emy99 Posted November 12, 2014 Share Posted November 12, 2014 I think it's odd that she has now told her H the truth and now you can only see her for lunches and nothing else. What changed? Wasn't she in love with you and wanted the two of you to be together? This is the perfect time now that everything is on the table, right? Or is it? Her actions don't say that they are. Make her be honest with you and you can only do this by talking to her husand. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jbp005 Posted November 13, 2014 Author Share Posted November 13, 2014 I'm going to try and go NC today. I'm not going to try to reconcile my friendship as that would just lead me to eventually being around her again. As far as I know he believes this was an early EA, and might would be open to this one day hence why I can't try to work it out with him. I'm going to get everything out I've felt and though. Then tell her that I'd be with her if she was separated, moved out, and filed for divorce. I'm so unsure if I can actually go through with this, I know it's the right thing to do, I'm not a stupid person. I cried on and off most of yesterday at the thought of doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
FusionCutter Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Don't "try" to go NC. Do or Do Not. There is no try. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jbp005 Posted January 10, 2015 Author Share Posted January 10, 2015 UPDATE: So I went NC yesterday, after being put off and not talked to all week I decided I was tired of being an afterthought. I emailed her stating how I felt, and I'd talk to her after she was divorced. I feel like a weight has been lifted, but I know I am going to miss her. I contacted my friend (BH), who is still basically oblivious. I apologized for everything I did that crossed the line, and telling her things he had confided in me. I explained I could no longer be friends with him (he still wanted to be), and he said he understood. I haven't told him how far everything went, but I may eventually if I get over MW. I do think he deserves to know the truth. I sent the email yesterday evening, and just got off the call with him. This is going to be hard for me, I think she is the first woman I've ever truly loved. I plan on getting some form of counseling once my new insurance information comes in. So almost 2 months later I finally did it. She never responded to my email, I was hoping to get some closure but I guess in the end it doesn't matter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jbp005 Posted January 16, 2015 Author Share Posted January 16, 2015 I went to her work yesterday to give her the Christmas gifts I had bought, and a book I borrowed. She was not happy to see me. She quickly walked into her building. We texted and ended it better. So I feel like I made the wrong choice. I don't know what to do, I truly would like to be with her. I know it can't be while she is married though. I feel so lost now. Link to post Share on other sites
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