Debster Posted March 14, 2005 Share Posted March 14, 2005 My husband and I are starting to try to conceive. I must admit, it did feel wierd after more than 16 years of being on the pill to all of a sudden being off of it. I wanted to know how long it took other people to conceive and what advice they have to help deal/cope with trying to get pregnant. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted March 14, 2005 Share Posted March 14, 2005 I got pregnant the first time we tried Which was funny kind of.. because I had told my now EXH that it could take some time to concieve and wow look at that! LOL With my Second child it took about 3 months... Best Advice I can give you is take good care of yourself to be healthy, monitor your cycle so you know when you're more likely to be fertile, and try not to get frustrated.. making the baby should be the fun part Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 14, 2005 Share Posted March 14, 2005 It's different for everyone. I get pregnant when I sneeze. I have gotten pregnant by accident once, and the first time, it was "intentional" (stopped using BC and just started having natural normal sex), but I got pregnant the first month we tried, so it was like -- HEY, we didn't even get to have fun trying!....but my older sister had to do fertility treatments and do like 4 rounds of clomid before she could conceive. The miscarriages were really devestating, though, and no one really prepares you for it - but I have heard that a little over 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, so just something to remember. Don't take it as a personal failure; I did, and it hurts still... Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 14, 2005 Share Posted March 14, 2005 Oh and start taking prenatal vitamins NOW. Link to post Share on other sites
pragmatic Posted March 14, 2005 Share Posted March 14, 2005 For our first, it was like Merin's, where one time and it took (b_o, we kept "trying" anyway, to make dimples, etc.) The second one took over a year; Mrs. pragmatic had been on Depo-provera and it just wouldn't wear off I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 I went off the pill after about 13 years and started trying right away. It didn't happen in the first six months. We sort of stopped trying for a few months though, trying to time it right. But we still kept our hopes up, and then before we actually started trying again, we were on vacation and I got pregnant. I figured out that I ovulated alot earlier than I thought. We timed it around days 12-16 and I now know that I ovulate between day 8 and 11. And, don't listen to the books that say doing it every day will result in low sperm count. Have sex like crazy for about a week straight and that will be more effective. This is how we got pregnant the second time. Link to post Share on other sites
MassiveAtom Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 first time both times. Won't happen again though! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted March 16, 2005 Share Posted March 16, 2005 A couple years!!! Um, weird avvie MA. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Debster Posted March 18, 2005 Author Share Posted March 18, 2005 I got my period and I got really sad about it. I know it can take up to a year to get pregnant, I just don't know if month after month I can hack getting my hopes up and then disappointed all the time. Was anyone else like this? What did you do to help you get through the waiting period. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 All you can do is relax and wait VERY patiently. How long have you been off the bcp? Link to post Share on other sites
SexiiPinkLadii Posted March 18, 2005 Share Posted March 18, 2005 We were having unprotected sex for 3 years. I got pregnant with twins but miscarried at 8 weeks. It was a "missed abortion" (miscarriage with no symptoms or bleeding). I got pregnant with my daughter only a month after my miscarriage. Now I'm pregnant again after one month of having unprotected sex. It truly varies with each person though. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 I figured out that I ovulated alot earlier than I thought. We timed it around days 12-16 and I now know that I ovulate between day 8 and 11 sounds like a great plan to me, learning the patterns of your body well enough to coincide sex with fertile times (or to delay pregnancy). Of course, screwing for a week straight sounds like a REALLY great plan, too look into natural family planning, which teaches you how to interpret the signs your body gives you throughout your cycles. I've been told by one of my coworkers that there's some kind of computer calendar you program with information so that you can predict when your fertile/infertile times are! best of luck to ya! Link to post Share on other sites
Bunni Posted March 19, 2005 Share Posted March 19, 2005 31 yrs and still counting. Want to make sure I am with the person I am going to stay with foreva before I do something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
4momica Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Happened 1st time with son #1. Second time around it took about 4 months. The 4th month we had a lot going on and had stopped trying so hard, and sure enough that's when it happened. I started having this feeling I was pregnant when I was in the Bahamas on vacation.... so no drinky's for me Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 It took me 4 months to get pregnant for the first time and once after that I got pregnant by accident. They say it's better that the woman is in such a position that the sperm goes down dragged by gravitation. You need to lie down on your back with your knees near your shoulders, your ass sticking up. After your partner comes, you should stay in that position for a while with him inside of you. Remain to lie down in bed when he gets off you. Don't go pee or take a shower right away. And don't wash the sperm, of course. You should know your ovulation days and don't miss the "fun" a few days before and after the day D. Your eating habits should be normal, in order that you don't ruin your hormone balance. (That doesn't mean you should eat as if you're nursing a baby, just don't start any starving diets right now). Furthermore, before getting pregnant your body needs to be prepared to grow a baby inside of you so exercise and clean your body from the toxines. But take it all as fun and relaxation. Don't worry and enjoy yourself. You'll get pregnant. There are also pills that help you conceive in case you're trying for longer than a year. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Bunni 31 yrs and still counting. Want to make sure I am with the person I am going to stay with foreva before I do something like that. Well I wanted to do that, but jeez I seem to just...get pregnant. And I don't believe in abortion, so.... If only all pregnancies were planned, the world would be a better place. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 DEBSTER - Have you read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" -- it is a great book, teaches you so much about your cycle, I actually learned how to predict when I ovulated, I was doing this as birth control with my exH and it worked perfectly for about a year, but people also use it to conceive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Debster Posted March 23, 2005 Author Share Posted March 23, 2005 Blind Otter, No I haven't read that book. Thanks, i'll try and find it. My husband is encouraging me to just relax and let things take its course, but i, of course, am so focused on it! Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Debster Blind Otter, No I haven't read that book. Thanks, i'll try and find it. My husband is encouraging me to just relax and let things take its course, but i, of course, am so focused on it! THere is even ovusoft, the software to predict ovulation, based on the BBT method (basal body temperature) method, also monitoring cervical mucous.... Link to post Share on other sites
jade_nc Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 you can start by taking your prenates and checking your basal body temperature. you take this temp every morning prior to getting out of bed. when you chart, you'll see when you're ovulating - and whether or not you're ovulating around the same time every month. you can also purchase over the counter ovulation kits. taking charge of your fertility is an excellent book. it will also tell you what changes to look for in discharge as well as self examination of your cervix. for me - the dr told me i would never conceive naturally..... with my first, it happened within 6 months with use of condom. my second happened in 3 months. my third happened in one month, i had been on depo and was told it would take a minimum of 6mths. Link to post Share on other sites
Bunni Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter Well I wanted to do that, but jeez I seem to just...get pregnant. And I don't believe in abortion, so.... If only all pregnancies were planned, the world would be a better place. True enough otter. I may have to just have a baby with anyone soon my eggs are drying up pretty darn fast. Already 31 and dont know if I am with the right person. Link to post Share on other sites
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