old boy and not a man. Could this contribute to you not being able to relate to other men?? I can't understand why you come back to the subject time and time again in here, even if that's what initially attracts you to a women. So what? We all like "boobs", but it makes for really dull conversation and gets everyone riled up and off-topic, for good reason. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 Somedude, I think it's good you got to talking about religion with Lunch Girl. I don't believe that two people with differing religions or beliefs are incompatible as long as they respect and acknowledge each others' differences. But if a guy that doesn't live his life for Jesus is a deal breaker for her, you need to respect that and move on. I don't think starting to go to church for her is a good move. I will talk to her more about that subject. I also suggest trying to not fixate on "boobs" so much. Even as another man, I have a hard time relating to it. The way you talk about women's body parts in here comes across as creepy and immature. Just using the word "boobs" makes me feel like a 12 year old boy and not a man. Could this contribute to you not being able to relate to other men?? I can't understand why you come back to the subject time and time again in here, even if that's what initially attracts you to a women. So what? We all like "boobs", but it makes for really dull conversation and gets everyone riled up and off-topic, for good reason. Then I guess that everybody here is a 12 year old boy for using the word "boobs." I was most definitely not the first person to start using the word. I'm just using the language that everybody else is. I also wasn't even the first person to talk about them at all. I've also repeatedly said that I would still be interested in them regardless of their breast size. All it does is increase my attraction. That comment was promptly dismissed, as I'm sure this one will be as well. Que sera sera. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 The whole boob thing is making me feel physically ill. Starting with the part where God gave you a woman with just the kind of boobs you wanted. No. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rester Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I will talk to her more about that subject. Then I guess that everybody here is a 12 year old boy for using the word "boobs." I was most definitely not the first person to start using the word. I'm just using the language that everybody else is. I also wasn't even the first person to talk about them at all. I've also repeatedly said that I would still be interested in them regardless of their breast size. All it does is increase my attraction. That comment was promptly dismissed, as I'm sure this one will be as well. Que sera sera. Just making an observation, somedude. It would suit you well in life to be able to take some constructive criticism now and then, rather than getting so defensive all the time. It's a pretty basic life skill that you seem to ignore but it vastly increases your chance of improving your situation. Not saying that you need to agree to everything, but you take everything people say so personally. People like this are exhausting to be around and it's one of the reasons everyone in here trying to offer advice gets so frustrated with you. It's pretty clear that you lack "people skills". We're all trying to help you with that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 If I was a woman, I would be very conscious of how closely I hug other people, especially men. Though my guess is that since she's the one who has the boobs, they are completely non-sexual to her in friendly situations. Still, boobs or not, having a full hug with somebody of the other gender can be a bit sexual if it's not really quick. Though that may just be how I see it. Um..this really is just how you see it. Hugs are hugs, crikey! I hug my boss or he does me when he has a birthday or I do or we do the same at Christmas or if we are on a work social. It's not sexual at all!!! If I hugged someone without my beasts touching them I would have to concave my whole torso and it would be seriously weird. It would not even be a hug! The guy would have to be around 4ft tall for me to achieve this logistically. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Though my guess is that since she's the one who has the boobs, they are completely non-sexual to her in friendly situations Yes. It would be quite disgusting for a woman to have to consider that her hugs are considered sexual simply because she has large breasts. It is on the hug receiver to realize that her breasts are not detachable, and she doesn't not have the option of hugging without them. Should large breasted women hug less? That's a silly idea to me. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 That was me asking how. Not saying that I do it. That doesn't make sense. You wanted to know how because?? I said don't do it at all, which answered the question. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 And this is why a handshake is a brilliant acknowledgement. This is the ridiculousness that women have to deal with. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 This has gotten way off topic guys. The thread is about chemistry and how to inspire it and you fellas are all talking about religion and boobies. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 It would not even be a hug! The guy would have to be around 4ft tall for me to achieve this logistically. So you're saying you're into short guys?!? 7 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 The whole boob thing is making me feel physically ill. Starting with the part where God gave you a woman with just the kind of boobs you wanted. No. He better be careful......Sometimes life is such that when you want and fixate over something so desperately,(and unnecessarily), that life has a way of screwing with that...I mean, I do wonder the irony if he managed to finally land someone with enormous breasts, then, God forbid, 6 months later she'd wind up with breast cancer and needed a double mastectomy....Its crazy, but I have seen many examples in my life where that kind of stuff happens to people... TFY 5 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 So you're saying you're into short guys?!? Only you could get away with saying that! Lol! Not that short! I like 5ft 6-10in so I can hug with my boobies all over them...but they better a better cleavage view the taller they are.. Why do you think tall men love titchy women!? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Why do you think tall men love titchy women!? Now everything makes sense! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 As some people have suggested, I'm trying to be more friendly with the guys that Busy Girl is friends with. One of them is confirmed gay so he's not competition. The other one almost certainly is competition. When class was over, Busy G her guy friend and I were walking and talking. I was sure to engage the guy as well. Before we left the building, another guy from the class comes up to her and starts talking to her about going out Salsa dancing and he gives her his phone. He asked her when she when she can go and she gave him a straight "I don't know when." Then he left and it was just the other guy, Busy G and I. While walking I got the impression that he's into her (as I'm sure the other guy was) but that she just sees him as a friend as well. So I'm pretty sure that at least 3 guys in the class are into her, me included, if not more. I have no idea how many other guys outside of this class have expressed an interest in her as well. There is no way this girl is hurting for male attention. I wonder how many guys she's told the "I'm too busy to have a boyfriend" line. While she's cute, her main draw is definitely her fun and engaging personality. I wonder if she likes all the male attention she's getting, or perhaps she just believes that all these guys who want to spend time with her just want to be her friend. Of course that's nonsense that they just want to be platonic friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Million.to.1 Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 One of them is confirmed gay so he's not competition. The other one almost certainly is competition. Busy girl is not interested in you, so there is no "competition". 10 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 And this is why a handshake is a brilliant acknowledgement. This is the ridiculousness that women have to deal with. Thats what i discovered after 27 years of life. if you don't want to fck a man, be careful about hugging him. Big Boobies is gonna have to learn, the hard way, too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 While she's cute, her main draw is definitely her fun and engaging personality. I wonder if she likes all the male attention she's getting, or perhaps she just believes that all these guys who want to spend time with her just want to be her friend. Of course that's nonsense that they just want to be platonic friends. She sounds like a normal college aged young woman enjoying her time. It isn't all about dating for her. It is highly likely there is someone she wants to date, but maybe that guy doesn't have eyes for her. She's just enjoying life and when the strong connection happens, it'll happen. Healthy and normal. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 As some people have suggested, I'm trying to be more friendly with the guys that Busy Girl is friends with. One of them is confirmed gay so he's not competition. The other one almost certainly is competition. When class was over, Busy G her guy friend and I were walking and talking. I was sure to engage the guy as well. Before we left the building, another guy from the class comes up to her and starts talking to her about going out Salsa dancing and he gives her his phone. He asked her when she when she can go and she gave him a straight "I don't know when." Then he left and it was just the other guy, Busy G and I. While walking I got the impression that he's into her (as I'm sure the other guy was) but that she just sees him as a friend as well. So I'm pretty sure that at least 3 guys in the class are into her, me included, if not more. I have no idea how many other guys outside of this class have expressed an interest in her as well. There is no way this girl is hurting for male attention. I wonder how many guys she's told the "I'm too busy to have a boyfriend" line. While she's cute, her main draw is definitely her fun and engaging personality. I wonder if she likes all the male attention she's getting, or perhaps she just believes that all these guys who want to spend time with her just want to be her friend. Of course that's nonsense that they just want to be platonic friends. it's not nonsense, its projection. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 Busy girl is not interested in you, so there is no "competition". SD, remember the above statement is not that made by a poster here it was originally made by Busy Girl twice over. Plus she may not even be wanting to date anybody, just like she said. She is unable to control the attention she gets unless she walks around looking at the darn floor and speaking to no males at all. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 She is unable to control the attention she gets unless she walks around looking at the darn floor and speaking to no males at all. 100% truth! Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 SD, remember the above statement is not that made by a poster here it was originally made by Busy Girl twice over. Plus she may not even be wanting to date anybody, just like she said. She is unable to control the attention she gets unless she walks around looking at the darn floor and speaking to no males at all. Quoted for truth! On the other hand, well done on engaging the guy. Keep going! Maybe you'll actually become friends! Maybe you'll even bond over the fact neither of you has a chance with Busy Girl! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Share Posted November 17, 2014 She sounds like a normal college aged young woman enjoying her time. It isn't all about dating for her. That's exactly what I'm sure it is. Just that with her personality men can't help but be interested in her. It is highly likely there is someone she wants to date, but maybe that guy doesn't have eyes for her. I can't imagine a guy not being interested in her. Unless the specific guy thinks she's too short. She's just enjoying life and when the strong connection happens, it'll happen. Healthy and normal. Yup. Minor note: We are now texting about exotic hybrid cats! My interest in her just skyrocketed. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 That's exactly what I'm sure it is. Just that with her personality men can't help but be interested in her. I can't imagine a guy not being interested in her. Unless the specific guy thinks she's too short. Yup. Minor note: We are now texting about exotic hybrid cats! My interest in her just skyrocketed. But her interest in you likely didn't. At all. So curb your enthusiasm, because it will lead to heartbreak if you don't. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 17, 2014 Share Posted November 17, 2014 I can't imagine a guy not being interested in her. Unless the specific guy thinks she's too short. . You consistently struggle to see past your own point of view. A guy who has stars in his eyes for someone else won't see her as you do. To another guy, she's just another girl.... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
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